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The effects of peer pressure on teenagers
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Many people say it is hard to fit into today’s society. We grow up in a world where we do not want to stand out because that is considered wrong. We want people to accept us, but we cannot do that when we do not fit in. You may not like the people who fit in, but you have to get to the top somehow. Some people feel they must help people in need because they have more than them and it sometimes hurts to see them have less. Some people are nice to others, but you can’t be nice to everyone. Can you really reach the top by fitting in and not standing out?
Adolescence is about growing up and not standing out. When you stand out, you give people more room to judge you because they see more of who you really are. When we grew up, we never really thought about being in the ‘in-crowd’ because we were all friends. When I moved up here from Mississippi, people were so fascinated with my accent and everyone loved to talk to me, but when I lost the accent, everyone stopped recognizing me. That is how today’s society is, people like you because you are probably smart or talented and that makes you stand out, but when they are done using you, they throw you away like you are some piece of garbage. If you are a little different from what today’s picture of a perfect person is, then people will never recognize and if they do, they only recognize you for a second.
It’s hard for people to fit in when others can’t accept you. Everyone wants to be accepted and be a part of the ‘in-crowd’, but just because you’re a little different, people may stop liking you. People should embrace their differences, “Instead they’re creating this divided environment where they’re showing all these children that a child is different and we’re going to treat them po...
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...what we want to be when we grow up. We never thought of how hard it would be to be accepted by one another. Sometimes you may not like someone, but they may help you reach the top. When we see people with less, it is hard not to help them because you feel responsible. Some people may seem nice and innocent, but everyone has a part in peer cruelty. No one is innocent of bullying. Some people may say that adolescence is about fitting in, but if you try to be your own person, then some people may except you and others may not.
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