Why We Should Not Spank My Child

There is only one question about parenting that sends parents to opposite corners.” Should I or should I not spank my child”. Not even the controversies over breast or bottle, working or stay at home comes close to the arguments over spanking. A lot of whether you spank as a parent or not depends on how you were disinclined as a child. Most parents whom were spanked as a child tend not to spank their children. However ninety percent of parents admit to spanking at least occasionally. Professor of human development at Oklahoma State University, Robert Larzelene believes that parents should use spanking as a back-up plan. When disciplining children parents should make sure the child understands what is expected of them. First use nonphysical n consequences such as taking away privileges and time-out. However if the child refuses to cooperate to these punishments the parent may have to use a more forceful method to back it up hence the spanking back-up plan. When spanking is necessary it should involve one or two swats to the child’s rear end. Afterward the parent should follow up with an affirmation of love. This method works best with small children between the ages of two and six. In his research he found that the children of these parents actually done better later on in adolescent age than children whom received

She studied 179 teenagers. Of the ones that were spanked as a child performed better in the post categories and no worse in the negatives than the teenagers whom were never spanked. She found that children that are spanked as a child were more optimistic about their future than those not spanked. Children that are spanked are more likely to attend a university and undertake voluntary work. She believes that if spanking is done by a parent who is usually sensitive and affectionate to the child that society should not be up in arms about