With my recent marriage and the desire to have children soon, these articles sparked an interesting conversation about parenting and various styles in our household. I think both Amy Chua and Hanna Rosin, made compelling arguments for their own methods. I do not feel as though either extreme is good for the development of children, but not having had any children of my own yet, this a theoretical statement based on my own up-bringing. Having been raised in a more western style, I feel like I may have a bias, and can speak more to that. However, there were several times in my life where I wished my mother would have been a little stricter with my completing my studies. In my essay I will accentuate points comparing and contrasting both styles. Are having flawless grades and being a prodigy musician the pinnacle achievements in life? Is the Western, European-American style of parenting causing our children to fall behind in the education system? When reading this, contemplate your style and consider the examples we are setting for children.
There are many factors that play into the execution of each of the styles; for example culture, religion, and values. With pro and con tactics occurring in both the Asian –American and Western-European methods, it is important to focus on the core principles of each. In the Asian-American culture, Chinese mothers, not only believe that their children are indebted to them for the sacrifices they’ve made, but they also have a standard of perfection based on knowing what their children are capable of, even to the point of disregarding the child’s own desires. According to Chua, "academic achievement reflects successful parenting," and that if children did not excel at school, then there was "a ...
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... thanks to no opportunity of play dates, sleepovers, extra-curricular activities, etcetra. They are focusing all of their time and attention to the singular pursuit scholarly achievement. Conversely, European-American students as a whole are more diverse due to a more lenient learning environment, which is the catalyst for producing an emotional well-being.
I was raised with the notion and understanding that my parents would support whatever endeavors, I desired to pursue, but with the absence of a firm maternal influence stressing commitment and dedication, I often did not succeed. Like I stated before, there were times that I wish that my mother would have been more rigid with achieving better grades. By no means am I saying that I did poorly in school, because I actually did fairly well, but there is the realization that I could have done better if I was pushed.
Amy Chua utilizes evidence to verify that Western parenting practice is wrong and not as effective as Chinese parenting practice. In her article, Chua comments, “Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners, “Hey fatty-lose some weight.” By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue” (Chua 54). She also gives her observation as evidence to convince Westerners treat their kid wrongly. She adds her observation in her article “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” “I also once heard a Western father toast his adult daughter by calling her “beautiful and incredibly competent.” She later told me that made her feel like garbage” (Chua 54). Brooks, in opposite, does not fight against to prove Chinese parenting techniques are completely wrong. However, he just want to give evidence so that Chua and Chinese, in common, understand Western parenting practices are good in some ways. In Brooks’ article, he clears, “So I’m not against the way Chua pushes her daughters” (Brooks 59). Furthermore, David Brooks writes in his article “I wish she recognized that in some important ways the school cafeteria is more intellectually demanding than the library” (Brooks
“In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that ‘stressing academic success is not good for children’ or that ‘parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.’ By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be ‘the best’ students, that ‘academic achievement reflects successful parenting,’ and that if children did not excel at school then there was ‘a problem’ and parents ‘were not doing their job.’ … Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams” (Chua 5). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua is an engulfing novel which clearly distinguishes the difference between Western style of parenting and the Chinese style of parenting. The quote stated above shows some of the statistics that we completed to write this book. The story is a breathless and emotional memoir of Amy Chua, consisting mostly her two daughters and husband. While the Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother appears to be about the battle between a parent and a child and the relationship they share, the author, Amy Chua, has actually implied that it is important for the children to start developing skills early on to benefit in the future as well as be successful in their lives.
The book and movie “The Landlady” by Roald Dahl is about a young man called Billy Weaver who is looking for a bed and breakfast to stay for the night. He comes across a low priced hotel with a peculiar landlady who knows how to make an eerie night for her customers. The book and movie have two key differences and one important similarity. The setting in both the book and movie are different, changing the mood. The resolution is different which gives the reader/viewer an opposing view. Billy’s choice in the beginning of the story and movie gives the same plot. If any of these ideas had been the same between the movie and book, or had been changed, there would be contrasting thoughts from the reader/viewer.
Some people think that if they could only change one aspect of their lives, it would be perfect. They do not realize that anything that is changed could come with unintended consequences. “The Monkey’s Paw” by W.W. Jacobs and “The Third Wish” by Joan Aiken both illustrate this theme. They demonstrate this by granting the main character three wishes, but with each wish that is granted, brings undesirable consequences. The main idea of this essay is to compare and contrast “The Monkey’s Paw” and “The Third Wish.” Although the “The Monkey’s Paw” and “The Third Wish” are both fantasies and have similar themes, they have different main characters, wishes, and resolutions.
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While some differences between Ventura College and the colleges that Andrew Hacker and Claudia Dreifus wrote about in their essay are evident, the similarities are salient. Ventura College meets the characteristics that Hacker and Dreifus described in their essay, Ventura College has a low tuition rates, small class sizes, and all students have access to counselors and instructors. The only difference between Ventura College and the colleges that Hacker and Dreifus talked about is funding. Ventura College doesn’t cost a lot of money to attend, but is experience it provides actually worth the price?
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Amy Chua (2011) names off three reasons that support her argument in why Chinese children are more successful. First, she mentions that Westerners worry too much on how their child will accept failure, whereas Chinese parents assume only strength in their child and nothing less. For example, if a Western child comes home with a B on a test, some parents will praise the child on their success and some may be upset, while a Chinese parent would convince their child they are “worthless” and “a disgrace.” The Western parents hope to spare their children’s feelings and to be careful not to make their child feel insecure or inadequate, while Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe their children can get them (Chua, 2011). Secondly, Chinese parents believe their chil...
She is not wrong that the majority of American parents are more lenient when it comes to rules, grades, and behavior. She once describes that while “Chinese parents can order their kids to get straight As. Western parents can only ask their kids to try their best,” (Chua, 306), which is quite true in American culture. Many parents in this country are more worried about how their children feel about themselves academically and socially, rather than how successful they truly are at that given time. Chua is also correct in saying that all parents really just want what’s best for their kids, they just have different beliefs about how to do that. While these ideas are true, the rest of Chua’s claims do not come across quite as
Short stories are a form of literature works that authors use to communicate various themes and issues to the reader. As such, it is common for different short stories authored by different people to have a central meaning or theme that differs from each other. In addition, the way the author portrays his/her central theme or meaning would differ from the way other authors would craft their short stories to best portray their central meaning. While some would use characterization as a means of portraying the theme of their story, other authors employ the use of symbols to better communicate their theme. However, some slight similarities can always be drawn between short stories. ‘Hills like White
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
The universality versus cultural specificity debate both have aspects that make sense and can be applied to childhood development. On one side, supporters of the argument for the universality of parenting suggest that certain types of parenting styles will produce the same child development outcomes in different cultures. On the other hand, the argument for cultural specificity states that different parenting practices vary from culture to culture, and that culture ultimately determines the outcomes of child development. Each culture has specific styles of parenting that instill values on children particular to that culture. Each individual has characteristics of what their parents taught them, which gives every individual their own personality. Both sides present logical information on the cultural impacts of parenting on child development outcomes.
The two notable parenting styles discussed in Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” are the Western style parenting and the Chinese Tiger Mom style parenting. Chua explains the methods, the advantages and the disadvantages of both styles. She believes that Tiger Mom parenting is superior to Western parenting. In her article, Chua proves that raising children with the firm belief that failure is unacceptable will prepare them for the future.
High Standards in Parenting Based on the poem “Suicide Note” by Janice Mirikitani and “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” by Amy Chua they both present differences and similarities. Chua addresses Asian practices as a manner of giving negative reinforcement to motivate. As a result, children do have a positive effect and prosper. Whereas in Mirikitani’s poem it portrays the opposite impact on the narrator emphasizing that their Asian parents set them to higher standards and feels worthless knowing they cannot please the parents even if they try their hardest to attain it.