There are many types of men in the world, and each type displays a variety of distinguishable characteristics. Women should become aware of these characteristics before considering a prospective mate. The smallest of personal details, from where and how they met (including the first date), the way he walks and talks, the clothes he wears, the career choice he's made, the vacation spots he frequents, or the automobile he drives can offer valuable, meaningful, insightful clues to whether or not a man will ever settle down with anyone. There are two main types of men in the world: the committer and the non-committer.
The committer is serious about finding the right woman. He asks friends and relatives for introductions. He is usually open to blind dates and avoids the bar scene when looking for a quality woman. On the first date, he is polite and will not bring up the subject of money at the restaurant. He takes her to places where they can talk one-on-one. The non-committer is just looking for a woman. There is no room in his life for the woman. He, on the other hand, loves the bar scene. He usually finds a million excuses why he can't find the right woman and uses such excuses to explain why he is still unattached. On a date, he orders trendy food such as sushi to impress his date, and he monopolizes the conversation. He may even take her to places where there is no chance for good conversation such as a club or a party.
The committer likes to share in conversation. He asks questions and actually listens to the answers. He is generally open about his past and is willing to share more personal details as time goes on. He is willing to meet her family and introduces her to his. The committer also formalizes his plans. He'll say, "Let's have dinner on Wednesday," or "I'll call you tomorrow afternoon." The non-committer, however, is usually supporting too many other extracurricular activities to be available. He does the talking while she does the listening. He usually has to work late which means he won't be able to make it for her mom's pot roast dinner invitation. When they speak to each other, he leaves her feeling like things are up in the air. While walking away, he yells things over his shoulder like, "Talk to you soon" or "I'll call.
Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.
College degrees, jobs, and income stream are all quantifiable items, however, a gauge on work-life balance, parenting abilities, and dedication at home cannot be measured by a number. In the past, men have been viewed as the backbone of the family. The typical day consists of getting up the earliest, going to work, coming home late at night, maybe missing out on trivial matters, but ultimately paying the bills. As time progresses, roles in households have shifted significantly. Now more than ever women are extremely active in the workforce, local communities, and politics. The obstacles faced by men and women are inherently different, but men seem to fall under an intensified microscope when it comes to intertwining family life with a career. Richard Dorment dives deep into these issues in his piece, "Why Men Still Can't Have It All." Although the argument may seem bias in favoring the rigorous lifestyle of men, the
"You" does several things, which are normally viewed as masculine. After meeting the male, "you" begins to feel bored with the relationship. The narrator suggests to "make attempts at a less restrictive relationship... Clarify: rents are high, nothing long-range, love and all that, hon, but it's footloose."(Moore 79). Usually men are the ones to suggest seeing other people. "Think about leaving. About packing a bag and slithering off, out the door." (80). "You will meet another actor. Or maybe it's the same one. Begin to have an affair. Begin to lie." (82). Although stereotypical, men are also viewed to be the ones to leave and end the relationship as well as the ones who typically cheat on their partner.
He’s Just Not That Into You is an advice book written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, whom are both writers for the television show Sex and the City. This advice book gives women tips on how to tell if the guy they are talking to just isn 't that into them. Each chapter of this book begins with the phrase, “He’s Just Not That Into You If…” For example, Chapter one, “He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out” (Behrendt & Tuccillo, p. 9), Chapter two, “He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling You” (Behrendt & Tuccillo, p. 23), and my favorite chapter, chapter six, “He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He’s Drunk.” (Behrendt & Tuccillo, p. 70)
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This article presents the deceptions of online dating through the users profiles through self-presentation, emotions and trustworthiness.
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Can only engage in a relationship if a person signs and adheres to a specific set of rules and regulations, which make him comfortable. He’s more rigid than one of his bamboo canes, apparently!
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Hall, J. A., Carter, S., Cody, M. J., & Albright, J. M. (2010). Individual Differences in the Communication of Romantic Interest: Development of the Flirting Styles Inventory. Communication Quarterly, 58(4), 365-393. doi:10.1080/01463373.2010.524874
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