Stephanie Ericsson The Ways We Lie Summary

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“The Ways We Lie” is a name of an article by Stephanie Ericsson. She is also a published free-lance writer. This article is from an American magazine Utne Reader. This article was based off her experience. This article is about the ways we lie and why lies are dangerous. Stephanie Ericsson quoted “We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, small falsehoods and still think of myself as an honest person.” She said that these lies don’t hurt anyone mentally but she also feels they might really do hurt mentally. The answer to that question is when someone lies to their victim, the victim loses in the progress. The lies she list explain in the article are …show more content…

Stephanie Ericsson explains that in the 1960’s the Catholic Church in Massachusetts got complaints from church members that Father James Porter was sexually molesting children. Father James Porter was not let go but instead the Catholic Church in Massachusetts, moved him to a new parish between 1960 and 1967. This induced him to have more chance to abuse more children of the Catholic Church in Massachusetts. He was arrested and was treated for pedophilia in 1967. He later moved to Minnesota. Minnesotans diocese was aware of that Father James Porter dirty pedophilia past, but let him go anyway. They needed priests and was too impetuous to believe in the treatment of pedophilia. He was burned a year afterwards and was halted. This lie is simply is when you start out doing something but knowing that it is a lie. Basically What the Catholic Church in Massachusetts and Minnesota did. Now the fourth type of lie will be explained. Stephanie Ericsson wrote that Stereotypes and Cliches are so easy to use that they are used to frequent. The universe is filled with an all types of people and modern times is fast and unrestrained that stereotypes and clichés is sometimes are

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