A committed, long-term relationship is what most single individuals seek to achieve at some point in their lives. Our single friends are a testament to the struggle and confusion of being unattached. There are unspoken and spoken rules that can make the dating world a tough one to navigate. Many do find some value in having a committed relationship and some can only see the negatives: how hard it is to trust, how hard it is to find the “perfect” companion, and how hard it is to find someone who values honesty! So in response generations have been focusing less on an ideal relationship and seeking self fulfilment instead. Casual sex, hook ups, or encounters all mean the same thing and seem to fit the situation by which college students are participating. Casual couplings are said to be detrimental to those involved but studies show that in fact it can be beneficial and even less harmful than a committed long term relationship. Not sure what it is with the word sex that has makes many find this topic embarrassing, like it is something to be bashful about. Everyone is not fooling around but depending on where the survey is taken the results will vary. One thing is for sure, there are people who are hooking up all over the world. The percentage of those involved changes so it is hard to gauge just how many are partaking. Casual sex is having sexual contact with another person with no future plans on becoming a couple or promising each other any type of commitment (Wentland). Other than fulfilling each other’s need for sexual gratification, which some may mistake or even consider intimacy. Everywhere and anywhere that one is shopping for casual relations, there are rules and codes to live by. This is supposed to be easier than actuall... ... middle of paper ... ...: An Exploration of the Contemporary Double Standard." Journal of Sex Research 48.5 (2011): 437-449. Academic Search Premier. Web. 29 Nov. 2013. Sakaluk, John K., and Robin R. Milhausen. "Factors Influencing University Students’ Explicit and Implicit Sexual Double Standards." Journal of Sex Research 49.5 (2012): 464-476. Academic Search Premier. Web. 29 Nov. 2013. Siegel, Stanley. "In Favor of Casual Sex." Psychology Tomorrow Magazine. Psychology Tomorrow Magazine, Nov. 2012. Web. 15 Oct. 2013. Wentland, Jocelyn J., and Elke D. Reissing. "Taking Casual Sex Not Too Casually: Exploring Definitions of Casual Sexual Relationships." Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality 20.3 (2011): 75-91. Academic Search Premier. Web. 4 Oct. 2013. Rhoads, Steven. "Hookup Culture: The High Costs of a Low 'Price' for Sex." Society Dec. 2012: 515. MasterFILE Premier. Web. 5 Nov. 2013.
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Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
Conor Kelly argues in her article, “Sexism in Practice: Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture” that the hookup culture is sexist and disempowers women. Although, he mentions it is difficult to define “hooking up” but majority of the students will agree that it involves “some level of sexual activity without the constraints and expectations of a relationship” (Kelly 65). In other words, when two people have casual sex with no strings attached, when they both finish they both can go on with their lives without
well-known stereotype. Sexuality is described in two different environments, showing how circumstances can change what is socially accepted.
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Most people are deluded, believing that casual sex is emotionally safe when it is not. These views claim that there is no commitment to the partner, therefore lacking intimacy. Details of personality, family, an individual’s life and how an individual reacts to a situation are not communicated. It would seem to be difficult to become emotionally involved, which could easily cause the person to be vulnerable to stress and heartache. After all, with no emotional ties the individual can’t be emotionally hurt. If a problem does arise there are no commitments so the partner can easily be abandoned. However, this is not true. Sex always equals emotional bindings and even so called casual sex therefore creates emotional damage. Scientifically, the act of sex stimulates receptive nerves in the
Halwani states that there are five conditions that must all be met for casual sex to be morally permissible. These five conditions are as follows.
The reason I am writing this paper is to share the information I attained about human sexuality by learning about sexuality in a college setting and by exploring my sexuality through personal experiences. I do not consider myself to have experienced much exposure to sexual behavior but I do have a cultural bias to what I consider a heavy amount of exposure because the North American culture is considered more promiscuous and sexually active than other cultures.
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