This Earth is home to around 7 billion people. With these people comes the good and the bad. These bad people have expressed criminal behaviors, and with that comes many regrets. These regrets can come from this person or their family, but any person who regret's those behaviors believe they can shape their future actions to be beneficial. I do believe you can change one's future actions, but I don't believe anyone can change permanently. First of all, I think this question revolves around one's definition of what makes up a person. To me, every action one has ever made makes up that person. If one day, theoretically, someone bullied another person, that action would make up the bully forever. Even if that person stopped bullying right after that, and became an anti-bullying ambassador, …show more content…
For example, if Osama Bin Laden were still alive, and he decided from now on he would do everything in his power to help people, he would fit in this group of people. This is because although we can still build buildings and rebuild structures lost due to his actions, we can never get those people back who died because of his actions.The second group of people are people who have changed for the better, but still have flashbacks and guilt because of their wrongdoings. This could include someone who was a bully for a few years, and then realized how his/her actions were affected others. This person might then become a great person, but they are still revisited with flashbacks and pangs of guilt. These flashbacks can make up a big part of who these people are and the state of their mental/emotional health.Finally, this last group of people consists of people who have changed themselves completely are are completely different from who they were. Although they may have changed, they have not changed permanently, as their past actions can not be undone as hard as they
Although, specifically, the difference between guilt and remorse is that “remorse is experienced when the guilt about the hostile wishes was insufficient to prevent acting," remorse is a sufficient part of preventing an event from recurring and changing one's life in the future (Marriot 9). Nonetheless, there are some individuals that never seem to experience this emotion in any sense. For example, Darren, a child that grew up in a rather difficult environment, was prosecuted for the accidental murder of another child, but because he had such a difficult childhood and such, the child seemingly had no remorse for the act. Because he was put through therapy, Darren later stated that "reparation is only possible if the pain of guilt and remorse about harm done can be tolerated (Marriott 5)." One can never heal if they cannot first learn to experience regret and later learn to tolerate and overcome that regret. There must be a proper balance because being overwhelmed by regret is just as negative as never feeling any remorse at all. However, the problem is that "Emotions have long shed the stigma of being a sort of line noise, something that interferes with proper operation of our minds," so research has found that there is "a high degree of specificity in the correspondence
Their memories will give them an ideal live to go towards or a life in which they want to progress from. If an individual chooses to run from the past in which they lived, it is still a component in their life which shaped them to be who it is they became, despite their efforts to repress those memories. Nevertheless, the positive memories of an individual’s past will also shape who they are. Both good and bad memories are able to give an individual a glimpse into their ideal life and a target in which they wish to strive for and memories in which they can aim to prevent from happening once
“Children who engage in bullying from a young age may be involved in what is known as precursory bullying. Precursory bullying has implications for future bullying, and is understood as ultimately destructive and damaging” (Levine and Tamburrino, 2014). There is no doubt about this, we’ve all heard about adults that have been bullied as children and do not come out successful members of society. Clearly, this is a lifelong
Bullying has many negative effects on many people such as the victim, the bully himself, and society. Studies show these effects may turn out to be short-term or long-term.
Unfortunately life has many hurdles and roads unturned. I do not feel we should regret the mistakes we have made in our past. Or else, we may be too hesitant to make correct choices in our future.
People need redemption from our continual sin, otherwise, we just wallow in the shallowness of that aspect of our lives. Sin stays with an individual and effects the way their lives are lived. Unless they confront their past the sin will always be present. For example, Khaled Hossei’s , The Kite Runner explains how Amir- one of the main characters in the novel redeems himself because he undergoes strong guilt from his past sins. By examining Amir’s sins in his childhood, in his teenage years and in adulthood, his attainment of atonement is revealed. Particularly Amir atones for his past sins of being an eyewitness of Hassan rape who is his most loyal and devoted servant. He is influenced by this moment because he realizes that Hassan always
“Forgive and forget” is a common phrase in our society. However, one may argue that mistakes are never truly forgotten. The Kite Runner suggests that the best way to resolve your past and make up for your mistakes is through doing good. Through Rahim Khan’s wisdom, the actions of Baba, and the journey of Amir, Khaled Hosseini illustrates that the need for redemption, due to unresolved guilt, can haunt someone throughout their life.
In the same way, when children grow up, they still have a violent mindset when they become adults. Similarly, dictators like to use violence to discipline nations, because they want things their way. When adult cliques bully other people, they usually focus on people who are possible rivals. They do not like to see people’s full potential, because bullies can tell that it can outshine their position in their workplace (“Sanctuary for the Abused”). Troubled adults and children have problems within themselves that they cannot fix, so they tend to take their anger out on people (“Bullying: Characteristics and Interventions”).
Everyone makes mistakes, yet even the smallest of mistakes can change the entire course of history given a time machine and a Tyrannosaurus Rex. Learn to cherish the life on this Earth, and don’t let poor choices dictate the future ahead. Making the right decision is key to success, and only we can choose what successes we want to
The power of empathy is often overlooked. “Humans and other higher primates appear to be predisposed to empathy, to respond emotionally to [a] secure sense of self . . .” (O’Conner). This is significantly better than just plunging into one’s past without buffer material. This feature is also what makes
...ople may feel that they want to return to the past and relive moments that they cherish, despite this being virtually impossible.
Growing up as a victim to bullying for something you have no control over can deteriorate
There are many strong arguments that support this and one of them is the life story of Herschel Walker. In his early child hood he was constantly alienated and bullied by others, however, he once stated in an interview that he decided “Herschel wasn’t going to get beat up anymore”. He started to toughen himself up mentally, emotionally, and physically until the point where he completely disassociated himself from his surroundings and focused on improving himself as a human being (Time Well Spent With Herschel Walker). His situation and the many others alike should stand as an ample example that not all bullying should necessarily be considered to be bad; however, regardless of the outcome people seem to ignore the fact that had he not been pushed he may not have developed into the Herschel Walker we all know and love. In situations such as Herschel Walker’s bull...
When someone first thinks of bullying, their perception of the bully may be someone who chooses to be mean or cruel to another due to their own low self-esteem. This concept however is one that may not be true at all. In fact, according to Jaana Juvonen, a professor of developmental psychology at UCLA, who has published multiple books and articles on this subject, a bully usually has a very high self-esteem and is usually from the group that one would consider being the “popular crowd”. [Lin]
A bully can be defined in several ways and this term is sometimes exaggerated. However, according to the Miriam-Webster Dictionary, a bully is defined as “one habitually cruel to others who are weaker” and bullying is defined as “to cause (someone) to do something by making threats or insults or by using force”. These are the formal definitions of the term, but the def...