Self-disclosure is the promotion of attraction. People feel a closeness to others when they reveal their vulnerabilities, deepest thoughts, and certain facts about themselves. The sense of this closeness increase when the disclosure is emotional rather than facts. Personal disclosure that is too broad it reduces the sense of openness, therefore reducing the sense of closeness. Disclosures that are too personal can be a highpoint of character and personality flaws, consequently it decreases the likeability. Individuals that make personal disclosures too quick in relationships can be alleged as insecure, which promote the decrease in likeability. The factors that influence self- disclosure is a two-step process. First, an individual has to create a self-disclosure that is neither too broad nor too personal. Second, the self-disclosure must be accepted with compassion, thoughtfulness, and respect. A negative answer towards an honest self-disclosure can rapidly destroy a relationship. When one individual makes a self-disclosure, the listener is likely to …show more content…
As an individual you get to know yourself more each time you disclose to someone else. This derives from recognizing a mannerism or relationship you didn't recognize before. If you disclose to others and gain support from them, you are able to better deal with your issues. Your communication skills can improve with the skill to understand other's messages. The better you know the individual, the easier you will understand the significance of their messages. However, there are risk factors involved anytime you decide to self-disclose. Since communication is irreversible, once you say it, you can't take back what you have said. You can receive rejection, even from those you thou would have been supportive. The more you reveal about yourself, the more people know about you and can use the information against
Chapter three of “Interplay: The Process of Interpersonal Communication” demonstrates a models of “self-disclosure that can help better understand how self-revelation operates in our relationships(pg 87).” By learning about self-disclosure and understanding the models, I was able to understand the effects and process of self- disclosure between my parent and I. It illustrated how self-revealing can be effective in making the relationship between my parents and I stronger and more efficient in understanding one another.
She goes on to use a three-year German study that elaborates on how people unveil information about them but wished they had more privacy. Also, as they seek more privacy, murphy, makes it abundantly clear that they continue to disclose information about themselves because they are afraid of being neglected by others. So, in order to prevent being deserted, they disclose facts about themselves therefore, allowing the cycle to continue. In the latter part of the article, murphy reveals that if one exposes everything about one’s self or it is searchable via google, we can lessen our capacity for intimacy. She sites, Dr. Altman, in: “Building and maintaining an enduring, intimate relationship is a process of privacy regulation”. Subsequently, if one is reckless with the information being disclosed via social media, one has little to offer someone
What specific changes about your self-disclosure and trusting behaviors would you make that would enhance relationships with your friends? I would change the amount stress I go through, talk about both the feelings and facts, and focus on the present to enhance my relationship with my friends.
Furthermore, the type of self-disclosure matters as well. Intimate self-disclosures run the risk of crossing boundaries more than general self-disclosures do (Myers & Hayes, 2006). For example, it may be okay to state that you have children to your client, but it would be inappropriate to discuss the problematic issues you are facing with your spouse at the time (Myers & Hayes, 2006). Making a connection to demonstrate that you are a real person outside of your professional role may be helpful to the client, but bringing up your own personal
Irwin Altman and Dalmas Taylor’s Social Penetration Theory provides for a deeper analysis on how relational closeness develops. A multi-layered onion model is used to depict the personality structure of an individual. Each layer constitutes perspectives and beliefs about oneself, other individuals, and the world (Griffin 114). Self-disclosure, the process by which we “peel back the layers,” is a gradual process that is motivated by what we perceive as the outcome of an interaction. The depth, level of intimacy, and breadth, the extent of self-disclosed areas, are essential to forming an intimate relationship. Communication privacy management, explaining the ways individuals manage the tension between privacy and disclosure, contributes to the overall outcome of relational closeness. The Social Penetration process can be applied to the concept of ‘work spouses’ to explain the high level of intimacy one would deem equivalent to a married spouse.
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People who are in an interpersonal relationship share the same common goals and objectives. They do respect each other even regarding giving out opinions and views hence transparency play a very significant role (Meeks, Brenda, Hendrick and Hendrick 752).
Over a period, more, and more detailed information would be exchanged. The social penetration theory can’t go without the discussion of self-disclosure as it is most important in developing relationships. Self-disclosure is the gradual unfolding of one’s self. It is defined as, “verbally communicating personal information about the self to another person (Forgas 449).” Depending on the stage of the relationship the information can range from thoughts, feelings, goals, fears, dreams, and favorites. Individuals usually maintain protective outer layers that surround a central core that represents the true self. Social Penetration theory suggests that as a relationship becomes increasingly intimate, the self-disclosures become increasingly deep (Tolstedt 85). The first hypothesis which is revealing one 's self can be compared to peeling an onion. Peeling away the layers are similar to revealing more about the self. There are four layers of information that we disclose. The first layer is the surface. In this layer, the information is shallow and usually consist of topics that do not have to be discussed. This type of information is visible information regarding the individual, which can be assessed easily. The second layer is the peripheral layer, where personal information is exchanged. The intermediate layer consists of the exchange of opinions about
Choosing secrets for the topic of my research, -being an obvious theme in the readings- seemed both interesting and easy to collect information on. Secrets are common experiences so there are various opinions on this subject, they affect some people in different ways than others. So surely theres a lot of information out there, but what i’m getting to is the feelings and problems that secrets can bring into a relationship or into a persons life, using the information gathered from books, real life experiences, and research to prove points on my theme. As displayed in A Doll’s House by Henrik Ibsen, and Freefall by Mindi Scott, secrets can have a negative effect on the relationships between people, but once revealed, there is a sense of relief on the subject.
Roark is an egotistic individualist who fights to break the normal conformist styles of architecture in society in The Fountainhead. When Roark and his crew of builders finally finish the Heller house it receives much more negative than positive attention. Rand narrates, “The Heller House acquired fame throughout the countryside surrounding it. People drove out of their way to park on the road before it, to stare, point, and giggle. Gas-station attendants snickered when Heller’s car drove past.
The effectiveness of one’s communication can significantly impact one’s ability to initiate, develop, and maintain personal, therapeutic, and interprofessional relationships. According to Casey and Wallis, “Without it, people cannot relate to those around them, make their needs and concerns known or make sense of what is happening to them,” (2011, p.35).
I should know my skills, talent, how I can impart my knowledge for problem solving. If I know my strengths and weakness if am fully aware of it then only I know what I can do and which is my problem area and thus I can work on it. Today even in class we performed personal effectiveness scale which gives an insight of things which we know but don’t realize can might hinder in our growth process. I scored around 8 in self-disclosure, 9 in openness to feedback and 12 in perceptiveness. That means for me it is easy to read others but I don’t let others read me. I don’t disclose myself till the point of time where I know the person fully. When I know the person is not going to judge me. I don’t let anybody to say anything about me. I am not open to feedback. I don’t like when anybody gives any feedback or comment on me. I fall in the category of lonely empathic that means that I am low in self-disclosure which means that my open space is less. I am low in openness to feedback which means is my blind space is low but my perceptiveness is comparatively high that means my hidden space is high. I tend to keep things to myself. I don’t let anyone know about it. For me it is easy to read others rather than to disclose myself. It can be harmful for my personal growth as it may hinder it. If I want to grow as a person it is important for me to work on my problem areas that are openness
There are 7 different Characteristics of Effective Self- Disclosure. The first characteristic is, is the other person important to you? In this instance of Ramon and Julie’s talk of promotion. She should have been important to Ramon. She is his boss and she signs his paychecks so I think she would be important to him. He should have left out the idea that everyone who doesn’t own a house at age 40 is a loser. The next characteristics is, is the disclosure appropriate? The disclosure that he wanted to know if others quit because they didn’t get a promotion. This topic was not appropriate and I would have not of asked that. Plus, Bill and Latisha don’t know why they others quit, it’s just office gossip. The third characteristic of effective self- disclosure is the risk of disclosing reasonable. This happened when Ramon insisted that he is only on payroll because of his ethnicity. He could have gotten scolded by Julie for saying such a thing, but, Julie thought he was trust worthy. She said that there are going to be personnel movement soon to him. There is also is this disclosure relevant to the situation at hand? This happened when Ramon said he needed more money so he could pay off his mortgage on his house. I feel like that was a good thing to disclose to Julie. This showed that he really did need to make more money and wasn’t asking for a promotion out of luxury. The fifth characteristic is, is the disclosure replicated? It did happen once when they were talking. Ramon said he was looking at other jobs, and Julie responded to that disclosure with a promotion will be coming soon. So that was a good replication, but there is a bad one. When Ramon asked about people who have quit because they didn’t get the promotion. Julie responded to that with she can’t talk about past employees, or why they left. That was a horrible thing to ask your boss. The second to last characteristic is, will the effect be constructive? This happened when Ramon said that every who
For at least fifteen years of my life, I kept my emotions bottled up, my secrets under lock and key. Not once did I even question if I could talk about my life to anybody, I couldn’t. Instead of learning to talk about my life, to talk about my feelings, to talk about my troubles and my hardships and my state of being… I learned to be ashamed. I learned wrong.