In the novel, "The Perks of Being A Wallflower," something very powerful and significant to today's society has been stated. Throughout this story, a lot of meaningful things have been said, but there is one in particular that stood out. This quote is, "We accept the love we think we deserve." This quote, not only being so important to our society, was also shown on numerous occasions and within many relationships throughout this novel. Specifically, three relationships that this quote was prevalent in was, Charlie's sister and her boyfriend, Sam and Craig, and Patrick and Brad's relationship. Firstly, this quote was exemplified throughout Charlie's sister, Candace, and her boyfriend, pony tail Derek's, relationship. For instance, Candace invites ponytail Derek to their house for dinner. For the duration …show more content…
of the dinner, in front of everyone, Derek seems like a really nice and sensitive guy. However, after the dinner is when we see his true colours. For example, a scene is shown where Candace and Derek are fighting, and in the heat of the moment, Derek hits her. As shown in the novel, " And this guy got really red-faced. And he looked at me. Then he looked at her. And he wound up and hit her hard across the face. I mean hard .... The weird part is that my sister didn't do anything", (page 11). That being the case, after this incident happened, Candace proceeded to make up excuses for what just occurred. She kept saying things like, "he's not usually like that", and "he's a sweet guy most of the time", and lastly, "I was egging him on." Therefore, she took the blame on herself, accepting the abuse she just got, thinking that she deserved it. Secondly, we see this quote being shown in Sam and Craig's relationship. All through the novel, we see that Craig is not a good boyfriend to Sam. In fact, he disrespects her, and does not value her opinion. Particularly, Charlie observes, "It's just that Craig doesn't really listen to her when she talks" ,(page 48), and, "Sam took Patrick to the dance after Craig said he was too busy. I guess they had a big fight about it. Finally, Craig said he didn't want to go to some stupid high school dance", (page 115). Thus, from these two quotes alone, we see that Craig does not listen to Sam, and cares more about himself and his personal feelings, rather than her. Craig does not stop to think about how important these "stupid high school dances" are to Sam, and how much they mean to her. Despite this, Sam accepted it and stayed with him. Consequently, it was not until it was revealed that Craig had been cheating on her with several girls, several times, that Sam finally broke up with him. Lastly, this quote was revealed in Patrick and Brad's relationship.
For the duration of this novel, Patrick and Brad were in a secret relationship. While Patrick was a funny guy who was himself all the time regardless of what other people's opinions were, Brad was not the same. Patrick was not scared to love Brad and give him what he deserved. On the other hand, Brad was the quarter back of the football team, and very popular, and he just was not willing to risk this all for Patrick. The only time Patrick and Brad would be together is when Brad would get really drunk to the point where he barely knew what was going on. This is because Brad could not face the truth, and love Patrick when he was sober. As a result, Brad and Patrick decided to have a secret relationship, insuring no one knew but them, and confirming that Brad would not have to get extremely drunk before they fooled around. Furthermore, Brad even had a girlfriend as a cover up. Patrick accepted this because he believed it was what he deserved, and the only way he could be loved. In the novel Patrick states, "At least he doesn't have to be drunk to love me anymore" (page
___). In conclusion, in all these relationships, we see Candace, Sam, and Patrick, accepting less than they deserve. Evidently, it is important for people to know their self-worth and how special they truly are, or else they will always let others treat them for less than they are. For these reasons, the quote, "we accept the love we think we deserve," was shown in Candace and Derek, Sam and Craig, and Patrick and Brad's relationships.
Both quotes show the extent of Charlie’s change throughout the novel. Silvey also uses this element to successfully create empathy from the readers and make the book that much more brilliant.
Mark Twain best described courage when he said that, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear” (Twain). Both in The One Who Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest by Ken Kesey and Watership Down by Richard Adams, the authors deal with the topic of courage and each share a similar view on it as this quote. Indeed, both authors suggest that courage is not accumulated simply by acts of heroism, but rather by overcoming fears and speaking one’s mind as well. These books are very similar in the way that bravery is displayed through the characters in an uncommon way. Firstly, an example of bravery
Charlie’s character transition is an evidence of the saying, “Walk a mile in my shoes. See what I see, hear what I hear, feel what I feel, then maybe you’ll understand why I do what I do. Until then don’t judge me.” His journey with Kanalaaq showed him how important it is for people not to judge other for superficial
Most of the time love is our encouragement when we are in trouble, sometimes love can drag us to things we don’t want to happen in our lives. “First Lieutenant Jimmy Cross carried letters from a girl named Martha, a junior at Mount Sebastian College in New Jersey. They were love letters, but Lieutenant Cross was hoping, so he kept them folded in plastic at the bottom of his rucksack.” (p.1) The letters from Martha signed, “Love Martha” even though the letters were not love letters, Lieutenant Jimmy Cross understands that he doesn’t receive the type of love he hopes for from Martha.
... Patrick were very young. In the last section of the novel they were only six and eight years old. Aside from their age, they knew their “Maddy” had changed, but they did not care, they still loved her because she was still herself. The most amazing part of the novel was the scene where Jennifer and her family were driving through Boston looking for the magic shop. Jennifer and Grace were reassuring the boys that being transsexual is not a disease, and in this discussion Jennifer apologized for leaving them without a dad, and Luke replies with such certainty that he does not mind about growing up without a father, because he likes “Maddy” this way, as a woman and not a man (pg. 262). This is such a valuable lesson to take from She’s Not There; although not everyone will be accepting (Jenny’s sister), nothing matters as long as your children and partner accept you.
Other than his teacher, he has two best friends named Patrick and his step sister Sam. Patrick is a happy and care free guy who happens to be homosexual and has a hard time dealing with that in school due to bullying, especially because his secret boyfriend named Brad, who is the quarterback of the football team, doesn’t want anyone to know about their relationship. Sam is Patrick’s step sister and a senior in high school. She has a boyfriend named Craig who is also a senior and has to reject Charlie when he confesses his love for her because of him. Charlie was hurt when Sam rejected him, so Patrick helped him find a new girl to crush on.
In Kite Runner there are many lesson that could be learned and many things are shown to the reader that the author is trying to point out. “It may be unfair, but what happens in a few days, sometimes even a single day, can change the course of a whole lifetime, Amir” he said” (Hosseini 142). One thing you do can change your whole life and make things either more difficult or easier. The scene in which Baba tells Amir about Soraya past in Khaled Hosseini’s novel, The Kite Runner, is important because Hosseini uses it to establish one thing you do can change your whole life and make things either more difficult or easier through Soraya running off with a guy, Amir watching Hassan get raped, and Baba lies.
Throughout this relationship, even in the back of his mind, Patrick chooses to ignore the fact that he will los...
Amir spends most of his adult life trying to forget about his cowardice during Hassan’s rape, yet he is awarded with a physical reminder of Hassan. After recuperating from Assef’s attack he endures to rescue Sohrab, Amir has a scar that resembles the one Hassan had during childhood. This is both ironic and symbolic. His new scar makes him like Hassan, similar to how his rescue of Sohrab (bravery) made him like Hassan. Amir rescued Sohrab from the same perpetrator, Assef, that Hassan did for him. The event is further ironic because both Sohrab and Hassan use a slingshot to save Amir. The slingshot represents two generations and symbolizes standing up for what is morally right. Amir’s scar can be viewed as a --- of courage and dignity. He is
Every teenager has the same exact problem: high school. The conflicts, drama, and social assemblage is a part of every high school student experience at his or her different campus. While most students determine that there is no single adult that has any idea of the situations and circumstances that each person faces in their daily life, they are unbelievably mistaken. Novelist and screenwriter, Stephan Chbosky, perfectly captures these issues in a mature, thematic experience that every teen can relate to. And for some odd reason, some individuals feel that this coming-of-age story needs to be banned from public libraries and schools throughout our nation.
In one scene, Mr. Anderson is asked by Charlie why people stay with others who are wrong for them, speaking of Sam and her boyfriend, and he responds with his famous quote, “We accept the love we think we deserve.” That statement is very powerful and makes a lot of sense in the world of psychology. It is shown that many of the characters in the film accepted the love they thought they deserved whether it be Sam with her boyfriend, Patrick with Brad, or even Charlie with Mary Elizabeth. However, with the ability of change, they all stood up for themselves and one another and started to embrace pure love and friendship and accepted nothing that defies that. The Perks of Being a Wallflower is a very emotional and influential movie that could easily be used for a psychological analysis. (Halfon, Malkovich, Smith & Chbosky,
Loyalty is one of the only things that can hold the bonds of family and friends.
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The inability to conform in society can lead to unhappiness and the feeling of inequality