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In the story Where are you going, Where have you been? A vain teenager Connie dreams and desires to be mature in an unrealistic way. She acts differently at home compared to when she is out of her house. Connie takes pleasure in knowing that boys and even men are attracted to her but when she is encountered by Arnold Friend she is actually frightened. The author Joyce Carol Oats unravels Connie’s idea of dream life into reality by turning everything she liked against her. Dysfunction in family does not help Connie much for her father is uninterested and uninvolved. He just comes home after work and eats then goes to bed. He never really asks Connie where has she been or where she is going. Then her mom scolds her for being self-absorbed “stop gawking at yourself. Who are you? You think you’re so pretty?” (Oates 1) Her scolding which shows her mother isn’t mature enough to be positively involved in her daughter’s life. At home her mother tells her she should be more like her older sister June who is simple, has a job and helps around the house. With all of this Connie even wishes for her death. All this dissatisfies Connie and makes her dream of wanting …show more content…
something different. Connie has two sides to one she uses at home and the other side when she is away from home.
Her walk, which could be childlike and bobbing, or languid enough to make anyone think she was hearing music in her head; her mouth, which was pale and smirking most of the time, but bright and pink on these evenings out; her laugh, which was cynical and drawling at home- “Ha, ha, very funny,”-but high-pitched and nervous anywhere else, like the jingling of charms on her bracelet. (Oates 1) Even though she rejects her role as a daughter and sister to try to develop a sexual or adult like persona, which she only uses when she is away from home. When she is at the drive in restaurant she gets the attention she wants from boys and also from Friend who wagged his finger at her and said, “Gonna get you, baby” (Oates
2) When Connie ends up being home alone because she didn’t want to go to a cook out. She turns up her music and starts daydreaming of summer and about the boy she met. She was infatuated with the thought of how it was like a dream or like the movies when she was with this boy the night before. Then she was abruptly brought back reality when she was confronted by Arnold Friend at her house. Despite his really strange appearance Connie is somewhat allured to him in a kind of dangerous way. She liked the way he was dressed as well, which was the way all off them dressed: (Oates 4) Friend tries to be smooth with the way he talked and his actions to have Connie go with him on a ride. Later his act fails when he becomes irritated with Connie’s questions and becomes more aware. Arnold tells her about all the things he could and the idea of it makes her lose her dream like love life and back to reality. In the end Connie realizes not everything is like her pop songs all rosy and romantic. She ends up leaving with Arnold in a kind of defeat from her dreams.
The overuse of biblical allusions throughout the story helps to expose the naive nature of Connie that reveals her as a victim of evil which shows that lust often transgresses on an individual’s identity. In “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been,” Joyce Carol Oates expressed the subjective ideas by symbolizing Arnold Friend as a devil that tempts a clueless teenage girl Connie, who wanted to experience love.
In “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been” by Joyce Carol Oates, Connie is a normal teenage girl who is approached outside her home by a guy named Arnold Friend who threatens to harm her, and she obeys, if she does not get in the car with him. Connie is the main character in this story who teaches us that sometimes we might search for adult independence too early before we are actually ready to be independent and on our own. Connie is so focused on her appearance that she works hard to create a mature and attractive adult persona that will get her attention from guys. This search for independence conflicts with Connie’s relationship with her family and their protection of her. Connie’s insecurity and low self-esteem is triggered by her fear of intimacy. Connie confuses having the attention of men with actually having them pursue her in a sexual way.
The short story where are you going, where have you been is about a teenage girl who is, vain, self-doubting and affixed in the present. She does not know anything about the past or doubts it and has no plan of the future. She argues with her mother and she thinks she is jealous of her. The start of the plot is not very dramatic rather it is more like an introduction. We get a good description of the story’s Protagonist, Connie at the beginning of the story and through out. She is familiar, the typical American teenager, who dream, fantasize and have difficulty differentiating the real world from fairytale. Kozikowsky compares the story to the popular recent Disney tale “Cinderella” (1999). In “Where are you going, where have you been?” the setting of the story is not revealed at the beginning. The reader slowly learns about Connie’s family and her living condition throughout the story.
Connie is only concerned about her physical appearance. She can be described as being narcissistic because "she had a quick, nervous giggling habit of craning her neck to glance into mirror or checking other people's faces to make sure her own was all right" (Oates 148). Connie wants her life to be different from everyone else's in her family. She thinks because she is prettier, she is entitled to much more. She wants to live the "perfect life" in which she finds the right boy, marries him, and lives happily ever after. This expectation is nothing less than impossible because she has not experienced love or anything like it. She has only been subjected to a fantasy world where everything is seemingly perfect. This is illustrated in the story when Connie is thinking about her previous encounters with boys: "Connie sat with her eyes closed in the sun, dreaming and dazed with the warmth about her as if this were a kind of love, the caresses of love, and her mind slipped over onto thoughts of the boy she had been with the night before and how nice he had been, how gentle, the way it was in movies and promised in songs" (151).
Connie has the need to be viewed as older and as more mature than she really is, all the while still displaying childlike behavior. She shows this childlike behavior by “craning her neck to glance in mirrors [and] checking other people’s faces to make sure her own was all right” (Oates 323). This shows that Connie is very insecure and needs other people’s approval. Although on one side she is very childish, on the other side she has a strong desire to be treated like an adult. This longing for adulthood is part of her coming of age, and is demonstrated by her going out to “bright-lit, fly-infested restaurant[s]” and meeting boys, staying out with those boys for three hours at a time, and lying to her parents about where she has been and who she has been with (Oates 325, 326). “Everything about her ha[s] two sides to it, one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates 324). Even her physical movements represent her two-sided nature: “her walk that could be childlike and bobbing, or languid enough to make anyone think she was hearin...
However, as I continued to read the story I began to wonder if maybe Connie’s life was not in any way parallel to my own. I have a younger sister where she has an older sister, but that is where the similarities end. Her mother is always telling her that she should be more like June, her older sister. It seemed to me that June living with her parents at her age was unusual, but the fact that she seemed to enjoy this and was always doing things to h...
Connie's relationship with her mother and sister made home life less than desirable. The resentment that exists between the three of them was unbearable. Her mother's resentment was made clear as she compares Connie's "room cleaning" abilities. "Why don't you keep your room clean like your sister?" from that statement I got the feeling June could do no wrong! June was just the opposite of Connie, plain, quiet, and wall flower type. Connie was constantly criticized and compared. Connie was made to feel inadequate by her mother's constant praise of her sister, thus leaving Connie to create an alternate personality.
Connie changes how she acts based on where she is. INTRODUCE QUOTE “Everything about her had two sides to it, one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates 1). Connie acts one way at home because her family is constantly comparing her to her sister. She goes out with her friends so she can be her own person. Connie looks forward to being an adult and likes having
Connie was tired of the life she was living and, she was ready to make decisions for herself and to deal with the consequences for them. She knew that if her parents found out about her going to the diner that she would be in trouble. Connie did not care about the consequences for her actions. She felt like it was time to grow up and be a woman. She wanted to start to experiment with her sexuality. Connie wanted boys to start to notice her and talk to her. Connie thinks that guys could be her savior by helping deliver her from the pressure and anxieties from her sister and mother. Her going out on her own makes her realize that she does not have to please anyone, only herself. When Connie and her friend went to the diner she met this guy Arnold. Obviously being with Eddie for three hours in a dark alley and diner was not the best first move for her. This is the one decision that will change her life forever. This was probably the first guy that gave Connie some attention. So obviously she is going to soak him up and just...
During the teenage years they no longer want to be labeled the “child; matter of fact, they have a strong desire to rebel against the family norms and move quickly into adulthood. This transition and want for freedom can be a very powerful and frightening thing as there are evils in this world that cannot be explained. Most parents try to understand and give their teens certain freedoms, but at what expense? Joyce Oates gives us a chilly story about a teenager that wanted and craved this freedom of adulthood called “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”. This is a haunting story of a young girl by the name of Connie who gives us a glimpse of teenager transitioning from childhood with the need for freedom and the consequences of her actions. Connie is described as a very attractive girl who did not like her role in the family unit. She was the daughter who could not compare to her older sister and she felt her Mom showed favoritism towards her sister. Connie is your average teen who loves music, going out with friends, and she likes the attention she receives from boys. During this time, Connie is also growing into her sexuality and is obsessing with her looks as she wants and likes to be noticed by the opposite sex. Her sexual persona and need to be free will be what is fatal to her character’s life and well-being.
The short story "Where are you going, where have you been?" by Joyce Carol Oates is full of symbolism that represents elements such as evil and loss of innocence. The symbolism is a crucial part of the story because it helps the reader to read between the lines and see beyond the obvious meanings of things. Some of the important symbols present in this story are Arnold's car, Arnold himself, and the doorway of Connie's family's house.
Joyce Carol Oates’s short story “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?” clearly illustrates the loss of innocence adolescents experience as they seek maturity, represented by Connie's dangerous encounter with Arnold Friend. Connie symbolizes the many teens that seek independence from their family in pursuit of maturity. Connie’s great desire to grow up is apparent from the beginning of the story, as she experiments with her sexuality. However, it is clear that Connie is not interested in pursuing a relationship, but relishes the maturity she feels after being with the opposite sex. After following a boy to his car, she was “gleaming with a joy that had nothing to do with Eddie or even this place” (2). This suggests that Connie's exploits
Further, She had been pretending to be this old mature lady but when Arnold Friend started to sexually flirt with her, she was frightened and so "sick with fear that she could do nothing but listen to it - the telephone was clammy and very heavy and her fingers groped down to the dial but were too weak to touch it. She began to scream into the phone, she cried for her mother"( 431) However, when Connie started to call for her nobody was there to help, She even called for help from her mother as a child does, but she didn’t get any help. By that time she felt so weak and the only safe place she was seeing in front of her was going with Arnold Friend. To come to a conclusion, Connie 's experience with Arnold Friend had put her in the adult world where she finds out that she is on her own
In her short story Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been, Joyce Carol Oates presents us with a well known maxim: children cannot wait to get older. Tired of her boring and powerless childhood, Connie, the main character, searches for cheap thrills she likens to adulthood. Thus, Connie’s surreal experience (Arnold Friend’s sudden and unwanted appearance in his car) represents a suppressed fear of the inevitable and unknown - growing up.
Oates drew the character of Connie very well - she possesses many of the qualities that teenaged children share. According to developmental psychologists, adolescents become highly critical of siblings, and peer relationships take precedence over familial ties during these years (Feldman, 455). These traits are apparent in Connie’s unflattering description of her older sister June, “…she was so plain and chunky…” (209) and the fact that Connie spends many nights out with friends, but refuses to attend an afternoon picnic with her family (211).