Discussion #3 In today’s discussion, my group and I discussed the different ways on which a parent can prepare their children for their adolescent years. During this discussion, we also talked about which methods we would use in our own future children in order to help them have a more successful adolescent years. The first subject we discussed was autonomy. There are three types of autonomy; emotional autonomy, behavioral autonomy and cognitive autonomy. These three types focuses on the development of an adolescents in different components. Emotional autonomy involves gaining independence in relationships with other people, including the parents as well. My group and I agreed that we will discuss the four characteristics of emotional autonomy, …show more content…
which are de-idealization, which is when adolescents realize that their parents are not perfect, the extent on which adolescent depend on themselves, the extent on which adolescent feel individuated and how adolescent see parents. One very important factor of this type of autonomy is individuation and emotional closeness. My group and I discussed that this in order to prepare their children for the adolescent years is to encourage individuation and emotional closeness. Authoritative parenting strongly encourage very important part of emotional autonomy. Individuation develops a sense of identity and separation from parents. This helps the future adolescent to gain a sense of how they see and feel about themselves. We also discussed the second type of autonomy, which is behavioral autonomy.
This type of autonomy focuses on making independent decisions and following through with it without the influence of others. Research shows that with age adolescents will consider both the risk and the benefits with every time they make an important decision. One of the last topics my group and I discussed is cognitive autonomy. This last type of autonomy focuses on the development of an adolescent’s independent beliefs and values. It is important for parents to understand that the development of the growth of cognitive autonomy also depends on both emotional and behavioral autonomy. Apart from that, parents also need to keep in mind that in this stage, adolescents will begin to try to lie to their parents about breaking the rules if they do not agree with it. My group and I agreed that this is why it is important to make sure that both the parents and the adolescent come to an agreement when it comes to rules, this is also an authoritative type of patenting. Authoritarian parenting, adolescents do not have a choice into what goes. We agreed that we would discourage the parents to use this method because the adolescent will rebel against their parents and lie to them in order to gain their independence. The last important topic that we all agreed on was how parents have to mold themselves into the person they want their child to become. We would also tell parents to avoid the indulgent and
indifferent parenting style. In this type of parenting, adolescent will have a difficult time complying with rules and will depend on their friends for dilemmas. During this discussion, my group and I agreed on all the points we talked about. We all came to the conclusion that the best type of parenting is Authoritative parenting since this focuses on the healthy growth and development in all three stages of autonomy. We also agreed that it is very important implement discussion in the relationship in order to make sure that both parties feel comfortable with the rules set by the parents. We also agreed that one of the most important part of this is to be able to act the same way you want your child to act in adolescence.
Parental involvement is a positive factor in a teens life; however, too much involvement can be restrictive to the teenagers right to choose. When parents take away the right to choose, teenagers tend to “question the parents’ beliefs” as it helps them “develop a sense of identity.” (Dobbs) Juliet dismissed the idea of marrying Paris because her parents were telling her what to be interested in making her venture off to the complete opposite of what they wanted for her.
From the perspective I have at this stage in my journey in the early childhood education field, I would like to share what I have come to value and believe in regards to early learning and care by looking at my philosophy statement. To begin we will look at the statement and highlight three key features and find out why they are important to me, then we will see what they will look like in my practice, and lastly we will examine these ideas closely by looking at where they originated. By taking an in-depth look at my philosophy statement we will better understand the motivation behind my practice which I hope to continue to refine and refresh as I gain more knowledge and experience.
Research suggests parenting styles and the quality of a parent and adolescent relationship may have a impact on the psychosocial development among adolescents. Psychosocial development can be referred to as how an individual’s emotions, mind, and maturity level can develop throughout life (CITE). Erik Erickson’s psychosocial theory describes adolescence development through a series of eight stages based on the impact of social experience. Erickson’s theory also involves each stage building upon one another based on the completion of previous stages. Other factors involving the psychosocial development of adolescents include varying parenting dimensions that could affect these developmental outcomes such as: demandingness (control) versus responsiveness (acceptance) and structure versus non-structure. Parenting styles and the role of parenting are all aspects in helping achieve optimal psychosocial development. The purpose of this paper is to examine how parenting styles influence psychosocial behavior in adolescents.
La Guardia (2009) found “autonomy literally means “self-rule” and refers to actions that are self-initiated and regulated” (p. 92). Autonomy in the workplace provides a greater sense of satisfaction coupled with greater responsibility. Not all employees want to take on the added responsibility for the benefit of freedom. The goal of autonomy is a dream of all children under eighteen years of age, which do not want a boss controlling their lives any longer. Autonomy is an ongoing need in the workplace and in life.
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Autonomy versus Doubt- Second Stage (One Year- Three Years). Erikson’s second stage of life takes place from one year to three years with the following crisis: autonomy versus doubt. The important event at this stage is toilet training with the basic virtue of will (Erikson, 1997). Due to biological maturation in this stage, children can now stand up on their own two feet, begin to explore the world, and repeatedly regurgitate the following words: me, mine, no, and are unable to say yes (Erikson, 1997). These contradictory impulses enabled them to develop a sense of autonomy. For example, children are now able to stand up on their individual two feet to explore the world on their own (Erikson, 1997, p. 47). Mastery of self-control is extremely
Adolescent in life is an important part in shaping one’s future. One’s future also depends on his or her adolescent life. Their every action taken in adolescent and those influencing them will shape their personality and their way of thinking in the future. Thus, as parents, being a guardian of a minor who is in the stage of adolescent needs to pay extra attention in influencing and teaching their ‘children’ going on to the right path.
Successful resolution of this psychosocial stage of development is imperative in order to acquire an enduring incorporated sense of self and to progress to the next stage of development. Society and one’s culture also contributes enormously to the commitment or prevention of dealing with the challenges faced during adolescence. Regardless of what challenges are faced during this stage of development, overcoming it is a fundamental necessity in order to progress into a strong-willed and stable individual in
Are you a parent with an older teenager or a parent with an adult child? Raising resilient, independent adults started when they were kids. As a school counselor, I've seen parents who are raising their children in an authoritarian and punitive manner with harsh consequences for mistakes. I've seen parents with rules that are restrictive and unbending. When I see this, I become very concerned - not only for the child and their own growth process - but for the future relationship between parent and the adult child.
When people hear the term Child Development they automatically think of how the baby is forming inside of the mother. Child Development means so much more than that, it is also the term used to describe how children learn and grow as they age into adults. Another term that is used for child development is developmental psychology (enter in-text citation). The actual definition of child development is the biological, physical, and emotional changes that occur from birth until the end of adolescence. There are many different stages of development, it starts in the womb.
The first thing that I noticed was there are some individuals that exhibit extreme traits of independence and develop some type of antisocial behaviors. I remember in high school there was times that I preferred to work by myself, instead of working in a group. There were times it seemed that I appeared to be antisocial because I did not like working with people, due to my shy and quiet personality that I had. Taking into consideration the idea of gaining freedom when one becomes independent; there is a consequence to it. The consequence being that once one has had a taste of freedom, especially from the reigns of parents; one does not like to be told what to do. People then bring the argument that they can’t be told what to do because they are not in charge of them. In this case it also bring tension in a relationship, where one is independent and likes to do things on their own and does not think of their partner. So being too much of an independent individual can result in one’s relationships with the whole of society, not only friends and family members and rarely ask for help from
Once a child goes to school, they could express many of their thoughts, feelings, and needs, and they start taking more significant steps towards independence. Meanwhile, as we go into adulthood, adults can choose things like where they want to live, what they want to eat, what job they will do, etc. In adulthood, it consists of changes in lifestyles and relationships. Furthermore, as an adult, life changes, such as leaving home, finding a long‐term romantic relationship, beginning a career, and starting a family. Many young adults first leave their house to attend college or to take a job in another city, and that’s where their independence starts. Also, Adults attain at least some level of attitudinal, emotional, and physical freedom.
While most parents realize there are normal struggles between parents and teens as their sons and daughters struggle for independence and identity, they are often shocked by the length and intensity of the conflict. They are stunned by apparent rejection of some of their most sacred values and confused by their teenagers "acting up" and "acting out." In attempting to become psychologically independent of their parents, teens often attempt to move completely away from any control or influence by their parents.
As I personally take the time to have a reflection over the course of “Child and Adolescent Development” I find myself intrigued with the amount of knowledge I gained during this course this semester. I wanted to take the time to concentrate on three specific areas in which I felt I had the most growth, but also came as a challenge to me as well. It is important when reflecting over a course that I look at what I found to be challenging, as this was an opportunity of growth for me individually. In this paper I will review some of the main topics that I found to be interesting but also resourceful for my future aspiration not only as a family life educator but also a mother one day.