Once the feeling of insecurity is planted in one’s mind, it will grow like a weed and destroy surrounding relationships. Some believe, although a common misconception, that the root of such an outcome is jealousy and misogyny. While in actuality, the ultimate factor instead is lack of confidence and assurance in oneself. Only through possessing self regard can one prevent corresponding results. If not, feelings of anxiety, single mindedness, and paranoia will eventually lead to relationships ruining. Insecurity forms anxiety within a relationship which consequently, leads to its downfall. As shown in the tragic play Othello, written by Shakespeare, the mind will search for absurd reasons to validate their fears and doubts against their partner. …show more content…
Iago’s schemes for Othello’s downfall all originate from suspicion with his wife Emilia. He is fully aware that, “...it is thought abroad that ‘twixt my sheets has done my office”(1.3.378-379). Iago’s mistrust with both Othello and his wife, leads him to turn against those who trust him. Acting out from his delusion that his wife is unloyal, Iago spread gossip which consequently lead to the death of Othello, Desdemona, and Emilia. In a relationship where insecurity is prevalent, one will surely become scared of losing their loved one. Taking actions based off of paranoia will never result in a prospering relationship, rather the opposite will undoubtedly occur. Also delusioned of being jeopardized of losing someone, are men considered the head of their families. In fact, an article named Men Who Hate Women the author named Nadeau reports, “many believe their wives should be subservient to them. When their power is threatened, many lash out violently” (Nadeau 2). Some men shift to assault when faced with the potential of losing control in a relationship. Turning to physical harm instead of civil communication further shows the extent of insecurity in men whose positions are wavering. Similar to Iago, both are acting out based on the idea of losing their significant other and self-consciousness. As a result, their relationships will be destroyed. Moreover, some may state that these men act violently …show more content…
The importance of eliminating these feelings in a relationship is revealed in what being self conscious can manifest into. Not only does it demolish the connection between lovers, but it also causes one to become anxious, single minded, and paranoid. Thus, further driving partners apart. Therefore, in order to prevent relationships from coming to an end, one must be confident and secure with who they are before entering a relationship. As a result, it will lead to better trust, forgiveness, and communication. Only through avoiding insecurities can a relationship
A contributing element to someone who is insecure mindset is thinking they don’t deserve someone, so they will do anything to please them. “I skip English everyday so you and me can ride to school together”; she gives up one of the biggest parts of her education to ride to school with Raheem. She holds back what she wants to say and do to please Raheem. Her willingness to do and say anything even if it goes against what she really thinks shows that she thinks that’s the only way he’ll stay with her.
Shakespeare’s work “Othello” emphasizes the dangers of jealousy. The play demonstrates how jealousy is powered by affirmations that can easily be proven false. Therefore, resulting in the destruction of many lives, including the tragic hero himself. It is extremely apparent that jealousy is a behavioral propellant on the entire plot. Specifically, the play begins in the midst of Iago’s jealous behavior towards Cassio. Lago’s twisted actions refer to the source of jealousy, indicating that he takes revenge on the people around him and is the least discontent with the lives he damages. As the play progresses, both the tragic hero and Iago’s jealous behavior develops. Othello’s Moorish values make him obscure in comparison to other Venetians suggests that the reason for his jealousy is unreasonable. Notably, Shakespeare exhibits that jealousy is unreasonable throughout the play as a result of the tragic hero’s fatal flaw, an issue that is psychological. The action and behavior Othello performs in enviousness is not a source of a reasonable act of
Insecurity is a power drill that drills through one’s confidence and destroys their self-esteem. Whether it be looking in the mirror and being unsatisfied with one’s appearance, or having to speak up in a meeting. Insecurities have the ability to control one’s life and emotions. As Vin Diesel always says, “It's insecurity that is always chasing you and standing in the way of your dreams.” As a matter of fact, insecurities can come to one in many ways such as body language, personal habits, and society’s expectations.
The main male characters in Shakespeare’s play Othello kill their wives in order to defend their own honor. In the period setting of the play, to show honor, women are expected to be subservient to their husbands. The characters Iago and Othello reflect this attitude toward their respective wives, giving them reason to feel just in killing these women. Iago kills Emilia because she dishonors him by revealing his manipulation of Othello and Cassio. Othello strangles Desdemona because of imagined infidelity, which makes him look like a fool. Both men have different ideas of honor, perceive their own honorable status differently, have different relationships with their wives, and different feelings of remorse. Ultimately they both kill their wives to defend their own honor.
In a passage from William Shakespeare’s Othello, Iago dramatizes a subsequent conflict between Othello and Desdemona when he warns the former of a green-eyed monster, the manifestation of jealousy. As the play progresses, Othello becomes more like this beast that Iago told him about. Instead of being the honorable and respectable character he was, Othello now displays a more questionable personality, one that causes him to doubt his wife of infidelity. Even though Iago does play a role, it is mostly due to Othello’s insecurity that transforms him into a monstrous person.
Throughout Othello the Moor of Venice we experience a rather uplifting story that seems to somehow come crashing down on not only the characters in the story but the reader also. Author William Shakespeare does a tremendous job at connecting us with the characters in the play. Othello, the protagonist in the play, falls slowly into the pit of destruction where jealousy takes control. He along with many other characters in the play are manipulated by Iago and slowly taken down from a peaceful, love filled, and triumphant place in their lives to one that is dark and revengeful. Many are led to their deaths because of the terrible deeds done by Iago, some of which include Othello himself who commits suicide only after murdering his new wife over nothing but the mindset of jealousy and hate. Shakespeare explores a vast amount of literary content here some of which delve into Jealousy. Jealousy alongside intense deceitful manipulation can introduce a person to another sinister side of themselves they never knew to existed. Iago 's ultimate goal in the play is not yet clearly laid out; there is much to
that person’s sense of trust and level of intimacy, and collected from self-report data. Self disclosure is reflected in actual behavior and can be measured through observation of a person’s situations such as the initial stage of a group. Attachment research has shown that secure attachment contributes to subjective well-being, high self-esteem, high self-efficacy, self-control, and well-adjusted interpersonal behavior. Insecure attachment seems to be organized around two basic dimensions: avoidance and anxiety-ambivalence. Avoidant adults tend to be uncomfortable about and have difficulties being close to and trusting others; anxious-ambivalent adults want closeness to others, worry that others do not love or want to be with them, and sometimes scare others away with their intense need for closeness.
Karen Horney “Distrust between sexes” proceeds go into the different aspects of Love and Relationships. In this book Horney gives examples on how women deal with emotions which transitions from childhood to adult life. The fundamentals of documentation are displayed in unavoidable ways in most occurrences people run into. People are blind to the fact that love in relationships can be destroyed by overt or covert? In some cases lack of sympathy is then blamed, when relationships don’t work out between two individuals. Some couples fall into social, economic defaults which impacts the relationships. These are issues people never stop to think about, all they want to do is shift the blame to one another in a relationship. Self-preservation is a basic instinct for everyone and is present at birth. This can enhance the natural fear of losing ourselves in a relationship (Horney 1930). In Horney discussions I found that a person only feels despair because of the deep emotions of abundant from “Love” during childhood. That can develop more mixed emotions that turn into mistrust, which causes delusions that tell them they are not getting love from their partner (Horney 1930). With these types of feelings mistrust sips into relationships, starting from a child carries over into adult life. Reasons are when a child comes into the world learns everything it needs to know from its parent. If the child’s emotional needs are not taken care of when the family increases, the child will feel a need to compete for affection from the parents, which could turn into a painful situation. With this being said the child grows into an adult with suppressed aggression. If he/she has not learned how to deal with...
Feeling betrayal from the person you love can be one of the most hurting and painful feelings somebody gets to experience in life, but the feeling of being betrayed accompanied by publicity can cause more harm to the situation. That feeling of “Everybody knew except for myself” can be extremely excruciating and can cause extreme harm like portrayed on the story written By William Shakespeare Othello. In the story Othello, we have the protagonist Desdemona and Othello who are married to each other, and the antagonist, Iago, who ruined their marriage by lying to Othello that Desdemona has been unfaithful to him. This story ends in a tragedy as we would expect from the author Shakespeare, but the key that led to the tragedy was the theme of pride. Othello was a very powerful and prevailing male character, who believed his men above anyone including his wife. Othello wouldn’t have been able to go on with the embarrassment of knowing people believe his wife has been lying to him. Othello’s self-conscious and pride was the motive that led him to killing his innocent wife, Desdemona.
This happens when one the partner’s feels that they need to make themselves more appealing so as to attract or to be attractive enough to their desired mates. When one falls into this trap you are afraid that no one will accept you as you are and insecurity gets in the relationship. Insecurity can lead to doubts in a
In Othello, the titular character is a visible minority who holds a high position in the army but falls victim to manipulation by his seemingly trustworthy ensign and friend. While the theme of jealousy remains the main reason for the eventual death of both Emilia and Desdemona, the preservation of honour and reputation also fuel the characters’ actions toward the women. Therefore, the men in the play act cruelly and unjustly in order to defend their honour. While the conflicts between the Othello and Iago seem to be due to jealousy, the play suggests that the men are scared of the women and their power to destroy their honour and reputation.
A.C. Bradley describes Othello as "by far the most romantic figure among Shakespeare's heroes"(Shakespearean Tragedy, 1). This is an unusual description of a man who murders his own wife. However, Othello's feelings of hate for Desdemona started as an overwhelming love for her when their relationship began. This transformation from love to hate also inflicted the characters Iago and Roderigo and like Othello their hatred resulted in the murder of innocent people. Roderigo's love for Desdemona was transformed into hate towards any man that he thought was loved by her. Iago's love for his job and his wife, Emilia changed into a destructive hatred of Cassio and Othello. As a result of their hatred Cassio, Emilia, and at the end themselves were killed. The connection between love and hate in William Shakespeare's "Othello" is the ugly feeling of jealousy that caused such transformations. Jealousy can be described as a fear of losing something or someone that is valuable (Godfrey 2). As minor as this feeling appears to be by that definition, it can take on varying degrees of damaging behavior. Othello, Roderigo, and Iago became paralyzed by jealousy. Their thoughts, actions, and behaviors were ruled by it. Jealousy caused their inability to the act rationally. They became paranoid and unable to love. This paper will examine the jealousy that caused love to turn into hate for Roderigo, Othello, and Iago.
Othello, through Iago’s manipulation and Desdemona’s compliments to Cassio, starts to mistrust his wife because he is convinced she is having an affair and becomes convinced to the point he can not believe his wife’s faithfulness. Iago’s disrespect and cruel views towards women enables him to manipulate Othello because he does not care about the fates of women and would rather not deal with them. Also, Iago hurting his wife both mentally and physically illustrates his mistrust towards his wife because he does not believe his wife is faithful and he hurts her, in efforts to prove his superiority. Lack of communication between spouses in relationships can bring many arguments because they are unwilling to admit their mistakes or admit something bothering them and once it all these emotions boil up inside it can lead to the argument becoming worse. These intense arguments can lead to spouses acting upon emotions, which they will later regret their actions during these fight, but in the moment they are too blinded by emotions realize their mistakes. Miscommunication can also lead to others being labeled based on other’s perspective of the person, which is bad because they might not act that way, but if the person does not confront them then they will always assume the other person’s view of a person is correct, instead of learning the truth by meeting the
Trustworthiness is an important component throughout Othello by William Shakespeare. Relationship between two people must be based on trust in order to be long-lasting. However, trust is just a belief that the individual may have for someone and it cannot be seen because feelings are often constructs which makes it vulnerable to be manipulated. In the play, it was due to Othello trusting nature towards Iago that made him gullible and easy to manipulate into what Iago wants him to see or to believe. Othello’s love for Desdemona is weakened because they lost each other’s trust due to manipulation through other people’s word which reflects how easy human trust can be manipulated. Trust was lost between them due to Iago’s wicked schemed to construct Desdemona character into something completely different from how the audience perceiver her to be a big contributor to Othello losing faith in his own wife. Iago used how Desdemona character as a woman can be deceitful, her good virtue in helping Cassio turning their friendship into an affair and how unusual she a Venetian woman to be used to his advantage to manipulate Othello to believe Desdemona is cheating on him.
Healthy, secure relationships are a two way and a reciprocal rocess. Each person first loves themselves and then the other person in equal measures and theytogether have a happy, meaningful, ongoing relationships