Jimmy Jacobs Ms. Kristen English 101 28 September 2015 Essay 1 “The Amputee’s Guide to Sex” by Jillian Weise isn’t necessarily a poem or a story. It’s simply instructions for those with amputated to limbs to hide them from there partner during sex. There is three simple sets of instructions for the amputees to follow to make intercourse as smooth as possible for them. The amputees want to hide their fake limbs from there partners yet there partner already knows they’re an amputee. The amputees must struggle with their physical appearance. They must have a very poor self-esteem when it comes to appearance. Especially the amputees that used to have full limbs and now don’t must have major problems. I personally am not an amputee but I feel for those who are. I could see how they would be scared or nervous to remove there fake limb to have sex. The amputees constantly make up …show more content…
excuses to get one second of their partner not looking so they can hide their prosthetic limbs. “Can you check the door?” “I can’t remember if I locked it” is just one quote example from “The Amputee’s Guide to Sex”. Jillian Weise is explaining how the amputees are quick on their feet and can just buy themselves enough time to remove their prosthetic. I believe the amputees want to remove the prosthetic with no one seeing is for personal comfort and not wanting to embarrass themselves in front of their partner before they have sex with them, for the partner has to know their sex partner is an amputee. Time for foreplay. The amputees try to be like a magician and perform an illusion when having sex. The amputee’s are the dominant performers during intercourse. “Tracking their hands like game pieces on board”, this pictures in my head that they are in full control trying to hide their fake limb. The amputees want to create a “false harmony” with their partner and keep control of their hands. The author I feel like is trying to express how much of a mental struggle the amputee has during sex. The amputee is so ashamed and embarrassed they want to hide it from the partner. When in reality the partner has to know they are having sex with an amputee. It’s just a mental struggle the amputee has to overcome. When the amputee engages into intercourse they are worried about what their partner thinks.
“When they see the half limb they become inhibited, nervous”. Weise is trying to say the amputee is so self-conscious about their disability that their partner is scared of them and won’t want to have sex anymore because they are scared or disgusted. But in all reality the partner doesn’t care about the prosthetic limb for if they did they wouldn’t be having sex at all. “Would it hurt like this?” “Would she tell me if it did”. The author shows this point of view for the purpose of showing the partners point of view. The partner wants the amputee to feel comfortable and not feel any embarrassment or pain. Weise then goes onto say that mobility is key. Mobility shows confidence in yourself and that you’re not scared. The amputee has a lot going on, on their mind during this time. The partner also has a lot going on in their mind too. The amputee isn’t the only one stressing. The partner doesn’t want to cause uncomfort to the amputee because it would just be a bad awkward experience for both
parties. In conclusion, the amputee doesn’t need a guideline for sex. The amputee should feel comfortable with their own body and partner. There is no need in hiding your prosthetic limb from your partner, because I don’t see how the partner wouldn’t notice that a limb was missing. The partner feels fine having sex with the amputee and sees no problem in their physical appearance. So why hide yourself from your partner and make it awkward. Just make it the best experience you can.
In her essay “On Being a Cripple,” Mairs describes her path of acceptance of her multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis by declaring that she is a “cripple” in alternative to the more broadly acceptable terms: disabled or handicapped. Her essay is written with humor, satire, an open heart, and open eyes. Mair’s purpose is to describe her acceptances of her condition by using rhetorical elements and appeals, such as ethos and pathos, in order to allure her audience.
It is Nancy Mairs choice that she is comfortable with. She states that, “perhaps I want them to wince,” when she talks about people’s reaction to the word cripple. Mairs puts her image and dignity on the line, but smartly repeats that she doesn’t discredit anyone from having their own opinion. She does this rather than telling or expecting her audience to convert; she knows everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Nancy Mairs is completely straightforward with her condition throughout the entire passage.
Most people feel relatively uncomfortable when they meet someone with an obvious physical disability. Usually, the disability seems to stand out in ones mind so much that they often forget the person is still a person. In turn, their discomfort is likely to betray their actions, making the other person uncomfortable too. People with disabilities have goals, dreams, wants and desires similar to people without disabilities. Andre Dubus points out very clearly in his article, "Why the Able-bodied Still Don't Get It," how people's attitudes toward "cripples" effect them. It's is evident that although our society has come a long way with excepting those with physical disabilities, people do not understand that those with physical disabilities are as much human as the next person
...ive most of their life as a perfectly able-bodied person until a tragic accident one day could rob you of the function of your legs, and you have to learn how to cope with being disabled. Mairs illustrates that being disabled is more common than the media portrays, and it’s hard to deal with feeling alienated for your disabilities. These three authors have evoked a sense of sympathy from the reader, but they also imply that they don’t want non-handicapped people to pity them. The goal these authors have is to reach out to the able-bodied person, and help them understand how to treat a disabled person. The disabled people don’t want to be pitied, but they still need our help sometimes, just like if you saw someone with an arm full of grocery bags having difficulty opening their car door. They want us to accept them not as a different species, but as functional people.
In Making Sex by Thomas Laqueur, the author analysis sexual differences throughout the 18th century reviewing physicians, scientist, biologist and how society understood the anatomy and physiology of the human body. Laqueur brig us two sex models; the one-sex model and the two-sex model. He explains who we transition from the one-sex model to the two-sex model. How this two models had impacted our society and created an impact in history had it to do with the fact that a lot of evidence was drawn from science. Laqueur also explains how society constructed sex. He takes this investigation in very detail as he explains and investigates sexual differences.
In the book Cycle of Hope, Tricia Downing went from a competitive cyclist to a paraplegic in a matter of minutes. After spending the summer competing in multiple cycling races, Downing is back home enjoying the sunny autumn day riding her favorite route with her friend, Matt. Together, they go for a bike ride sightseeing and appreciating the beauty of the city. As they reminisce about their enjoyable summer, a car appears out of nowhere, and crashes into her. After landing on her back, Downing recalls that something feels terribly wrong; consequently, this woman becomes paralyzed from the waist down. The author uses the strength, courage, and determination learned as a competitive athlete to overcome her disability.
I picked an article on the prosthetic limbs, which are controlled by your own thought. The unique part of this prosthetic is that It has 26 joints, is controlled by the person’s own mind and has the power to curl up to a incredible 45 pounds. Imagine being able to control a prosthetic just by thinking about the next move. The limb has been described as Modular, which gives them the power to accommodate anyone in particular that has either the hand missing to the whole entire arm. It can be also used as a surrogate arm for those who have suffered a stroke and lost movement of their own arm. This just an incredible part of science that getting develop and study by John Hopkins University.
At the beginning of January, Mrs. Jones broke her right ankle, had surgery on it, and she was left with a cast that stretched up to her knee. For the next several weeks, she was at the mercy of family and friends to take her back and forth, for there is no such thing as public transportation in this little town. Feeling desperate and trapped led her to seek out another avenue to get around without having to rely on others for transportation. Having knowledge of the fact that they do have devices for the disabled led her to investigate whether or not this would be a viable choice for someone such as herself. She had concerns over cost, installation, eases of use, and of course, safety. Portable hand controls are an excellent product because they are affordable, easy to use, and, most important of all they are safe.
According to the U.S census, about 80% of people with phantom limb experience extreme excruciating pain coming from the stump. In fact, Ramachandran and Hirstein authors of “The Perception of Phantom Limbs” (1998) report that the pain haunts victims and remains painful even 25 years after loss of limb. Hence, suffering is chronic especially after an immediate amputation of a limb, where patients describe the pain as itching, burning, stabbing, or tingling. In most cases, pain interferes with work and social life and becomes a heavier burden than the paralysis itself. There’s nothing really phantom or imagined about this suffering; however, contrary to what the amputees feel, the pain is generated by the brain not originated in a limb that doesn’t exist. To be more specific, the intensity of the pain could be found in the neurons of the brain. With this in mind, one must be sure that phantom limb syndrome is certainly not a modern discovered occurrence; however, the exact cause of this sensation has puzzled scientists for dec...
Although Linton describes instances in which she attempts to distance herself from the passivity her condition seems to require by demanding her newly disabled body be taken seriously (especially by an “unassuming” salesman trying to take advantage of fitting her for a prosthesis), it is not until one hundred pages in that readers might begin to get the feeling Linton is finally approaching the real crux of her story. This is not to say that the text before this point is trite or inconsequential; on the contrary, as after her hospital stay she writes about exposing herself to a new world where she is a curious entity, moving to California to attend college only to find they have already discovered “the disability movement” and she does not quite fit into their image of it just yet, and situating the disabled body against “normative” notions such as travel, dance, sex, intimacy, and celebrity. It is precisely in this section’s substantiality that Linton is at last able to reach a crucial narrative point, revealing a poignant and pivotal moment in her life’s bumpy journey.
First and foremost, the literary trope of disability is found in the short story, “Cathedral” by Raymond Carver. In summary, the story follows a couple who house a blind man for the night. The husband is our narrator and the narrator’s wife (neither of the spouses’ names are revealed to readers) declares that her friend, Robert, is coming to visit them. Robert is a blind man whose wife has recently died. The narrator’s wife met Robert while she worked as a reader to the blind. The narrator is not keen upon Robert coming to lodge at his home and is disconcerte...
A decision was made immediately to amputate the toe, she explained that it was an easy decision to make. This was due to the fact that she believes that the Lord knows best. However, while recuperating after the first surgery Mrs. Cumberbatch was dealt another blow, she would have to now amputate the leg, as the blockage was further up the leg. Again she reiterated that, she was comfortable with doing the...
...c changes. Some people undergo depression while others learn to adapt to the new lifestyle. With creating Me Before You, Jojo Moyes revealed a novel containing a widespread of border crossings. Will physically changed after he was hit by a car and came across many emotional conflicts with his new life. Louisa withstood a psychological change, accepting that Will wanted to kill himself. Aside from the obvious emotional border crossings it comes with, quadriplegia has changed today’s general public for the best. The community is more informed, active, and aware of issues concerning quadriplegia and other long term disabilities. In the novel, Louisa embodies the general public as she is actively researching while assisting Will in his quadriplegic journey. The novel Me Before You, by Jojo Moyes would only be a great addition to a curriculum respecting border crossings.
Tim Rose and his wife Natalie Rose have experienced many assumptions and stereotypical comments solely based on their appearances. Natalie is able-bodied, and Tim was born with cerebral palsy (Verstraten, 2014). The Roses have created the “Rose Centre for Love, Sex, and Disability” which aims to promote disability in a positive light, and educate disabled and able-bodied people around the topics of love, sex, and relationships (Verstraten, 2014). The chosen cultural artifact addresses the conversation of a romantic relationship between an able-bodied and a disabled person, and touches on the stigmatization surrounding this relationship. The cultural artifact is a Toronto Star news article titled “Surprise! Disabled People Have
Today I’d like to speak with you on an issue that has been sweeping our nation for centuries. Sexual assault. According to the Huffington Post, every 98 seconds someone in the United States is sexually assaulted. Every 98. While movements like #metoo are bringing light to this horrible topic, simply talking about sexual assault isn’t enough anymore. But there is something we can do to help prevent sexual assault, that starts at the very beginning of our education system. Comprehensive Sex Ed.