Although believed to be only negative, conflicts based on conformity can have positive results. Problems derived from conformity may cause controversy in society but for some people who conformed, they’ll know that it’s not always going to be a negative result. However, conforming can lead to positives too such as happiness or learning something new. Throughout the short story of The Girl Who Can, the grandma, Nana, constantly accuses her granddaughter, Adjoa, for having weak legs. Not only did she have small legs, but she also had trouble speaking and getting out the words she wanted to say. She was able to think and process the words in her head but struggled mightily when she was unsure whether to stay quiet or talk. For example, Nana would …show more content…
always laugh to tears after Adjoa would say something that took her a while to think about and repeat it to someone else. However this saddens her mother as she would argue against Nana about how some people don’t have legs and why it matters so much. Nana also believed that, “Legs that have meat on them with good calves to support solid hips…to be able to have children” (Aidoo 103). After all this criticism, Adjoa ended up conforming by running for her school’s team and even ran in the district games. Once she got home and told her family this, her grandma was so pleased she began to wash her jersey everyday and even went out of her way to make it spotless. Adjoa won every race she ran for school and even won the cup for the best all-round junior athlete, with so much thrill Nana carried the cup on her back as if it was a baby. Thanks to conforming, she was able to make her grandma very proud of her and bring joy to her as well as her mother. Here, conformity has a positive effect overall, unlike most instances where it’s negative as this incident brought delight and exuberance to the family. Often times kids get picked on in school for their language or how they speak, this is the case for Julia Alvarez in the story My English.
She came from a bilingual family in the Dominican Republic but only grew up using Spanish. As a little girl, her parents would use English when they didn’t want the kids to hear something. Slowly she began to learn more English at school in the US and by reading her mother’s facial expressions. However, there were many incidents at school where a Spanish word would “slide” into her English and her teacher would scowl. Whenever she made a mistake, “I would bow my head, humiliated by the smiles and snickers of the American children around me” (Alvarez 149). Then she suddenly began to grow insecure about her Spanish. Very quickly Julia began to talk up an English storm and felt relieved as she learned many jokes and sayings in English. When she arrived in New York, it wasn’t so strange for her to speak English instead of Spanish and she essentially learned English as a sense. She was able to understand the language and was able to not hear it as English. In this sense conforming benefited Julia as she no longer was picked on for her “Spanglish” and learned a whole new language. Conforming allowed her to learn more and understand more about the English language, ultimately helping
her. Lastly, in the story the Scarlet Ibis, the main character Doodle is born with a disability. This disability results in him not being able to walk, however his brother believes that there’s a way he can walk. If he couldn’t walk, the other kids at school would bully him which could end up really hurting Doodle. Thus, his older brother began to teach and show him how to properly walk, meaning Doodle was conforming to learn how to walk. Slowly Doodle was learning then, “Finally one day, after many weeks of practicing he stood alone for a few seconds. When he fell, I grabbed him in my arms and hugged him, our laughter pealing through the swamp like a ringing bell” (Hurst 133). Over many days of practicing, he was able to walk properly. By conforming, Doodle was not only able to teach himself how to walk, but he protected himself from getting bullied by others. This also resulted in his brother having a sense of pride in himself and brought joy to the whole family. To most, conforming ends solely with negative effects, however this is not always the case. Without conforming, most won’t be able to understand something new or learn more, which are both benefits. In this case, conforming helped each character and their families. Since they conformed, they were able to see the positive results that conforming can bring, instead of just negatives.
Conformity can be very crucial, infact a lot of people eventually start hurting themselves or doing drugs just because they don't feel themselves anymore.Why can't society change? why can't that one kid that always follows everyone in the back can turn into the kid that just hangs with the people they really wanna hang with?We need to embrace ourselves so we can stop all this conformity from consuming us.Tupac was a nonconformist, he always did what made him happy and always told the truth.
The excerpt from “First muse” by Julia Alvarez is a story about her Dominican cultural background. Alvarez has been looked different based on her ability to speak English. Due to Alvarez not have a “Dominican education and her ability to speak English” bullied and teased. As a child Alvarez had told her mom that she does not want to just be the stay home wife who just cooks and cleans like every other wife she wants she does to be different, she wants to be more than just a stay home wife when she get older. It’s ok to know more than one language, but at the same time to should always stay truth to your cultural background/inherent. Just because Alvarez knows English does not make her a different Dominican girl because she knows Spanish too.
In “Se Habla Español,” the author, Tanya, talks about her personal experience with dealing with language issues. Tanya was born in Guatemala and moved to the U.S when she was only three years old. Tanya’s mother did not want her to speak Spanish, because they believed that when they moved to the U.S speaking only English would help her blend in. For so long Tanya believed that speaking Spanish went hand in hand with being poor and speaking only English made her feel superior. After many years she has tried to learn Spanish but has found it quite difficult because although that is her native language it was like trying to learning a whole new language for her. In “Mother Tongue,” Amy’s explains how she has come to the realization that she speaks more than one “English,” meaning that the way she speaks in front of a crowd is different than the way she speaks with her mother. The way Amy speaks with her mother is still English although it is not proper. Amy expresses how she does not really like the phrase “broken English,” because if something is broken it needs to be fixed and she does not feel that her mother’s English needs to be
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Another point I agree with is that it's a lot easier to just fit in and not lead the train and being yourself. I personally know from experience. Growing up I always tried to conform just to fit in with the people that surrounded me. It's not just me that i've seen conform to fit in, i've seen many of my friends conform to fit in with the crowd. All around me, everyday people are conforming and changing to fit in with the society.
Many people have trouble being apart of a society. These troubles come from trying to fit in, which is also known as conforming. Another trouble is trying to express one’s own style with one’s own opinion. This is a trouble due to the fact that many people have the fear of being frowned upon when being the black sheep of the group if one’s opinion does not correspond with other opinions. This is where one’s own sense of who they are, individuality, and trying to fit in, conformity, can get confused. A nickname for conformity is “herd behavior” which is the name of an article where the author relates animals that herd with people that conform. Many people have a different philosophy of this topic which will be expressed in this essay. An important
In the article Mother Tongue, Amy Tan indicates that American immigrants have limitations on speaking English and emphasizes the fact that different language styles interpret people’s unique identities. Tan’s personal experiences show that mother’s “imperfect” English influences her for a life time, and even changes her writing languages.
In the work of Amy Tan’s “Mother’s Tongue” she provides a look into how she adapted her language to assimilate into American culture. She made changes to her language because her mother heavily relied on her for translation. She was the voice of her mother, relaying information in standard English to those who were unable to understand her mother’s broken english. She tells about her mother’s broken english and its impact on her communication to those outside their culture. Her mothers broken english limited others’ perception of her intelligence, and even her own perception of her mother was scewed: Tan said, “I know this for a fact, because when I was growing up, my mothers ‘limited’ English limited my perception of her. I was ashamed of her English. I believed that her English reflected the quality of what she had to say.” (419) The use of standard english was a critical component to Tan’s assimilation into American culture. Standard English was an element she acquired to help her mother but more importantly is was an element that helped in her gain success as a writer. Tan changed her ‘Englishes’ (family talk) to include standard English that she had learnt in school and through books, the forms of English that she did not use at home with her mother. (417-418) Tan realized the ch...
Everybody wants to be accepted, yet society is not so forgiving. It bends you and changes you until you are like everyone else. Society depends on conformity and it forces it upon people. In Emerson's Self Reliance, he says "Society is a joint stock company, in which the members agree, for the better securing of his bread to each shareholder, to surrender the liberty and culture of the eater. " People are willing to sacrifice their own hopes and freedoms just to get the bread to survive.
“Social conformity has been practiced in societies around the world since ancient times,” and the reason it is so effective is that humans have an inherent need to be accepted as part of a group (Sadat). Furthermore, Hossna Sadat reports that:
When a group of short stories is put together, in most cases there is a significant aspect in why the writer chooses certain stories and in a certain order, much like books of poetry. There is a reason to the writer's madness. If a writer has enough stories to fill a book that is so good it deserves to be printed and stay in print, they've probably written enough stories to fill two or more books and those that made it were what the author felt to be the best or looked the best together. The stories have a connection that links them together. In The Baby Can Sing and Other Stories, all of the stories tell the tales of going off away from the usual or the norm.
In the essay “Mother Tongue” Amy Tan, the author, gives a different, a more upbeat outlook on the various forms of English that immigrants speak as they adapt to the American culture. Using simple language to develop her argument, she casually communicates to the audience rather than informing which helps the audience understand what is being presented at ease. Her mother plays an important role in her outlook of language, because she helps her realize that language not only allows one to be a part of a culture but create one’s identity in society. Amy Tan shares her real life stories about cultural racism and the struggle to survive in America as an immigrant without showing any emotions, which is a wonderful epiphany for the audience in realizing
It is for this reason that it is crucial to have the correct balance of conformity and individuality for the benefit of both civilization and individuals.
Tan also reflects on how her broken English with whom she shares with her mother is her mother tongue, and how this broken English has shaped who she is today. I am able to identify with Tan’s feelings as my grandmother who is a native Puerto Rican, has her own “mother tongue” as she still speaks in broken English. After my mother passed away when I was three, my grandmother moved in to help raise my sisters and I as we were very young. My grandmother used the same broken English Tan’s mother’s had used and my feelings towards it mirrored Tan’s at an early age. I remember because my father worked during the day my grandmother had to attend parent teacher conferences in his place. As I was still too young, my grandmother dragged me along and made me wait outside. We had waited in line for about two hours before finally being called for my conference. After a few minutes in, one of my teachers walks outside of the classroom and asks me if I know Spanish, to which I reply no. As the teacher walks back into the room I hear a resounding “Ma’am we must reschedule…there are other parents waiting and we cannot understand you, and we are pretty sure you
She realized the value of her language when she lost it and now treasures it. The kind of Spanish she speaks is neither English nor Spanish, but both. It is overflowing with culture from Medieval Spain, France, Germany, etc., just from the origins of the words. It is her pride and a representation of herself, fighting and living. In conclusion, in addition to Lera Boroditsky’s article proving that the structure of language affects how we think, the articles by Eric Liu, Amy Tan, and Gloria Anzaldua show how language is a foundation for a person’s culture, pride, and self.