Big Bad Bully Today client number 9302015 came into the Salinas County Psychology Center. His name was Joe Martin also known as Curley. Joe is 40 years old and married. He is also financially stable. His social and family history doesn't have a lot of background because he refused to tell me lots about it. Since he is mean and angry towards others he said that he doesn't have much of a family except for his dad who really isn't around him very much. He has a wife, but he doesn't really care for her. He said he tells her to stay in the house and not to interact with others. When he was questioned why, he remained silent. His background on his medical and mental health history has more information when we discussed this topic. He …show more content…
said he has been prescribed to an anger management medication and was admitted to a mental hospital for 3 weeks. He said he has visions of fighting people and dreams of beating them up. I asked him if he felt that the medication was working and he said, ¨Absolutely, I don't even know why they put me on this medication, I'm perfectly fine, I don't need help!¨. He just kept making excuses of why he shouldn't be on the medication. I stopped him and we discussed his educational and work history. He said that he doesn't have much educational background and that he dropped out of high school. He said he has no desire to go back and finish. His work history includes, working for his dad and bossing people around. His typical daily activities contains, walking around making sure the working class people are working and yelling and beating others up. I asked him if there was anything else he would like to talk to me about and he said, "No I don't like this place." This client, Joe Martin, appears to have the following personality characteristics, demanding and angry. These traits are most likely caused by small man syndrome and being made fun of. The overall effects of this condition are intentional fights and injuries to others. This client, Joe Martin has been diagnosed with being demanding and angry through his dialogue and actions. One way Joe demonstrates being demanding is when he tells Lennie to listen to him. For example,in the novel Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck, Joe states, "Well, nex' time you answer when you're spoken to."This demonstrates him being demanding because he shows through indirect characterization that he is a tough stern guy and that people better listen to him. When he speaks, he speaks with power in his voice, projecting throughout the whole bunkhouse so everyone can hear him. Another way he shows being demanding is when he storms into the bunkhouse asking where his wife is. " You seen a girl around here? " he demanded angrily. (Steinbeck 37) This shows him being demanding because he is speaking in an angry tone and he demanded to know if anyone had seen his wife. He wants to know where she is at all times because he doesn't want her flirting or interacting with other guys. Even though Joe doesn't seem to care that much about his wife he does want to keep her safe and demands she stays away from others. According to the article “Why do People Bully?” published by Bullying Statistics,"Children who experience social rejection themselves are more likely to pass it on to others. This regards Joe because he is socially unaccepted for being little and he bullies big guys to feel more powerful. Joe wants to beat others up that are bigger than him because he wants to have power over them and be seen as a higher, more king like figure. Joe has also been diagnosed with anger management issues. One way he shows this is when he gave a dirty look at George when he [George] said he hadn't seen his wife. For example, "Curley scowled at him, and turning, hurried out the door." (Steinbeck 37) This shows him being angry because he was frustrated that he couldn't find his wife and took it out on other people. Joe is very protective of his wife because she always wants attention for others and he has to keep her away from others so that she doesn't flirt with them. According to the article “Bully, Bullied, Bystander...and Beyond by Barbara Coloroso, "Whatever the choice, there is a price to pay." (Coloroso) This pertains to Joe because when he Bullies others such as George and Lennie he may feel powerful in that moment, but in return he will have a price to pay when revenge gets him. Just because he feels superior then, doesn't mean it won't come back to bite him later on. In addition, it is also stated in” Why Do People Bully?” that, " In a culture that is fascinated with winning, power, and violence, some experts suggest that is unrealistic to expect that people will not be influenced to seek power through violence in their own lives." Joe seeks power through violence and anger because he is tired of being made fun of for being small and he wants to feel big and strong. Joe wants to be seen as a compelling person and wants to be seen as a figure of authority and power. These examples show that Joe's diagnosis of being demanding and angry is accurate. Joe has been diagnosed with anger management and being too aggressive.
The likely causes of this condition are from family issues, having or wanting power and social issues. An example of Joe’s family issues is his lack of family comfort and socialization. Joe is most likely angry all the time because he doesn't have much of a family to talk to and be around. In addition, it is also stated in “Why Do People Bully?” that, “Families that are not warm and loving and in which feelings are not shared are more likely to have children who bully.” Since Joe doesn't have much of a family to share his thoughts and feelings with, he bullies people to get rid of the pain he feels. Joe feels all this pain inside and has no one to talk to, so instead of relaxing, all the anger builds up and he explodes. An example of him wanting power is when he says, “I’m goin’, I’m gonna shoot the guts outta that big bastard myself, even if I only got one hand.”( Steinbeck 98) This determines Joe’s want for power because George suggested that he stayed with his wife but instead he decides to leave her. He doesn't care about his wife he just cares about being the best, most powerful person in the world. He doesn't feel any sympathy for what just happened to his wife, he just wants to kill Lennie. An example of social issues is Joe wants to be the best person and wants to rule over everyone and because of this people don't like to talk to him because he is angry and stuck-up. For instance, “Bullying often appears to come with no negative consequences for the culprits.”(Coloroso) This shows that since no one talks to Joe, when he bullies people he doesn't get punished for it, people just let it go. Joe feels as if he can get away with anything because people are scared of him. All in all the causes of Joe’s diagnosis of Anger Management Syndrom are family issues, wanting power, and social
issues. As stated before, Joe has been diagnosed with being demanding and angry. The effects of this on others is rather shocking. Joe has been accused of fighting people and yelling. One example of Joe yelling and fighting is from a bystander by the name of Candy Johnson. He has confessed to me that, ¨Don't tell Curley I said none of this. He´d slough me. He just dont give a damn. Won't ever get canned´ cause his old man´s the boss.” (Steinbeck 27) This shows that if anyone had snitched on Candy for talking bad about Joe that he would beat him up. Joe is aggressive towards others and Candy knows that so he doesn't want anyone to find out about him talking bad about Joe in fear that he will beat him up. Candy doesn't want to get on Joe’s bad side because he knows the consequences that could follow. Joe is known for fighting people and wanting to get revenge. In addition it is also stated in the article “Why Do People Bully?” that, ¨Jealousy or envy and a lack of personal and social skills to deal with such feelings can also be reasons why people bully.¨ This shows why Joe yells at people and gets angry. Joe feels insecure about being small and he feels overpowered and pressured into wanting to show that he is bigger and better than everyone else because he is smaller than others. He wants to show off for his wife that he is big and strong and powerful. An example of Joe fighting is from a witness by the name of George Milton. George was watching as Joe and Lennie were fighting. George stated,¨Curley slashed at his eyes. The big face was covered with blood.” ( Steinbeck 63) This shows that Joe was fighting with Lennie all because Lennie laughed. This proves that Joe is a very violent person and doesn't know how to control his anger. Joe just lets his anger get to the point where he takes it out on others for something minor that the person did or didn’t do. Another example of Joe yelling is from a fellow bystander, Candy Johnson. Candy says that Lennie got on Joe’s nerves and he just blew up. “Then Curley’s rage exploded. ‘Come on, ya big bastard. No big son-of-a-bitch is gonna laugh at me. I’ll show ya who’s yella.’”(Steinbeck 62) This context allows us to infer that Joe was screaming on top of his lungs because of the phrase, rage exploded. From this phrase we can determine that Joe was fed up with Lennie and just belched out at Lennie in a very infuriated tone of voice. Overall, the effects of Joe’s condition of Anger Management Syndrome causes him to leach out at people and want to fight them. Overall, Joe has been diagnosed with Anger Management. Joe’s needs are listed under Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. His Biological and Physiological needs are met because he has a nice house to live in and he is provided with food and water. His safety needs are not yet met because he needs to be protected from getting into fights with others. He needs limits set on him because he is unpredictable as to when he will blow up. As for his social needs, he needs to be loved. His wife needs to show him affection and he needs to show some back. Without love, he can't meet the requirements needed for his social needs. His esteem needs are not met either. He needs to respect others and get respect from others in return. Without respect he can't expect to be liked as a person or treated nicely. Self-actualization needs are nearly impossible to meet. In joe’s condition they are mostly impossible because he needs to reach his social needs before he can reach his personal potential. Some changes that Joe should consider making is to find new friends to socialize with and share thoughts with. Another suggestion I have is for him to show affection to his wife so she feels loved and will return the affection to him. With these changes he will have the requirements to help him become self-actualized. Overall the only medication Joe needs is socialization, love and to be accepted by others.
I would follow what Principal Milhoviak did, which is contact my discipline team and get their points of view. Prior to that, I would need to understand the main problem. It sounded like he did that by talking with the sister and getting her story. This is the first step, understanding the situation. The next step is formulating a solution on how to handle the situation. This is where getting other people involved was a great idea. Principals know they cannot do it alone so they need to have a team, especially in these types of situations. The problem was that team offered many suggestions. As a principal I would listen to all of them and also refer to the school handbook. In this case, since the student is not in his fourth period, I would call for the brother and sister back to the office until parents are reached. As a principal the priority is finding the student who made the threat and keeping the victims safe until parents are reached and the team decides what to do next.
During a scene, Kenny is reaching out to his brother is when mysteriously, Larry the bully “has stolen Kenny’s gloves and Byron attacks the boy. “Right away you begin to feel sorry for Larry Dunn because he’s this poor kid who’s got no more than a windbreaker in the winter, and his tennis shoes have cardboard in them” (Curtis and Morgan 203). Once Byron attains the gloves he urges on for Kenny to hit Larry, yet Kenny is not up to violence. Kenny regrets telling his brother to help him because he takes it a step further fighting the less fortunate kid, Larry Dunn. Fighting at school is not something to be proud of, yet Byron did not have any remorse. “African-American boys are more likely to be punished for misbehavior at school (Gregory,
As a bully there are a lot of things that are done out of anger or any emotions. As the story progressed more and more ways of bullying popped up mainly in the characters who were the bad
Bully (2001) is a movie based on a true story about a group of rebellious, yet naïve teens who conspire to exact ultimate revenge on a mutual friend. In a twist, unlike most, this movie highlights not only extent of bullying amongst peers, but details the ultimate revenge that would irrevocably change the lives of the entire group. The movie takes place in South Florida where Marty, a high school dropout, and Bobby are “alleged” best friends. As they set out to meet up with mutual friends Ali and Lisa for a double date the bully is immediately apparent as Bobby begins to verbally torment Marty, which quickly turns physical as he repeatedly punches Marty while he is driving for accidently swerving. Although, Marty stops the car and retaliates,
Peter Dickinson, a 28-year-old Caucasian male was referred to an outpatient mental health clinic by his current girlfriend of one year, Ashley. Ashley reported that about six months ago, she noticed changes in Peter’s behaviors after the announcement of his parents’ divorce proceedings. Peter is a motivated hard worker who devotes himself to his career and is currently working as a defense attorney at a small firm. However, he described himself as “obsessive” about his work in which he was afraid to make errors and would spend a lot of time worrying about failing the assignment rather than completing it. Since he spends a lot of time worrying about his work, he had little leisure time for friends and romantic relationships. Peter has also always felt anxious and is a “worrier”. After Peter’s parents’ divorce proceedings began, Peter had troubl...
My client which I will refer to as Martin, is a 12 year old Hispanic male that was referred by his mother for have problems controlling his anger, poor self-esteem, and poor social skills. The client when I did his assessment was very timid and shy with myself. The answers I was getting from him were very short and straight to the point. I had little knowledge of this age group but I did know a little about him before he came in from the conversation I had with his mother. Growing up his biological father verbally, mentally, and physically abused him. His step-father after his mother remarried, was also abusive during that married. Now the most current step-father is the opposite of them, that he is loving and caring towards Martin. Martin all he has known growing up is getting hit for anything he did that was
As a young man growing up, I have had my share of hardships and difficulties with bullies and being bullied. My personal experiences of bulling started early in middle school and continued throughout junior high and high school. Given a small frame and statue, classmates would often create pranks targeting me. The pranks didn’t the start out as f bulling; name calling started early on my school career. Names such as four eyes, studderbox, nerd, mute, Steve Urkel, were just some of the many names I endured while in school. Entering high school as a freshmen was one of the most enjoyable and traumatic times as a young man. Going into high school with a new attitude, I thought the bulling was over. By the second week of school, I found myself being bullied by another classmate. This classmate used intimidation and threats to do physical harm if I ever told anyone. The bulling started becoming more public by being ridiculed by others. My self esteem became low and I developed a shell of myself. I would beat myself up after being bullied, hitting walls and door as if it was the bully. One day a coach came to ask me if I would be interested in seeing what high school wrestling consisted of. I instantly fell in love with wrestling but had underlined motives of learning moves to use on others such as my bullies.
Have you ever been teased? Maybe even pushed around like a rag doll? Bullying is a nationwide problem. It affects people of all ages. About 90% of 4th through 8th graders have experienced bullying in the U.S.. Bullying has caused many issues, such as depression, anxiety, or even suicide. Nevertheless, even in bullying you have players, or roles you could say. Dealing with bullying is a very hard thing to do, but with each role in a bullying situation, there are dragons to slay. In every bullying situation you have three players; the bully, the victim, and the bystander.
Ethically and therapeutically building a relationship with Joe is important. All consents should be explained prior to signing, confidentiality should be addressed, and a warm, empathetic, and compassionate environment should be provided. All records are to be kept in an orderly fashion and moral and ethical values should be followed (American Psychological Association (APA), 2010). This is essential to initiating treatment with any client, especially one that has major depression with suicidal ideations; moreover, this relationship should be nourished with trust, honesty, as well as maintains the ethical and moral requirements of the American Psychological Association. This professionalism and trust will be vital to a working relationship with honesty from Joe, as well as his willingness to be honest, and open himself up to another individual, especially a
Bullying has been around for decades and yet it is still a reoccurring problem, and it is only getting worse. The National Center for Educational Statistics, in 2009, said nearly 1 in 3 students between the ages of 12 and 18 reported being bullied in school. Eight years earlier, only 14 percent of that population said they had experienced bullying(Ollove,2014). There are two types of bullying the direct form and indirect form, in the direct form the victim receives physical harm example kicking pushing shoving. In the indirect form the victim receives emotional or mental harm by name-calling, rejection, gossip, threats, or insults(Green,2007). It doesn’t matter which way the victim was bullied it still causes
(Topic Sentence) Bullies harass other students for many purposes, but none of these reasons are justified. (Surprising Statement) Each year in the U.S., 3.2 million students are tormented, with 160,000 of them skipping school due to it. Clearly, our school districts are not doing a substantial job of keeping students safe to allow them to earn the education they deserve. (Background Information) For example, Jamie Nabozny was harassed for his sexual orientation. Jamie was beaten to the point where he was forced to go to the hospital, after which the tormentor said (CRAFT)“If you tell anyone, I’ll kill you.” He ran away multiple times to avoid going to school, and even attempted to commit suicide. (Thesis Statement) In the Bullied documentary, it tells a story showing why no student deserves to be bullied for any reason and that the school district must protect their students.
...lves with the problems and never seek others for help. They are unsure with what they are doing and become unconfident with themselves. According to these issues, bully is factor that affects a whole humanity; it leads normally people become self-aware, forces to commit self-destruction, and Precarious with them.
Bullying comes in many different forms, from physical to verbal abuse. Bullying is real and it has been a problem for many years, and many people of all ages has been affected. My experience with bullying started years ago in school when people started hating me because they thought I was gay. Being bullied taught me that I wasn 't the problem, but those who had bullied me over and over. My experience with bullying at such an early age has helped me overcome all the struggles I have been through, not only with my sexuality, but also with myself because it made me stronger as a person.
Bullying does not have a standard definition. Bullying can be anything from calling someone else names, beating them up just for the fun of it, to texting or messaging them on the internet or any mobile device. Any person can be the victim of bullying, not just children. Bullying causes many issues, physically, emotionally, and mentally, not only for the victim, but for their entire families as well. Bullies have many different reasons as to why they start bullying someone else. The actions done to the victim leaves them with only a few options on how to stop being bullied. How they handle it is always different.
It only takes one bad experience to change your opinion on something. Imagine if you went through this same bad experience for months, or better yet years. Your whole personality, how you view yourself, and others changes drastically. This is what it feels like to be bullied. Bullying is a serious issue in America, especially among children and young adults. From kindergarten all the way up until my sophomore year of high school, I was a victim of bullying. Being bullied changed how I viewed myself and others, what my values and morals were, and it shaped me into the person I am today.