Spanking has probably crossed the minds of many parents at some point. Maybe the child was being disobedient or disrespectful. Time-outs aren't effective, and neither is any other discipline techniques tried. Suddenly, one began to wonder, "Is a swat on the bottom so bad?” The decision is determined by the individual asked. Some say finding spanking supporters are hard, but statistics say other wise. Of the 1,000 readers polled on parents.com, 81 percent said they had spanked their child at least once, and 22 percent do so once a week or more. That figure is consistent with a 2007 study published in the journal Psychology, Public Policy, and Law, which found that nearly 80 percent of kids are spanked at least once by fifth grade (Moninger). …show more content…
Although Dr. Phil is against spanking, he believes individuals should look at results of many years worth of research and decide for themselves. Each parent must decide which form of discipline would be most effective for their child. In his article, “Spanking Research,” Dr. Phil presents many reasons why children should get spankings. Discipline plays a big role in children’s lives. According to Dr.Phil, “In a study, moms who consolidated dissuading negative outcomes, (for example, spanking) had the most achievement in changing negative behaviors.” In other words, children with negative behavior can be greatly affected by negative consequence, such as spanking. Spankings can be compelling on a temporary basis in getting youngsters to change any negative practices that incited the spanking. Spankings do not cause negative effects, argues Dr.Phil. Moreover, parents have power to spank their youngsters to revise their wrongdoing. Parents who discipline effectively spank on a basis of clearly defined rules, not on their feelings at that particular moment. Opponents of spanking say that it has long-term negative consequences such as increased anti-social behavior. But it’s found that those same consequences can be associated with nearly every other kind of nonphysical punishment. Spanking isnt any better or worse than grounding children, sending them to their room or even getting them …show more content…
Spanking a child is a type of punishment that can be regulated by various factors including how the parent delivers the punishment and how it impact to the child's perception, reaction and emotion Spanking is like milk: it does the body good — or at least the mind. Spanking is not child abuse and parents should not be afraid to discipline their children with an occasional spank. Unlike Dr. Markham, who stated spanking a child is child abuse when he/she has done wrong, Dr. Phil argued occasionally spanking a child who is acting unsafely or terribly does not make parents child abusers or people with anger problem; it makes them parents who care about their child’s future. In disciplining children, parents should do everything as kindly and gently as they can first. They should try to understand a child, make sure the child understands what is expected of them, use reasoning and find an adequate nonphysical consequence, like a “timeout” or taking away privileges, in which Dr.Markham believe in. But if the child won’t cooperate, some kids need something more forceful to back it up.This is where backup spanking comes in. It involves two swats of an open hand to the rear end. However, the two doctors
Spanking is permitted in many U.S. States but it does very by state. I would inform the parents that in the state of South Carolina, it is legal to spank your child for punishment if for sole purpose of restraining or correcting, and the force has is reasonable in manner and moderate in degree. (Kidjacked Spanking Laws, 2014) I have always felt that spanking doesn't work. It can temporarily stop the unwanted behavior, but the most effective forms of discipline are those that teach children how to control their behavior. Spanking could teach your child to be afraid of you when they have done something wrong, but it does not teach the child the real consequences of their behavior.
...ture, and second, in the parent’s eyes, must be increased in order to continue to be effective. This can possibly lead to child abuse because the parent won’t understand how violent they are being toward their child because the child will not react the same to spanking after time as it did the first time it was spanked.
Spanking is the most effective form of discipline when a child knows doing something is wrong, but the child does it anyway. A child who is properly disciplined through spanking is being taught how to control her or his impulses and how to deal with all types of authorities in future environments. Parents can control their child’s future
Critics of spanking need to understand that spanking and abuse are not the same. Spanking is a quick squat on the buttock that causes temporary pain. Child abuse is physical injury such as beating, kicking, or punching a child with cruel intent. Psychiatrist William Glasser makes a distinction between the two. Glasser explains, “Discipline is directed at the objectionable behavior, and the child will accept its consequences without resentment.” By contrast, he defined punishment as, “A response that is directed at the individual” (qtd. in Dobson 96). Spanking allows room for forgiveness and reconciliation. Abuse comes from a place of hostility. It is harsh and leaves little room for forgiveness or reconciliation. Yes, spanking may cause brief discomfort, but it is not the same as beating, punching, or kicking a child.
In order to conclude an argument, it is first necessary to define any vague or ambiguous terms. Spanking is an unclear term in need of explanation. To some spanking means to slap a child on the buttocks, while others believe it is a mild form of corporal punishment which does not cause harm to the child. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) defines spanking as ?one or two flat-handed swats on a child?s wrist or rear end? (Rosellini 52). The New American Webster Handy College Dictionary also agrees with the AAP when defining spanking as ?[to] strike with an open hand.? Spanking does not infer a sustained whipping from Dads belt, but a mild form of corporal punishment that does not cause injury.
Spanking is commonly associated with parents attempting to correct behavior in a child; ultimately often out of frustration and/or anger with the child’s behavior. In the heat of the moment, most parents do not associate the long term psychosocial or behavioral effects the act of spanking can have on a child. The dangers of these effects derived from how children think and behave show us that spanking is not an effective form of discipline.
In this article, the author expresses the effects that spanking your child as a form of punishment at the age earlier ages of toddlerhood such as to the effects it has on the child when he or she becomes older. Spanking is a very common form of punishment at this age and used frequently across the United States as well as other countries. Many parents do not understand the effects that spanking has on their children now and what effect it has on their future and that there are other forms of punishment that can leave the same impact but cause less emotional and physical damage.
Many people believe that physical punishment of a child is not right and in a public institution, they have a right to get involved and try to stop what they see as violence against children. In fact, one Texas judge sentenced a mother to five years of probation after spanking her child, even though there is no law that strictly prohibits spanking. Despite the increasing mindset that spanking is abuse, sometimes a handprint on the backside is more effective than a firm warning. In a study done by the Pediatrics, it was found that a small two percent of children observed showed any negative effects from spanking and even that could have been the result of something else. So if spanking does not really harm a child mentally, then there is nothing to worry about.
Spanking has several effects on the children which build many opinions among the people. Researchers have shown many positive and negative sides of physical punishment. There are several people that agree with spanking their children and there are others who are against punishing the children. Many of the parents who spank their children believe that spanking is sometimes okay because they think it will make a positive effect on their behavior. Spanking is used to correct children’s behavior, but, many people think that instead of bettering the child’s behavior it makes it worse. Spanking has been a huge issue in the past decades. Many children have been physically abused and many others have never experienced any physical harm. However, several people have been fighting so that spanking becomes against the law and so that the children have more rights and security. On the other hand, there are other parents that want spanking to be legal because they believe spanking has helped them correcting the child's behavior.
To commence, parents should avoid spanking their children because of the physiological consequences. Sufficient evidence exists in proving that spanking slows the cognitive development of children (Straus, 2011). Spanked children tend to do far worse on achievement tests than those whose parents used other forms of punishment (Straus, 2011). Because of the retardation in the cognitive development, spanked children must spend their entire lives catching up to their counterparts who did not receive such harsh punishment and cannot enjoy a quality childhood. Hitting children can cause back problems (Hunt, 2011). Shock waves travel up the spine and cause nerve damage (Hunt, 2011). If a parent disciplined his/her child out of love, it would not be with an expensive medical bill later on in life.
First of all, spanking does not lead to violence. Our surrounding world and media do. "The average sixteen-year- old has watched 18,000 murders during his formative years, including a daily bombardment of stabbings, shootings, hangings, decapitations, and general dismemberment" (Meier 34). It seems unjust to blame parents who are trying to raise their children properly for today's violence. If a child touches a hot stove he does not become a more violent person because of it, he just learns not to do it again because he learned a valuable lesson from the pain (Meier 34).
The issue of spanking is whether it is justifiable or an act of child abuse. Some child specialists, such as Christine Walsh and Michael Boyle, argue that if a parent must administer a spanking, it should not be through anger and only as a last option when other forms of discipline have been deemed unsuccessful. They say that for a spanking to be instructive it must be...
Now it has been becoming the method that is being used by most doctors and many parents. The type of discipline parent’s use is entirely up to them. However, this points is not important because spanking might actually more harm than good. Meaning spanking will not correct the problem that the child has, but only make them worse. In some countries around the globe is illegal to spank their child.
"Spanking doesn 't work, and it just makes kids mistrustful and aggressive. What we 're teaching them is fear rather than responsibility and problem-solving." said Kimberly Sirl, a clinical psychologist at St. Louis Children 's Hospital (Blythe). This is important because parents need to understand spanking doesn 't work and it results that the child becomes aggressive and mistrustful. Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured. Doctors and teachers are required to report to authorities any marks, bruises, cuts or other injuries inflicted on a child (Blythe). Anyone who is a caregiver of a child is legally allowed to hit the child. It only becomes an issue or problem when the child is left with bruises, marks, and injuries. If a doctor or teacher were to see any type of bruise on the child they are required to report it. There is spanking a
I personally do not advocate spanking. I could not imagine losing my temper to a point where I thought I needed to spank my child. While I do anticipate that having children will be a real test of patience, I do not expect that I will lose my patience so much that I will spank my children. I find spanking to be a real contradiction to what most parents tell their children. Most parents do not allow their children to hit, whether they are angry or not. Even when kids think another kid did something wrong, or bad, they are still not allowed to hit. If a parent tells a kid this, and then turns around and spanks the kid when they do something wrong, how will the kid ever learn that hitting is wrong? In my opinion, there has to be a better way to discipline children. I think that sending a child to a room where they cannot interact with anyone else, and then taking away a privilege would be a better way of handling discipline. Also, when I was a child, I can remember that when I was angry, my dad would come in to my room after I had time to cool down and talk to me about why I was angry. I can remember these as really fond times with my dad. It helped me identify why I was so angry, and most of the time it was at my mom for not letting me have my way. When I could identify why I was angry, my dad and I could come up with a solution to solve the problem. I think that rather than spanking, this is a good way to discipline children.