When growing up, a child’s relationship with their mother is a major part of development. Sometimes, that bondage between our parents can start to split based on different opinions and perspectives. In Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom, she describes her relationship with her daughter as a calm and loving conversation, while in Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, she describes her relationship with her mother as bitter and hostile.
In Amy Chua’s memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom, she talks about her conversation that she had with her daughter Lulu. The tone of the conservation is in a jokingly, annoyed, frustrating, and caring moment. In the memoir, Lulu is learning to play the violin and her instructor, Mr. Shugart, explains to her that
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she needed to feel “floppy and relaxed, and not a care in the world” (Chua 48). Ironically, Amy reinforces Mr. Shugart’s points by yelling and shouting at her daughter, making it even harder to relax. Soon, Lulu tells her mother to “turn off her brain” so that she can try to focus better on her skills (Chua 48). Her mother replies with “I'm not thinking anything” (Chua 48), but instead she is thinking of all of Lulu’s faults and errors. In short terms, Lulu is annoyed at her mother Amy because she keeps irritating her to play the violin correctly and therefore tells Amy, “I'm not going to play anymore unless you turn off your brain” (Chua 48). Amy is irritated at Lulu because she keeps seeing all of Lulu’s faults, “Actually, I’d been thinking that Lulu’s elbow was too high, that her dynamics were all wrong, and that she need to shape her phrases better” (Chua 48). Amy is annoyed at her daughter because she cares about her progress and succession as a violinist. Although Amy’s tone seems to be of frustration and annoyance, she really implements tones of love, tenderness, and affection. In Amy Tan’s excerpt from “Jing-Mei-Woo”, from her novel, The Joy Luck Club, she talks about her relations with her mother from her perspective as a child.
The tone of Amy’s conversation with her mother is bitter, intense, and full of fear. At the beginning of the excerpt, Any is dragged from watching T.V. from her mother and lifted her up on a bench, then proceeds to explain, “‘You want me to be something that i'm not!” I sobbed. “You only want me to be something that i'm not”’ (Tan 141). Her mother, on the other hand, has already written her daughter's future plans before she was even born. Her mother stated that “Only one kind of daughter live in this house. Obedient daughter” (Tan 141). In response, her daughter replies with statements such as “I wish i weren’t your daughter”, and “I wish you weren’t my mother” (Tan 142). As she says these statements, she's letting her anger and emotions take over and pretty soon, she thinks of a vital, dark memory to get back at her mother, “I wish I’d never been born! I wish i were dead, like them” (Tan 142). With that final response, her mother went silent, face completely blank, and walked out if the room stunned. The tone Amy displays to her mother is full of fear, intensity, and hatred. All three tone styles can be seen in the rising actions of Amy towards her
mother. The relationship between a mother and child is vital for a good output. In Amy Chua’s memoir, it describes the tones as joking, caring, and affection. Although in Amy Tan’s novel, her mother displays the tones as bitter, intense, and dark. These two excerpts contrast from each other by the style of conversation and tone quality between both stories.
Oh, Mom. Oh, Honey. : Why do you have to say that? (2006) Is an essay written by Deborah Tannen (b. 1945). Deborah Tannen is a professor in the linguistic department at Georgetown University. (Linguistic is the study the way people talk to each other and how it affects relationship). In “ Oh, Mom. Oh, Honey. : Why do you have to say that?” Deborah uses her profession along with her own personal experience and five years of research to describe how a mother-daughter relationship is much different than any other. Deborah describes that relationship as having a “special intensity”. The relationship a mother has with their daughter is one of the most complex and misunderstood relationships. However, Deborah exceptional essay defines the conflicts that; criticism, remarks and the closeness between mother and daughter can bring.
After a basketball game, four kids, Andrew Jackson, Tyrone Mills, Robert Washington and B.J. Carson, celebrate a win by going out drinking and driving. Andrew lost control of his car and crashed into a retaining wall on I-75. Andy, Tyrone, and B.J. escaped from the four-door Chevy right after the accident. Teen basketball star and Hazelwood high team captain was sitting in the passenger's side with his feet on the dashboard. When the crash happened, his feet went through the windshield and he was unable to escape. The gas tank then exploded and burned Robbie to death while the three unharmed kids tried to save him.
The theme of, mother daughter relationships can be hard but are always worth it in the end, is portrayed by Amy Tan in this novel. This theme is universal, still relevant today, and will be relevant for forever. Relationships are really important, especially with your mom. “ A mother is best. A mother knows what is inside you”
Mothers always want the best for their daughters, it’s a given feeling for a mother. Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom is written in her perspective as the mother. In The Joy Luck Club, Amy tan writes the novel through her eyes as the daughter of the relationship. Both passages portray the harsh emotions between the mother and her daughter. These emotions are caused by the mother pressuring her daughter to achieve expectations. The two excerpts have similar stressful tones but Amy Tan’s novel is much more intense and displays a uglier relationship.
No matter what actions or words a mother chooses, to a child his or her mother is on the highest pedestal. A mother is very important to a child because of the nourishing and love the child receives from his or her mother but not every child experiences the mother’s love or even having a mother. Bragg’s mother was something out of the ordinary because of all that she did for her children growing up, but no one is perfect in this world. Bragg’s mother’s flaw was always taking back her drunken husband and thinking that he could have changed since the last time he...
The essay "A New Perspective" by Janice E. Fein and the short story "All the Years of Her Life" by Morley Callaghan have some similarities and differences with mother and child relationships. Both authors show a shift of attitude in the end of the written pieces.
The children also argue with their mother often. The children think that their mother, with no doubt, will be perfect. They idealize their mothers as angel who will save them from all their problems, which the mothers actually never do. The children get angry at their false hopes and realize that their mothers aren’t going to...
Parent/Child relationships are very hard to establish among individuals. This particular relationship is very important for the child from birth because it helps the child to be able to understand moral and values of life that should be taught by the parent(s). In the short story “Teenage Wasteland”, Daisy (mother) fails to provide the proper love and care that should be given to her children. Daisy is an unfit parent that allows herself to manipulated by lacking self confidence, communication, and patience.
Most importantly, the mother offers advice that only a mother should. Although she is being informative and authoritative, the mother's tone is often condescending. In particul...
Our mothers have played very valuable roles in making us who we are and what we have become of ourselves. They have been the shoulder we can lean on when there is no one else to turn to. They have been the ones we can count on when there is no one else. They have been the ones who love us for who we are and forgive us when no one else wouldn’t. In Amy Tan’s “Two Kinds,” the character Jing-mei experiences being raised by a mother who has overwhelming expectations for her daughter, which causes Jing-mei to struggle with who she wants to be.
In her short story "Two Kinds," Amy Tan utilizes the daughter's point of view to share a mother's attempts to control her daughter's hopes and dreams, providing a further understanding of how their relationship sours. The daughter has grown into a young woman and is telling the story of her coming of age in a family that had emigrated from China. In particular, she tells that her mother's attempted parental guidance was dominated by foolish hopes and dreams. This double perspective allows both the naivety of a young girl trying to identify herself and the hindsight and judgment of a mature woman.
For many of us growing up, our mothers have been a part of who we are. They have been there when our world was falling apart, when we fell ill to the flu, and most importantly, the one to love us when we needed it the most. In “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan, it begins with a brief introduction to one mother’s interpretation of the American Dream. Losing her family in China, she now hopes to recapture part of her loss through her daughter. However, the young girl, Ni Kan, mimics her mother’s dreams and ultimately rebels against them.
Some people say that the love between a mother and her daughter is forever; but what about the understanding? In the case of Waverly Jong and her mother in the story “Rules of the Game,” by Amy Tan, there is much miscommunication and misunderstanding. The story is set in mid-1950’s Chinatown and as the story opens, it is Christmas time. “Rules of the Game” is the telling of how a little girl learns to be more independent but falls into conflict with her mother along the way and becomes a type of trophy. Amy Tan uses elements such as character, symbolism, and setting to portray the themes of struggle between two cultures and independence perfectly in “Rules of the Game.”
Exotic animals are cute and playful when born, and even when they grow up. Though, animal instincts are animal instincts, and wild animals are never completely predictable. Given these facts I do not believe exotic animals should be kept as pets. Wild animals were born to be kept in the wild. To keep them in a backyard or cage is cruel.
The rifts between mothers and daughters continue to separate them, but as the daughters get older they become more tolerant of their mothers. They learn they do not know everything about their mothers, and the courage their mothers showed during their lives is astounding. As they get older they learn they do not know everything, and that their mothers can still teach them much about life. They grow closer to their mothers and learn to be proud of their heritage and their culture. They acquire the wisdom of understanding, and that is the finest feeling to have in the world.