“Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself” - Oprah. In a relationship, people have standards; people have things they need and want from their romantic partners. These standards and needs wouldn’t be met in a toxic relationship, right? In someone else's eyes they wouldn’t. But what do the people in the relationship think? Juliet didn’t believe she was in a toxic relationship, but from the outside, that is what it seemed like. Juliet claimed to love Romeo and wanted to always be with him; however, Juliet loved him so much that she killed herself when she found out Romeo killed himself. Why did Juliet do this to herself, and not even know how wrong it is? It causes one to wonder why someone would stay in a relationship like this. Frequently individuals …show more content…
Relationships tend to be difficult and require effort. On the contrary, people fear loneliness, so they put in the effort. In the article, 7 Ways This Fear Leads to Bad Relationship Choices by Roxy Zarrabi, a clinical psychologist, it says “The fear of being alone is often a powerful motivator for remaining in relationships past their expiration date.” The article later mentions how people often know when the expiration date has passed. The individual can see the lack of effort from their partner but are so afraid of being lonely they let it go. If they stay and ignore all the red flags their partner has, they will still have a relationship known as not being lonely. Even if it means they don’t have the ideal relationship, it’s better than having no one. Part of this fear is also knowing that if they don’t ignore the problems and end the relationship, it might take a long time before they find someone else. Fear of being alone is valid, but staying in such a situation should be avoided. Friendship can also fulfill someone's loneliness, it might not be perfect, but it will be better than the agony of a one-sided
This is explored through the characters of both lovers, Romeo and Juliet. Near the end of the play, Juliet drinks a potion to make her appear dead to her parents and get her out of an unwanted arranged marriage to a man named Paris. Once her parents would find her dead and place in a tomb with her ancestors, her other lover, Romeo, would get her and they would elope together. However because of miscommunication, Romeo was not aware of this plan and he heard that Juliet had died from someone else. Because of this he goes to see her and decides to kill himself, but after seeing her “dead” body for closure. When Romeo thinks Juliet is dead, he immediately resorts to suicide without once thinking about any other possibilities or considering a life without her. This quick conclusion leads to the unnecessary death of Paris, who also came to meet Juliet, and Romeo, himself, which then leads to Juliet killing herself. Before Romeo drinks poison and commits suicide, he says “Here’s to my love! (drinks the poison) O true apothecary,Thy drugs are quick. Thus with a kiss I die.” This rash and hasty decision, had it been put off for a minute or so would have resulted in Juliet awakening and the couple living together, which was their goal. However, Romeo’s impetuosity results in an unhappy and tragic end to him, his wife and his wife’s other lover. This
Romeo’s deep, destructive love towards Juliet brings out a loss of self control, resulting in chaos when confronted by members of the opposite
In other parts of the play Juliet is quite rash and acts thoughtlessly and very quickly. One example of this is when she wakes up in the tomb and finds out that Romeo is dead. She refuses to listen to Friar Lawrence's pleas, to leave the tomb and come with him to a nunnery. Instead she tells him "Go, get thee hence, for I will not away" (V.iii.165). She tries to poison herself but there is no poison left. When she hears the watch coming, she grabs Romeo's dagger and fatally stabs herself. Juliet is so upset she loses her ability to think rationally and tries to poison herself. Instead of listening to the friar, in desperation, she kills herself with the dagger.
Romeo drank a vile of poison because he heard the news that Juliet had died, but in reality she was asleep awaiting for his rescue. Juliet awakes to the horrifying sight of Romeo’s lifeless corpse where she commits suicide in the fashion of stabbing herself with Romeo’s dragger. Though both Romeo and Juliet seem to progress through the Five Stages of Grief in an instant. In the case of Romeo, he initially denies the news of Juliet’s “death” and then retorts to searching for a means he should use to kill himself. Romeo experienced the first stage of denial and skips all the stages until acceptance where he acknowledged the terms of the situation and believed that suicide is the best method in order to be with Juliet forever. “Romeo felt cold, even in that terrible heat … ‘It can’t be!’ said Romeo at last … Romeo had made up his mind. He would sleep with Juliet that night. The only question was what means should he use to kill himself? He felt nothing- his only though was to get Juliet and be with her forever” (Shakespeare 94). On the other hand, based on the inferences from the text, Juliet doesn’t seem to experience the Five Stages of Grief at all and appears as if she has given up hope and decide to die to live by
In the absence of friends and companions, people begin to ache from loneliness. Loneliness is an unavoidable, fact
Most importantly, Romeo’s poor choices and decisions lead to the tragedy of the drama. From the beginning of the story Romeo reveals his immaturity and ill-equipped emotions. His first mistake reveals itself when he claims to be deeply depressed. Romeo claims that he feels like “sinking ‘under love’s heavy burden’,” (Dupler). At this point Romeo has succumbed to his emotions, due to the fact that a girl named Rosaline refuses to reciprocate his love for her. Romeo’s friends Benvolio and Mercutio “urge him to stop philosophizing about his lost love and to seek another young lady as a new object of his affections” (Dupler).Romeo now demonstrates that he seems incapable of listening to his friends’ suggestions and chooses to continue in a juvenile state of depression. Romeo makes another fatal decision when he nurtures an undeniably damned relationship. Romeo admits that he still loves Juliet once her lineage appears as Capulet when he says, “Is she a Capulet? O dear account! My life is my foes debt” (1.5.115). Romeo irresponsibly supports the idea of a relationship between himself and Juliet only because “The young hero is simply shifting his attention to a more receptive subject as he responds to the erotic spurring implicit in his name” (...
Throughout the play Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare, the two lovers make their own personal choices that impact both their lives in a very tragic way. While the readers are hoping that Romeo and Juliet will end up together, their impulsive behaviors lead to death. Juliet's impulsive behavior to fake her own death without clarification that Romeo had received the friar's letter caused Romeo to kill himself.
Romeo believes that he needs to kill himself to be with his true love: "I set up my everlasting rest, And shake the yoke of inauspicious stars From this world-wearied flesh...Here’s to my love! [Drinks] O, true apothecary!Thy drugs are quick. Thus with a kiss, I die" (page ). Romeo needs to be with Juliet because of his deep love for her, his desire to be with her leads him to kill himself. Romeo’s decision to end his life has a disastrous impact on his family and Juliet's, this destruction directly leads to two more deaths. After Romeo has ended his life Juliet awakens and sees Romeo’s dead body. This causes the young teenager to take on a course of action similar to her love's believing that it is the only way to be with him, " O happy dagger![Snatching ROMEO’s dagger]This is thy sheath; [Stabs herself] there rust, and let me die. [Falls on ROMEO’s body, and dies]" Juliet is eager to end her life and considers it to be the best and only option to maintain her love. Although she considers death the best option it leads to a disastrous impact on her family (once again) and Friar Lawrence the one who helps her to stage her fake
When in a Relationship not all decisions are rash. You might risk another friendship for your love. You could possible disregard your family’s choices. In Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare, these decisions that risk family and friends are almost destined. Not only would they risk their friends and families’ relationship they believe the only other option is death. That is why the relationship they share is be described as self-destructive. Destroying or causing extreme harm to one self is not always the best route Romeo and Juliet, but there are three examples of when they believe death is the only option.
“what have we learned.” To prevent any kind of confusion, Waldinger divides what he has learned from this study into three lessons. He reinforces the big value of relations with some metaphors: “the experience of loneliness turns out to be toxic.” He wants to convey how threatening the loneliness is. “loneliness kills.” To stop any doubt that his metaphor is exaggerated, he supports it with evidences, facts and detailed surveys: “more than one in five Americans will report that they're lonely,” “The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80.” These surveys and facts mainly support not only his point but also his aim beyond that talk. The power of relationships: “good relationships keep us happier and healthier.” He also illustrates the previous point by reports from the study: “Our most happily partnered men and women reported, in their 80s, that on the days when they had more physical pain, their mood stayed just as happy. But the people who were in unhappy relationships, on the days when they reported more physical pain, it was magnified by more emotional pain.” Additionally, he illustrates how the relationships can keep us healthier: “High-conflict marriages, for example, without much affection, turn out to be very bad for our health, perhaps worse than getting divorced. And living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective.” Waldinger develops that the relationships do not just protect physical health, they protect brains: “the people who are in relationships where they really feel they can count on the other person in times of need, those people's memories stay sharper longer. And the people in relationships where they feel they really can't count on the other one, those are the people who experience earlier memory
1.: ¨The association of loneliness with lower quality of life, reduced independence with activities of living and increased cardiovascular disease emphasizes the importance of addressing the needs of people for companionship and a sense of belonging¨ (While 332). 2. : Loneliness can create a lower quality of life, with less exercise and more risks of illnesses. Companions give company and reduce risks of mental illnesses, such as depression, which can be developed from feeling alone.
After Romeo is misled about his beloved Juliet 's death, he desperately finds for "a rainstiff wretch [who] would sell [the poison to] him"(V.ii.35). This demonstrates his immaturity and youthfulness as he were guided by his emotions instead of rational thinking. Because his heart was torn with sorrow, he was not able to make a sagacious decision taking into account the subject carefully. Romeo could have waited for Friar Laurence 's message to come as Friar told him he will contrive a clandestine plan to resolve the problem between Romeo and Juliet. It was his choice alone to kill himself, no one forced him to do it. If Romeo would had kept it together and mourned properly, he would have lived happily with Juliet. Furthermore, Juliet also decides to take the same action. Instead of searching for a new way of living, she hoped for "some poison yet doth hang on [Romeo]/ to make [her] die with a restorative"(V.iii.163-167). This clearly illustrates how they used the power of decision making unwisely. Juliet was too indiscreet to disobey her parents and follow her lover who she knew only for a couple of days. Both of these characters did not recognize the power of love and caused a self destructive violence. Romeo 's tragic flow was proved to be fatal when he was unable to see the consequences of his decisions. His downfall spiral was determined
Loneliness is a terrifying feeling that never escapes our lives. When I was younger, my largest fear in life was that I would make no friends and would be lonely. As I grew older, the fear shifted to dying alone. Now that I take steps back to look at this I realized everything I have missed, everything I have misunderstood. I am finally strong enough to understand that loneliness is inescapable, it lives with you all through your life. Life is a lonely place, where even if you are lucky enough to have people around you, all you have to look forward to is losing them either through going separate ways or death.
A young girl, like Juliet can be mesmerized by the idea of love and have the thought in her head that love is all that matters. The intensity of love in both of these texts becomes a dangerous and violent thing. Juliet goes through physical pain stabbing herself so she could be with Romeo after his death. Juliet looks at death as a positive thing because it allows her to be with Romeo again. Before she kills herself she says, “O, happy dagger, this is thy sheath. There rust, and let me die” (Shakespeare V.iii.174-175). In most romantic tales, violence is the last thing you would think of when it comes to love, but it would be different in this play. In both of these texts we see love destroy people mentally and physically; instead of bring happiness to their lives. When Juliet notices that Romeo drank poison and had killed himself, she was not only upset about his death but also seemed more upset that he “left no friendly drop to help me after! I will kiss thy lips. Haply some poison yet doth hang on them” (Shakespeare V.iii.168-170). This bond that seems to be unbreakable between them causes more harm than it would have if they were not together like society would want them to be. During this time period in the 16th century, the parents usually arranged marriages, so this goes completely against societal
Once in a while many people make bad decisions. Usually these decisions don’t cause them any harm in their futures, unlike Romeo Montague’s and Juliet Capulet’s decisions. In Verona, a city in Italy, two lovers fall in love. The catch is their families despise each other. Eventually Romeo get’s banished from Verona, and Juliet is forced to marry someone she doesn’t want to marry. Juliet takes a potion that knocks her out for 42 hours, and feigns her death, hoping she does not have to marry Count Paris. Romeo assumes Juliet is dead, and drinks a potion that kills him, and when Juliet wakes up and realizes that Romeo is dead, she stabs herself. In William Shakespeare’s tragic play, Romeo and Juliet, the main protagonists, Romeo and Juliet, make poor choices which eventually lead to their death at the end of the story.