People commonly think of winning as coming out “on top” in any set of circumstances. Winning is, for example, having the highest score in a basketball game or the best grades in a graduating class. However, winning is much more than just its dictionary definition. Winning is not just defined by the outcome of position in a set of circumstances, but also by the work put in, the class of the individual or group, and most importantly, what is learned from the experience. To begin with, one will never truly win without making some effort to do so. For example, I have never heard of a student acing a test without some preparation on his or her part and attributing it to their hard work. Rather, it is usually called “sheer luck” when someone is …show more content…
This applies not only to the losers of a situation, but also to the winners. Most people have heard the phrases “cheaters never win” and “sore losers,” but they do not typically tag them onto winners. However, they still apply. Whether someone wins in the strictest meaning of the term or not is an obvious result, but if one is boastful, he or she gains nothing from the situation. Thus, he or she is not winning anything. In the same way, if someone is dishonest and cheating, he or she learns nothing from the experience. In contrast, honesty and good sportsmanship propels people into a position of better success so that they may “win” in whatever they do. If members on a losing basketball team accept their defeat graciously, they win more than the opposite team that is overly celebrating and boasting in their win. If a student makes a C through an honest effort and attributes their shortcomings to themselves, they win more than the student that misses one question and complains about the teacher. Good class in defeat profits people much more than the “win” …show more content…
In order to learn something from an experience, one must work honestly and apply himself or herself with class. If a basketball team wins out of sheer luck, the players are rewarded for something they did not achieve. In this way, they are learning nothing. If a student cheats on a test for a good grade, he or she will not truly know the subject that they are receiving the grade for. He or she has learned nothing about the topic. This is not winning in the long run. These types of people may win a short term goal in the moment, but is losing overall. The team that loses but gains new strategies may be better off in the future. The student that learns his or her lesson and studies better the next time gains new knowledge. Learning from a loss in the moment allows people to become better versions of themselves, gain new knowledge, and improve their skills. Learning from the experience and changing in the long run constitutes a real win. As the great Nelson Mandela once said, “I never lose. I win, or I
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If we did not fail or lose how could we learn to value or appreciate success/winning? What would we work towards, strive for or struggle with if we won all the time? What would motivate or drive us to do better or want better for ourselves if there was no concept of competition? If we are only recognized for attendance or participation because there is nothing beyond what’s actually handed to us, then all of society would come to a screeching halt. It goes beyond childhood, we are shaping the society for the future
“Winning is great,sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time.”- Unknown. This quote is explored by Amy Tan’s short story The Rules of the Game, that teaches us about how pushing someone too hard can make them fail. In the short story it is about a girl name Waverly who finds many strategy to win in the game of chess. She has been in many tournament and win many games, but then something big happened. Waverly’s mom keep using her to show off and she told her mother she quit. After she said she will get back to playing chess, because of her mother’s one word it can ruin all of Waverly’s confidence in playing chess. Now Waverly isn’t able to play chess like
Clark, Michael A. The "Winning" How Important Is It in Youth Sports? Youth Sports Institute, Michigan State University. http://ed-web.educ.msu.edu/ysi/SpotlightF94/winning.html. Club moves to curb unruly sidelines.
According to researcher and author of “Top Dog: The Science of Winning and Losing,” Ashley Merryman says “having studied recent increases in narcissism and entitlement among college students, (she) warns that when living rooms are filled with participation trophies, it’s part of a larger cultural message: to succeed, you just have to show up.” She also says “if children know they will automatically get an award, what is the impetus for improvement? Why bother learning problem-solving skills, when there are never obstacles to begin with?” She goes on to say handing out trophies undermines kids’ success: “The benefit of competition isn’t actually winning”. Another author says “when you’re constantly giving a kid a trophy for everything they’re doing, you’re saying, ‘I don’t care about improvement. I don’t care that you’re learning from your mistakes. All we expect is that you’re always a winner’” (Ross). These particiation trophies have many negative effects that can make these children less succesful in competitive enviornments: such as college or in the work force. It will also make them less prepared for an independent life after leaving
Looking at the side of winning being the only reason to play sport, it is very easy to get wrapped up in all the glamour of victory. Wanting to be the best places an unwavering drive in the depths of one's soul and it is not satisfied until a first place trophy is sitting on his or her shelf or a gold medal is hanging around thier neck. “Don’t let anyone tell you, 'Winning isn’t everythi...
The general argument made by author Merryman in her work, “Forget Trophies, Let Kids know It’s O.K. to Lose,” is that Kids need to learn to lose. More specifically, Merryman argues that kids need to know that it is O.K. to lose. She writes, “ Kids need to know they don’t have to win every time. It’s O.K. to lose, to make a mistake. (In a study of Gold Medal Olympians, they said a previous loss was key to their championships.).” In this passage, Merryman is suggesting that without learning to lose kids won't learn important life skills. Moreover, she argues that students will learn the most through mistakes. She writes, “Research has found that the best way to improve kids’ self image is to help them develop their abilities. Once they master a skill, they won’t need manufactured praise to tell them they’ve done well. They’ll know it. And they’ll be thrilled. Like the child who just learned to tie her shoes. That sense of accomplishment is worth more than any trophy.” In this passage, Merryman is suggesting that kids need to develop their skills not be rewarded with a trophy they may not deserve. In conclusion, Merryman’s belief is that kids
The section of the book private victory’s, and the habit win win. Talks about how you should never even think about losing you should always think about winning. Also you should always try to find a solution to a problem and try to make it a win-win equation. And i feel that i am not so good at this skill and i need to
With competition, people have incentive to improve. Last fall, my father had the idea for the two of us to have a competition and see who could do more sit-ups by the end of the year. This would be part of my offseason baseball training and his normal exercise. We were both doing hundreds of sit-ups a day, and I eventually won. In the end, we were both the winners because this was very good exercise for our body, which probably would not have been done without the competition. At the end of each of my basketball lessons, my coach and I would play a short game of one versus one. At first, he would always win. I grew tired of always losing to
The championship game loss helps the audience, especially young adults with high, aspiring dreams, to understand, that even if you do work-hard and aren’t awarded with winning your goal, this isn’t the end of your journey. It only means you have to work harder in the future, if you want to succeed at your goal. This conclusion shows young children how to lose properly and how to be grateful for what they have, since being good a winning is a much easier task. For like a quote from Colin Powell, “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” The under-class, basketball players learned from the mistakes in the title game, so they could go farther and win next year’s championship, because failure should never be your excuse to not attempt something.
“If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don’t. If you like to win but think you can’t, it’s almost a cinch you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost. For out in the world we find success begins with a fellow’s will.
“Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is a part of the process of success. People who avoid failure, also avoid success.” This quote is very important and it follows the theme, to strive to be the best.
Even though, people were conditioned to compete in the past, it is not pertinent anymore as it became another aspect in the modern day. Rubin further states, “people brought up this way feel lost.because they exist to compete and they’ve lost their raison d’être in the new situation” (312). Learning to compete with others is taught by an individual’s family and the individual forgets why he/ she is competing as they only focus on beating their fellow mates.
Do you understand that? Can you comprehend what was just spewed out by that author’s mouth? The true victory is obtained by the inner satisfaction of the one who is participating,
There is a misconception that competition is bad, if a child can experience the thrill of winning and the disappointment of losing, they will be well equipped for the reality of life. Competition provides stimulation to achieve a goal; to have determination, to overcome challenges, to understand that hard work and commitment leads to a greater chance of success. Life is full of situations where there are winners and losers; getting a job; a sports game; not getting into a desired college. People need to learn how to cope with disappointment and then to look forward to the next opportunity to try again. Competition also teaches us to dig deep and find abilities we never knew we had. The pressure to win or succeed can often inspire more imaginative thinking and inspire us to develop additional