Ask me no Questions, by Marina Budhos, is a precarious story of an illegal immigrant from Bangladesh and her sister. Nadira is a nice and compassionate person who has a very strong bond with her family. Nadira and sister Aisha have been placed into a very precarious situation in which both their parents are absent in their lives. Their father was placed in an immigration detention facility due to an expired visa and their mom is in hiding at a local church. Both sisters must work together to save their parents and it is through this long and emotional journey that Nadira and her Mother gradually developed self confidence due to their strong bond. Nadira proves to have an increase of self-confidence with the presence and motivation of her family members when they are on their way to the Asylum in Canada. Nadira’s self confidence is increased because her family tries to stay positive and hope that they get accepted. For instance, when Nadira and her family are on their way to Canada, Abba their father tells Aisha and Nadira a story to make them forget about what will happen if they do not get accepted to the Asylum. When Abba decides to tell Nadira …show more content…
and Aisha a story they both grin with happiness, making them forget about the bad things that could happen, increasing their self-confidence (Budhos 6). This evidence illustrates that Nadira and Aisha have an increase in self confidence because of the facial expression they make after Abba tells them a story. They grinned when Abba told Nadira and Aisha a story when before the family was worrying about what would happen if they didn’t get accepted. When they talked about the negative they started to expect the worst to happen, because of this Nadira decided to ask Abba to tell them a story because she hoped it would increase her positivity level. When a person is positive, they will hope for the best, shown in page 6 when the family is excited again about getting into Asylum in Canada. This proves the idea that strength in Unity/Family endorses self confidence. Nadira continues to have a growth in self confidence when she has a flashback to when Abba taught her how to breathe underwater. Nadira’s self confidence is increased because when she is crying in pain (Budhos 115) Abba still continues to be hard on Nadira and teach her a lesson. When Nadira is crying in pain she begins to realize why Abba is doing this. Abba cares for Nadira and is trying to help her. This proves that they have a strong bond. This supports the idea that strength in Unity/Family endorses self confidence by Abba teaching and caring for Nadira, and Nadira having an increase in self confidence (Budhos 115). As a result, Strength in Unity/Family endorses self confidence. In addition to Nadira having an increase of self confidence, Nadira’s mother also shows to have an increase of self-confidence when she is able to get on the phone with Nadira, only to find out that she is okay.
Ma’s self confidence has grown because of the presence of her daughters and that they are okay. In the book, when Nadira gets on the phone with Ma, she becomes extremely happy. Ma knowing that her two daughters are ok proves that she has had a growth in self-confidence because of how happy she is. In the book, Ma almost cries and is jumping with joy (Budhos 70). That positivity endorses self-confidence. Ma didn’t know if Nadira and Aisha were okay, so with that new knowledge Ma has had an increase in self-confidence. All in all, this suggests that strength in Unity/Family increases in
self-confidence. Finally, later in the book Nadira and her Family are on their way to a court case, Ma decides that it is a good idea to go to McDonald’s, as it could be their last meal as a family. Nadira and her family’s self confidence has been increased because of the family getting along and sharing a good family meal. In the book, Nadira and her family go to McDonald’s, almost forgetting about the problems that they are facing (Budhos 155). This is important because whenever a person has no worries they will always hope and expect the best. This adds up to suggest that strength in unity/family endorses self confidence because of the positivity from Nadira’s family rubbing off on her when they are enjoying some family get along time(Budhos 155). The great impact of a strong relationship with family members in negative and sad times is definitely one of the big themes that comes across Ask me no Questions. Even when it would have been easier to ignore family members and give up on her dreams, Nadira tried to find the good out of the situations and continue with her challenges. It is a reminder to all of us that family can provide the positivity to help us feel better. For Nadira, that would be the comfort that Aisha provides in certain moments that keeps Nadira going, and for Ma it would be the presence of her entire family.
Joan Bauer is a writer who wrote a lot of books , for everyone any age, but some book are for kids but adults can still read it.Joan Bauer was born July 12, 1951. She was born in River Forest,Illinois. Joan Bauer mostly wrote young adult literature that means for teengers, who is haveing a family problem,like sickness, or fight .I am going to tell you about “Tell Me”. Tell Me is about Anna Was going for vacation at her Grandmother Mim’s house in Rosemont. She had a lot of fun that is forgot about her parents are fighting. After a while, there was a problem that she saw a girl on a bus and she was saying “help, help”. After the problem was solved she went back home and everything was okay between her parents. They lived with fun and loving family
Through the view of a young girl, this story really captures what it’s like to feel like immigration is the only option for a family. In the story, set in the 1960’s, Anita lives in the Dominican Republic, a country with a dictator named el jefe. One day at school, Anita’s cousin is called out of class, and Anita is asked to go with. She finds out that her
Just Checking by Emily Colas is a self-reflective, anecdotal compilation of short stories and memories with each story assigned a heading or title that often foretold whether the following explanation would be funny or profound. I was drawn to the book not only out of interest in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and how it affects a patient’s way of living, but also because in doing initial research into the book, there was an editorial review from Dave Sedaris who happens to be one of my favorite authors and who possesses a sense of humor that is both witty and often inappropriate. Dave Sedaris commented that Just Checking was terribly funny and selfishly and hoped that the author, Emily Colas, would suffer a relapse. With that critique, I chose this book. I found the book to be a quick read, but it wasn’t quite as humorous as I expected. Nevertheless, this was a difficult topic to discuss from any perspective. Colas covered her obsessions and sufferings with a heavy dose of sarcasm and wit, taking advantage of the many opportunities she had to poke fun at herself.
One example of her urgency and dedication to her sister is shown in the story when Nea takes it upon herself to rescue Sourdi from her new home. Nea stands strong in her conviction to help her sister, saying “You have to drive me to Des Moines. We have to get her.” (Chai 145). This atypical swap shows the importance of varying tendencies among family units, and displays the strength of a younger sister when she faces the need to protect and save her older sister Sourdi.
Being together and having this kind of trust, can also build a strong bond within the family. Building good bonds within a family can help to build a strong core, and when someone has a problem, they know they have their family to lean on. Having a strong core within a family develops a sense of security, because each person knows that they have eachother’s backs. The bond built between family members can help you solve any problems you face in life. In Desert Exile, many times there were parts of the text that showed lots of selflessness or selfishness.
..., she made herself known: a 14 year old, illegal Bangladeshi girl fighting for her family’s freedom.
Speaking up and not isolating yourself can help oneself overcome problems in life that can cause difficulties. Bottling up feelings that should have been talked through can help oneself be more confident. For instance, in the beginning of the book, Melinda is running out of the lunch room after
Upon arrival to Yasmina’s apartment, Sara, Abdul Samee’s mother, is discontent with the home. When she learns that Yasmina and her father are refugees, Sara wants to leave immediately. She believes that a refugee is not suitable for her son and that their family is too high in stature to be marrying below themselves. Yasmina’s father also reveals that he is unemployed due to his dental credentials not transferring to the United States. This adds to Sara’s discomfort with her son potentially being in a relationship with Yasmina. Abdul Samee’s father states that since Abdul Samee is going through a divorce he is damaged goods; thus, none of the upper-class families would have him, and they must settle for what they can
Lahiri, a second-generation immigrant, endures the difficulty of living in the middle of her hyphenated label “Indian-American”, whereas she will never fully feel Indian nor fully American, her identity is the combination of her attributes, everything in between.
When they finally arrived in the U.S., Andreu believed smuggling back into the U.S. would have been her only concern, but she was wrong. Andreu couldn't do certain things due to the fact that she was undocumented. She struggled for a while, but then the Congress passed the amnesty law of 1987. And her future of no success ended up bright and the doors that were once closed, opened up. She then came to realize that she is not any different than anyone else and she fits in with both, the illegal immigrants and the "real" Americans.
The average person wants one thing more than anything else, and that thing is to belong. Usha, a young girl from Calcutta, is no different. Already trying the find her place in the world, Usha must now assimilate into cultural society within the United States. Usha’s uncle, Pranab Kaku, came from Calcutta as well having first come to America, his experiences start off worse than Usha’s, which causes him to join the family in an act of social grouping. With the Old World trying to pull them back and the New World just out of reach, both must overcome tradition and develop their own personal values.
Mukherjee then begins to compare and contrast her sister in a subject-by-subject organization. She states, “…she clings passionately to her Indian citizenship and hopes to go home to India when she...
She is the one that refuses to oblige to societal orders. She is the “Shadow-Beast” (38) with “Chicana identity grounded in the Indian woman’s history of resistance” (43). Although alienated physically, Anzaldua is “immobilized” (43) mentally the more confined she becomes in a culture engulfed in pure oppression. She claims her “shadow-beast” as the depiction of her highly wanted independence as an individual human being, which eventually forces her to leave her family behind to find herself separately from the “intrinsic nature buried under the personality that had been imposed” (38) for people like Anzaldua for many years. Her push for rebellion sets a voice for the silenced anger and pure resistance against the ostracism of herself, her family, culture, and the white-washed society she has been born into. To be the only Chicana, lesbian, and rebellious woman in her family is considered sinful, as women, according to Anzaldua, in Mexico only have “three directions she could turn: to the church as a nun, to the streets as a prostitute, or to the home as a mother” (39). Noticing that women are culturally restricted to these roles, Anzaldua creates the opposite role for herself claiming to take the “fourth choice” by “entering the world by way of education and career and becoming self-autonomous persons,” (39), which she uses to her advantage to transform the prolonged oppression into her long awaited freedom to live as an openly queer woman
...is an American by virtue but Indian due to her parent’s upbringing. That is the reason why she is referred to being an Indian-American author which she has embraced. Due to the fact Bengali marries within their caste, Lahiri married a Latin American Journalist Alberto Vourvoulias and have two sons, Octivian and Noor. After getting married, Lahiri does not feel the need to be shy about speaking in Bengali or any other language. Currently residing in Rome with her family to feel how immigrants adapt to change and to go experience what her characters and parents do in her short stories. Through writing, Lahiri has discovered the fact she belongs to both the worlds and the generations of Indian-American immigrants will change and bring intense joy. "It has been liberating and brought me some peace to just confront that truth, if not to be able to solve it or answer it.”
Have you ever judge a book by the cover or made a bad first impression without getting to know the person first? Human beings need to come to the realization that everyone come from different walks of paths. We need to stop labeling people as "the other." No-Name Woman, Kingston 's aunt experienced Edward Said 's concept through the people in her village by them looking at her situation through a one-sided lens. The village that Kington 's family lived in had a preconceive notion on what the people should behave like and adultery was like a sin and a crime no matter of the circumstances.