Perception of Others: A Good Thing or Not? “In order to see things differently, sometimes you need to see different things.”(Cassie Parks. This quote represents a positive message that everyone should know, adore, and follow and that is to love oneself. One of the biggest acceptance issues people have is with themselves and loving what they were blessed with. Everyone has that one thing about them that they do not like and then they find the one person who has what they have always dreamt of and they become jealous. This is the issue between Carla and Bethany in Jane Martin’s Play, “Beauty.” The conflict in this play is the two main characters being secretly jealous of one another and not knowing it until they put everything out on the table. By the end however, something happens which leads the two girls to see the other girl’s point while in their shoes. …show more content…
The story begins with the character, Carla, on the phone chatting with a guy who wants to marry her.
He barley knows her but claims her beauty is enough to know he wants to marry her. Carla is used to this type of attention though because she is a magazine model and has the beauty that Bethany wants more than anything. Carla is always being harassed by men and given free things just because of her appearance. She gets invited to the best parties and is the girl that other girls want to be. She has it all. Bethany, the second character, is the opposite of Carla. While Bethany is pretty, she has no chance standing up the Carla’s beauty. Bethany wants nothing more than to have guys throwing themselves on her. She wants to go to the best parties and have all the girls be envious of her. Bethany believes that by having Carla’s beauty, all her problems will be solved and she will be happier than she has ever
been. The problem that occurs in this play is that Bethany finds a magic lamp and is given three wishes by a genie. After making two previous wishes, Bethany decides that her third wish should be to ask the genie to make her look as beautiful as Carla. Once Bethany lets Carla in on her plans for her third wish, Carla takes no time in explaining to Bethany why being like her would be a bad thing. Carla, the model who has everything she could ever want, makes sure to point out the bad things about her life. She tells Bethany how she would like a smart man like the guys that go after Bethany. She wants guys who are looking for long-term relationships and not the typical hook-ups that the guys Carla usually goes for wants. Carla wants to be taken more seriously like Bethany is and not be the bud of everyone’s blonde jokes at parties. Carla wants to be able to go out in public and not have weird guys going after her. She wants the freedom that Bethany has. Bethany on the other hand wants Carla’s life. She wants to have the hot guys that only want hookups. She wants to be hit on when she goes out in public and she wants to be given free things like Carla is. Once the wish is verbally said, both girls end up switching bodies and they quickly realize it was not what they wanted. One wanted brains and to be taken seriously and the other wanted looks and attention. With the switch, they got everything. Carla got Bethany’s brain and Bethany got Carla’s looks. They wanted the qualities of the other person not their brains and bodies. They soon realize they should have just accepted themselves for who they are; Bethany, basic, Carla, eccentric. It was the desire to be something other than what they were that lead to the misunderstanding that forever changed the lives of Bethany and Carla.
She uses this to add to the opinion of how we view our self is the most important. Alice felt the perception of herself by others had changed when the whole time it was her judgment of herself that truly mattered in the end. In “Beauty: When the other Dancer is the Self” thoughts come to mind with the saying “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder”. Even with never considering myself as ugly this saying could still apply after thinking through it slightly more. The way to interpret it, is everything, not only beauty, depends on point of view or perspective which changes with time as it did for Alice and her opinions of her eye. In actuality people care much less about every move you make because they themselves are too worried about what others think of them. Humans are very self-conscious creators. Even with being the reason for many peoples self-consciousness actors and models are no exception to the effects of
Has anyone ever ask you what you see in a guy or a girl? Is it their looks or is it their personality? If you say personality, then read along to further agree with me. If you say looks, well I am here to tell you otherwise. In the play Cyrano de Bergerac written by Edmond Rostand, the main character goes through obstacles to win their love interest’s heart. The author leaves a significant message that inner beauty is more important than outer beauty.
...David. “He still had the look in his eye, the pretty look. Maybe he really could see past her ugly face. Maybe what was inside her did matter to him more than anything else.” (279) By developing this relationship with David, it not only made Tally extremely happy; but she is able to understand the true meaning of what it is to be beautiful.
The gender conflict styles also played a role. The girls both tended to listen, rather than hold the attention of the others. This was especially true in Allison's case, whom never spoke. Allison was introduced in the movie as the basket case.
The line “ and you’ll be ugly forever,” (225) conveys how people’s first instinct of you is to judge no matter what, they may not even know who you are but that’s the natural instinct. This quote shows how even though someone else may think you’re ugly in someone else's eyes that person could be perfect. Tally Youngblood started to realize this when David, a friend she met at The Smoke, kept complimenting her about the way she looked, but she had never looked at herself in a different way other than an ugly. David sees her as a perfect girl, but even perfect girls have flaws. Tally seems to think that everything about her is a flaw. She's never looked at herself from a different perspective. “... but uglies have an easier time trusting someone like me…”(356) Uglies have an easier time trusting anyone than pretties, because they're uglies and they don’t understand the hardships that the pretties may face, even though they live in the same society. Uglies may think pretties have it easy but they haven’t experienced that life
Claudia has a strong desire to be included, but her different opinions about life unfortunately create difficulties for her fitting into society. She sees the world from a very different perspective than others. From very early on, Claudia's desires differ from the majority's opinion. She desires to have emotions; society,though, desires possessions. Furthermore, Claudia is physically revolted by what seems to be the epitome of beauty in society's eyes. She feels that she is the only one who feels that little white baby dolls with yellow hair and blue eyes are not beautiful. In a bold attempt to destroy the common perception of beauty, Claudia mangles the dolls she receives, "to see of what it was made, to discover the dearness, to find the beauty, the desirability that had escaped me, but apparently only me" (20). She desires to be included in the unity of society. However, Claudia wants to be included on her own terms. She does not want to limit or conform her beliefs to fit what society wants her ...
Indeed, Victorian women are molded into the socially calibrated model of The Looking-glass self, a structural theory in which Cooley proposes that people shape their identity largely based on their understanding of how other perceive them, and the social environment thus serves as the “mirror” that reflects desirable images of themselves. According to Cooley, the stages of The Looking-glass self involves imagining how one looks to others, imagining how other are judging her, and finally developing herself through such possible judgement. A hypothesis can be formed here, that Victorian women must develop this looking-glass self by concealing socially or individually unacceptable impulses from their consciousness. In the case of Clarissa, she represses her rather primitive sexual feelings toward Sally for fear of social judgement, and must construct an identity reflective of the feminine qualities desired by the society. But Clarissa’s looking-glass self is quite problematic, because it is only a manifestation of her attempt to repress real emotions. All forms of repression, according to Freud, cause disease within the mind and body— they will gradually boil inside the beings and finally explode. Interestingly, Clarissa never “explodes” her repressed feelings
she was pretty and that was everything” (225). This captivation with herself along with the constant looking in the mirrors and thinking her mother was only pestering her all the time because her mother’s own good looks were long gone by now (225) shows a sign of immaturity because she believes everything revolves around whether or not someo...
Moreover, the woman in the ?eye of the Beholder? not only wanted beauty but she felt the need for acceptance. She was denied this when she was taken to a disability camp. It?s amazing how in the movie, people were separated and treated unequally because of their physical appearances, and as result, they could not share the same society. This is in fact is a metaphor for how discrimination was once in extreme existence in this society. For example, African Americans once had to use: different bathrooms, water fountains, and were even segregated to non-white school. They were even isolated to the worse parts of the cities.
In a world where many are led to believe that they fall short of what society depicts as “perfect”, it is still true that everyone is beautiful in their own way. There are even more demands on girls now a days than there has ever been before. Some may think they need to fit in, so they become someone they are not or they begin to act like a totally different person. “Barbie Doll” by Marge Piercy, illustrates society’s high and unrealistic expectations on the physical appearance of women, while failing to see that a woman’s self-esteem is at risk of being diminished.
'Jane Eyre' is a book that is written in a way that draws the reader
posts, this was felt to be a women's job as it is the mother who would
The independence of the heroines in “Pride and Prejudice” and “A Room With a View” can be defined by their unconventional views and the fearlessness that they display. In “Pride and Prejudice”, Austen presents her heroine Elizabeth as having unconventional views on marriage and society. It is clear that in Austen’s choice of Elizabeth she is presenting an alternative role model for the women of Regency society. Similarly, in “A Room With a View”, E.M Forster’s heroine Lucy demonstrates an independence and fearlessness in her choices which challenges society’s expectations.
From the beginning of modern civilization those in a society have tried their best to join the status quo. Everyone feels that they look and act the same as others around them as to reassure themselves that they are normal and that they will be accepted into society. This type of conformity is seen greatly throughout the play Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf in its main characters George, Martha, Nick and Honey. Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf shows how a typical family is supposed to look to the outside, prim and polished, but which secretly holds their own internal problems that eventually spill out for all to see, in turn forcing their supposed peace in conformity to become chaos in their reality.
“Trifles” by Susan Glaspell and “A Dollhouse” by Henrik Ibsen, are both very good plays which do an excellent job of bringing attention to the ways females in our society were once looked down upon by men. Despite the fact both works were written when the issue of sexual discrimination was pervasive in our society, both works are still relative today. Even though equality has improved greatly in our society since the time these works were written, the issue still exists in our country to a lesser degree but it is still a huge issue in a large part of the world. There are many lessons to learn from these two plays such as respecting women, humility, being assertive and challenging misconceptions. Although these plays have similarities, they