This was a great book for me, because I get very awkward when it comes to conversations that are out of my comfort zone. I start to sweat, my heart starts to beat at what feels like 90 mph, and I begin to feel nauseous. I tend to stay away from any difficult conversation as much as I possibly can. I even stay in relationships because I hate have that “we need to talk” break up conversation. It is funny because whenever I am in a difficult conversation I do not know how to stay still. I will fidget, I bounce and shake, and I tend to tell jokes at the most inappropriate times. For a while I thought that I was the only one who had this problem; but it turns out I am not alone everyone hates that conversations that make them uneasy hence “difficult …show more content…
Talking about feelings is something that I hate doing with a passion. When it comes to me and my feelings I tend to just vent and not hear what the other person has to say and I know that is a point that I must work on. I must learn how not to vent but describe what I am feeling. When dealing with the feelings conversation there are quite a few questions we ask ourselves. “Are my feelings valid? Should I acknowledge or deny them? Put them at the table or check them at the door? What about the other person’s feelings? What if they are angry or hurt?” (Stone, D., Patton, B., & Heen p. …show more content…
It gave me a whole new perspective on conflict and how to handle it in all different types of relationships. I found the sections about family and love relationships to be the most interesting because I can relate to those two sections because it gave me great insight to things that were happening in my life currently. For instance, I never knew that a child could have PTSD from witnessing domestic violence. I have never been in a domestic violence situation, but I am a big advocate of women and children. I know many people who have been victims to domestic violence. Reading this book was very helpful because the shows the elements of conflict and explains them. I learned the difference between productive and destructive conflicts. Destructive conflicts are those where the parties are unhappy with the outcomes and feel that they have lost. Destructive conflicts often escalate and destroy relationships. Productive conflicts leave the parties feeling satisfied. Productive conflicts involve creating a collaborative transformation of the elements of the conflict. I also learned about the different styles of conflict. The competitive style is aggressive and uncooperative, focused on winning. The collaborative style intermixes confidence in chasing your own goals with respect and concern for the other person’s goals. I learned that I am sometimes a Non-aggressive person due to the fact I usually try to avoid conflict. I tend to accommodate the
Although this book had no major affect on me, I learned how a boy can go through traumatic experiences and still have the will power to keep going on. That was the only thing that really affected me in the whole book.
... of the war. It is difficult to read about terrible things; as a society, we have a tendency to just ignore them. Even though the language of the book may not be that hard to understand, the subject and details make it pretty difficult to digest. This book had an huge impact on my perspective of war. It helped me to become aware that not all things are in black and white.
In the first chapter of her book, You Just Don't Understand, Men and Women in Conversation, Deborah Tannen quotes, "...studies have shown that married couples that live together spend less than half an hour a week talking to each other...". (24) This book is a wonderful tool for couples to use for help in understanding each other. The two things it stresses most is to listen, and to make yourself heard. This book opened my eyes to the relationship I am in now, with a wonderful person, for about four years. It made me realize that most of our little squabble-like fights could have been avoided, if one or the other of us could sit down and shut up for a minute to listen. Most of our fights had erupted from a misunderstanding or miscommunication on either of our parts, and we're only dating! I can only imagine the conflict two partners would have in a marriage with children. This book outlined a lot of couples' problems, where they may have started, and how to circumvent them. After starting to read this book, I realized to do a book report on the entire book would be very difficult, so I chose situations that most related to me to report on.
... It taught me about the manner in which they acted. and also showed me how pride and being prejudiced can affect ones judgement in life, whether it be good or bad. I thoroughly enjoyed the novel and also enjoyed the twists of how hate turned into love. The characters are portrayed in such a sense that you actually feel as if you are in the novel which makes you think what decisions you would of made.
Managing conflict is a difficult task that we all face, but becoming aware of your own characteristic style could help determine why conflicts result exactly the way they do. It helps determine what is a healthy outcome. Each circumstance is different.
Before understanding how to deal with conflict, one must understand what conflict is. Conflict can be defined as, “any situation in which incompatible goals, cognitions, or emotions within or between individuals or groups lead to opposition or antagonistic interaction” (Learning Team Toolkit, 2004, pp 242-243). Does the idea of conflict always have to carry a negative connotation? The growth and development of society would be a great deal slower if people never challenged each other’s ideas. The Learning Team Toolkit discusses three different views of conflict: traditiona...
It made me realize that each one comes with a different background and that it is important to listen to what they have to say. Overall the book is great and mostly because it is nonfiction. It is important to keep in mind that our goal with juveniles is to change their path in a positive way.
The play Freak is one that gave me much dissonance in its content and meaning at first. However, after analyzing the play more in depth, the answer to the question of whether this piece was performance art or comedy became clear. I believe that this play is a performance art piece rather than a stand-up comedy piece because of its artistic value. Freak demonstrates artistic value through the choice of scenes portrayed and the intensity of the subject matter. There are many instances in which the play proves itself to be a performance art piece.
I would recommend this book to everyone because it is interesting and it made me reflect about whom I am, and what I am doing with my life. It made me think about all the risk that I did not take because I was afraid of what others think. It made me realize that sometimes I need to be selfish with what I want. It gave me the pleasured to rethink about all the things that I did not say because I thought that it did not worth it. Sometimes it is difficult to understand all those things without being close to death. This book teaches me how can I be happy and be crazy because sometimes what we really thing is insane could be the most normal thing for others. It thought me to not be like everyone else if not to be different because that is only thing that could make us happy.
Emotions play a significant part in our daily lives, especially to our overall wellbeing whenever we share these experiences with other people. The ability to express and interpret emotions is an important skill that everyone can improve on that would greatly benefit their interpersonal communication. Our expressions accompany our emotions; they serve as windows that allow other people to know what we are feeling inside. There are several factors that influence how we communicate our feelings.
Introduction In this assignment I will be talking about how I address conflict in my life whether it be in class or on the streets. As we know conflict is inevitable to face we can expect more conflict as we become closer to people and more reliant to those who deal with people within positions like colleagues, clients and personal relationships. My attitude towards conflict in the beginning of the semester was pretty average I would say in regards to being a second year student in police foundations. I remember thinking in the beginning of the semester that conflict was just going to be about how people address different conflicts and how it was just between one person and another.
I have to remind myself that aggressive behavior is not always based on winning. While I may view this as doing so in my best interest, I have to remember others rights, needs, feelings, and desires of those around me. When I take the aggressive behavior approach, I may end up having to get what I get.
This elasticity in your approach to choosing which conflict style is best for the current situation is a key to managing conflict. No one style of conflict resolution will work all the time when addressing issues. You must remain flexible to other people’s wants, needs, direction, criticism, schedules, moods, temperament, and a myriad of other things in life. If there is one thing in life that will never change it is the fact that everything is going to change! There is nothing you can do to stop it, so the quicker you learn how to adapt to the changes the better off you will be. The ability to change your approach to dealing with conflict better prepares you to face the interpersonal challenges that will eventually come your way. I believe it is important to also remember that you cannot win every battle with every person you encounter. Knowing that you cannot fix or solve every problem with everyone is very helpful in reducing stress and managing difficult situations with others. My father dislikes when I use this cliché but sometimes, it is what it
Conflict is unavoidable and connected to a world where different ideas and opinions are challenged. Negative conflict occurs when voices are not expressed appropriately, discussions are not in control or different parties reject moving forward with a solution. There is difficulty resolving disagreements because there are multiple reactions to disputes. However, a positive conflict supports debates without a destructive outcome. They improve communication, introduce principles that are important to others, and reduce chaos. On the other hand, the approach that a person uses to address conflict dictates the outcome they receive. Methods for resolving conflict include avoiding the problem, smoothing out a situation, competing against the ideas
Talking about different conflict management styles I refer to the Conflict Mode Instrument, which is the result of widely accepted research presented by Thomas and Kilmann (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974). Thomas and Kilmann identified a conflict-handling grid composed of five conflict management styles based on two dimensions: assertiveness and cooperativeness. Assertiveness is the motivation of an individual to achieve his/her own goals, objectives, and outcomes, while cooperativeness assesses the willingness to allow or help the other party to achieve its goals or outcomes (Borisoff & Victor, 1998). Now I would like to look at different conflict management styles favored by...