Why do we lie to ourselves? Why do we deceive ourselves into thinking that we are something that we are not? In reality most people will find that they are not who they appear to be. We seem to hide our true feelings and thoughts from ourselves, and others. Being comfortable in living a lie endangers our ability to be inspired, hence limiting our actual self from thriving into something much more than we already are.
We obviously are conscience and aware when we lie to others, but we don’t like to believe the fact we commonly lie to ourselves as well. Humans are both the deceivers and the deceived. We do not initially realize that we are lying to ourselves, because we distort the truth to justify our actions. We don’t tell the lie aloud to anybody, and nobody knows it so we just pretend that the lie didn’t happen. This dishonesty within us happens to protect, and maintain our self-esteem. This includes avoiding unacceptable thoughts and refusing to think about reality. When lying to ourselves we sacrifice our integrity and lose touch with the truth. This causes us to lose our ability to understand ourselves clearly, and we can mix up what is true and what is not true.
Americans are an excellent example of people who lie to themselves daily. Every day we are living in a lie. Everyone in the United States says, and believes that we have unlimited freedom, liberty, and justice. But we need to face the truth and realize that the government is a lie. How can we believe the government, when they don’t believe us? They enclose us with loads of propaganda and sugarcoat every bad situation to make it seem somewhat better. Christof, the director of The Truman Show stated, “We accept the reality of the world with which we are presented.” This quote exemplifies how Americans live in a lie. We are presented “the land of the free, and the home of the brave,” which we have to a
22). People mindlessly respond to avoid their true emotions. Truthfully, I was not fine, but exploding inside with nervousness. However, I didn’t attempt to burden anyone with my lack of confidence, so I told this untruth. Even though white lies may be harmless, they can lead to other deceptive lies labeled by the authors as gray, red, blue and colorless lies. Why do we tell lies? Interestingly, according to the (Banaji and Greenwald, 2013), “evolutionary biologists have proposed that Homo sapiens is indeed hard-wired to tell lies,” (page 25). Furthermore, we want to appear favorable to our friends and family and this may pressure us to justify our lies. According to (Banaji and Greenwald, 2013) it is referred to as “impression management,” by social psychologists (p.27). Thus, lies allow others to see us as we want to be seen, such as I wanted the group to see me as a confident person who could handle obstacles and superbly interact with
The society that we live in today is built around lies. Banks lying to customers in order to feed the capitalist mindset, politicians lying to citizens in order to gain power, and charities taking donations with open arms however are stingy when giving back to the cause. The common reason why these organizations lie is to hide what they truly are. People also deceive others in order to hide who they truly are. From a young age, lying becomes engraved into one’s mind, we are taught to walk, talk, and lie.
When confronted with a problem, why does the human brain default to lying? Dishonesty is never a solution, although it may seem like the best option in the spur of a moment. My grandma always gave the example of her youth: she avoided and deceived her friend’s sister because the little girl riled everyone. Come to find out, the sister passed the following month due to an illness. I could never imagine the guilt she experienced. Nevertheless, everyone has been deceitful before and many characters were in the tragedy, The Crucible, by playwright Arthur Miller. Reasons for lying are understandable, but most people will admit that mendacity has only caused pain. Lying’s outcome is never positive: it may seem like a good option, for falsehood can save a person’s life, benefit someone, and it eases stress, but these are all transitory.
Have you ever imagined a world without any family or your annoying friends texting you every second. In today’s technologically advanced world the answer is probably no, because communication via technology is ubiquitous, whether you live in the deserts of Africa or New York city. But this technology did not exist in 1929 during the era of depression. John Steinbeck’s Of mice and men depicts solitude and the distrustful nature of mankind during the Great Depression. This sense of isolation is best portrayed by Crooks and Candy.
Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, analyzes and reflects on how lying has simply become the norm in our society. We all lie, there is not one person in the world that does not lie. Most people lie because they are afraid of telling the truth, however what they do not know is telling a lie can lead them in the wrong direction because many things can happen when lying to a person. The person can find out when everything unravels that person will not have trust in you and you would be known as a liar. To every action there is a consequence, so why not deal with just one consequence when telling the
Through out history people have been influenced by what they want to hear and the way a current trend is happening. The evolution of mankind has drifted towards a different society than what we where born to sustain. We are emotionally driven human beings that want to feel accepted by the rules of society. Sometimes an individual can confuse actions or emotions towards trying to fulfill the standards society has imposed. I have analyzed two articles that incorporate how a society reacts towards integrity as well as honesty and the belief that an individual in order to be a part of society one must comply with the standards that are set. As I began to interpret what Stephen L. Carter explained in “The Insufficiency of Honesty” I examined they
Lying is being deceitful. It is construed in more cases than not, as the opposite of being truthful. Yet, there’s more to it than that. A person can lie without actually saying anything false. There’s such a thing as ‘lying by omission’ and little ‘white lies’ to keep people baffled as to what dishonesty is. In reality, mendaciousness is a sickness that haunts its nurturers without letting go. Then, after a while, a person can get so good at this ‘skill’ that they even begin to lie to themselves.
The Curious Incident of the dog in the night-time will take you on a ride of emotions as Christopher John Francis Boone fights through his autism to prove his innocence to everyone and himself as well. A story of a young boy on a mission to find out who killed his neighbor's dog, but while on the journey he reveals secrets about his family that was kept from him all these years. Mark Haddon did an amazing job on showing how the truth can affect someone in the text, not only the main character Christopher, but the others as well utilizing Characterization.
People are always cautious when it comes to the fine line between deception and the truth. Throughout our lives we are told not to deceive anyone otherwise we would eventually lose them due to our deviousness. However, the same could be said about telling someone the truth. How often can we find someone who has honestly never deceived or lied to someone in their life even if it was unintentional? Why is it wrong to deceive someone? What if they are better off hearing a lie from your lips instead of the cold, hard, and brutal truth? Or what if they are in danger of harming themselves and you need to tell someone, but don’t inform the person in danger that ...
The deception is common, all people lie in any moment, people lie because they do not want to hurt anyone because they want to hurt someone. People lie for protection, for love, for hate… people lie for anything in any moment. If someone tell you that they do not lie, he or she is lying to you because everyone lie. Someone can lie because they have a problem. The diversity that how people lie, It can be in a good way, and just lie because
We lie all the time, lying is not something new to our culture. We lie to our parents, we lie to our friends, we even lie to our significant other, but why do we do it? There is not one set reason on why we lie but they can vary from an insignificant reason to something more nefarious. A good operational definition of a lie is “A lie is a false statement to a person or group made by another person or group who knows it is not the whole truth, intentionally.” (Freitas-Magalhães) We have been raised to know that lying is usually a bad thing, and it’s better to tell the truth, not to mention the circumstances get exponentially worse if you are caught lying. No one wants to be labeled as a liar, or untrustworthy. This may sound unorthodox but I personally think lying is perfectly fine; depending on the situation. If you have a prima-facie duty to be dishonest it’s perfectly acceptable. Ross says a prima facie duty or obligation is an actual duty. “One’s actual duty is what one ought to do all things considered.” (Carson) I’m not the only one who finds this too be true. Ross would also agree with me, He says “Lying is permissible or obligatory when the duty not to lie conflicts with a more important or equal important prima facie duty.” (Carson) As I was doing research on this topic I did read one extremely compelling argument on why we ought not to lie. Aristotle basically said a person who makes a defense for lying could never be trusted. (King.)
All of the people say lie or hide the truth. Maybe a kid tells a lie for wall painting, and I tell a lie to my teachers to justify why I did not finish my homework, and the religious leader tells a lie to his followers to sell a little bit more oil. The government tells a lie for National Security. It is important that we know all of us are some lair that is living together in peace and happiness. Moreover, at the moment that we are telling a lie to each other all of us have good morally reason to justify our lie. Vividly, all of us know the power of a lie and use it to save our superiority in different ways. I want to finish my lying with a quote of Winston Churchill who said: “ the lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get up pants
Honesty and integrity are very important in the medical field. We as healthcare workers are given such trust and responsibility. We should always strive to do our best and when faced with tough situations. When we don't always know what to do or the proper way to react we should always be honest. Let our superiors know what is going on and ask for advice when we need to. This would show that we are honest. When we come into contact with patients they rely on us to do the right thing and always perform our job with integrity. Often people’s lives are in our hands. We have to care about the patient and care about our job in order to continue to provide quality care. If someone hates their job they are not going to give their best in every way they can. The medical field is not a place for that person.
In fact, we might not be able to blame anyone for lying and being deceitful because deception starts at an early age. “At age 2, only 30 percent lie, at age 3, half do. By 5 or 6, 90 percent of kids lie.” Then as we become adults, we lie less often and choose when to be deceitful when it best suits us. For adults, it was about one in every 5 conversations. Another big problem is that we have classifications when it comes to lies- we have real lies and white lies. The distinction on whether they are of equal value is up to each individual, Maurice Schweitzer, from The University of Pennsylvania, stated “there are lies that fall under societal norms and are not very harmful. There are other lies that are self-interested and are really harmful.” However, there are others like DePaolo, the author of “The Hows and Whys of Lies,” who see no distinction between lies and feel that no matter if the lie was motivated by good intentions or not, it is still
Honesty is a characteristic that everyone should possess. However, being honest is a difficult task for many people. Living honestly means allowing a person’s true self to be exposed to others. Honesty is considered owning up to one’s wrongdoings and not lying, cheating, or stealing. Being honest is a trait that many people believe is obsolete. Even though every person interprets honesty differently, it all stems back to telling the truth. Being honest allows a person to earn respect from their peers. Honesty is allowing oneself to be completely exposed by being truthful.