According to Mibang & Behera (2006:234) Kesang Degi in her paper entitled marriage practices among the Monpa of Tawang District has described Monpa ways of obtaining a bride and forms of marriage which prevail in the community. The Monpa system of marriage accommodates both polyandry and polygyny. Moreover, she has thrown light on the custom of bride price, role of mediator and on the rarity of divorce in the community. In the Monpas, monogamy is the rule, marriage by negotiation is a general practice. Cross-cousin marriage is preferred. Levirate form of marriage is also practiced. The marriages among the Monpa are normally negotiated by the parents on the day of the marriage, when the groom and the marriage party arrive at the bride’s house …show more content…
THE ZULU’s.
Among the people of South Africa, mostly the Zulu people marriage is the key institution around to which the entire social structure revolves. The Zulu people practice several marriage practices which include polygamous marriage, lobola negotiation, and bride wealth. During Lobola negotiation a set of old men from the man’s side are sent to the woman’s house, they come with cows and other sorts of gifts. There are ceremonies during the lobola negotiation process which include ‘umcelo ‘umembeso’, and’ izikhwehlela’ dance and songs are sang during these ceremonies for entertainment.
During marriage ceremony, the wedding a cow is slaughtered to introduce the bride to the groom’s ancestors, the bride is then rubbed or spilled with ‘inyongo’. The marriage practices continue even after death, when a groom dies his living brother must take his place and perform husband duties to the deceased brother’s wife this is called ‘ukungenwa’, the same happens when the wife dies, her sister then take her place and marry the deceased sister’s husband, however no lobola is required (Afolayan, 2004:333). This marriage practice is continue the relation amongst the two
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Example the Monpa practice polyandry, marriage between one woman and two or men. The Zulu’s however do not approve of such marriage practice as to them only a man is allowed to have more than one wife and a woman who has one or more partners is regarded as loose (Finch, 2012:346). Another difference between these two cultures is the divorce issue, in the Monpa’s culture divorce is permitted with a fine from the party who want it, well amongst the Zulu’s divorce is not even recognized as apparently when the bride gets married she is introduced to ancestors and it is very hard to inform them about such because they regard as their own forever. Last but not least of the differences, the negotiations of marriage in the Monpa is negotiated by parents on the day of the wedding (Porterfield, 1997:500), while in the Zulu culture negotiations are done before the wedding by the old men of the groom (Afolayon,
marry often face a dilemma, to wed the Hmong or American way. Both are distinctively
Union between two quarrelsome objects can be the most amazing creation in certain situations, take for instance, water. Originally, water was just hydroxide and hydrogen ions, but together these two molecules formed a crucial source of survival for most walks of life. That is how marriage can feel, it is the start of a union that without this union the world would not be the same. A Hmong mother, Foua took it upon herself to perform a marriage ceremony for the author of “The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down”, Anne Fadiman. In this miniscule event, two cultures with completely conflicting ideas came together to form a union. In this union, an American was celebrating an event in a Hmong way, truly a collision of two cultures.
All the way through Migdim's incident with arranged marriages, we can understand the old customs that has to do with marriage. It is obvious that, although women were believed to be obedient, they were capable to effectively convince men. Yet, today there seems to be a sign toward polygamous marriages that are eventu...
One custom of Umuofia that would be very different from Western culture is Polygamy, the practice of having many wives. This custom is practiced in the connected nine villages of Umuofia. In fact, a man's wealth is partially measured by the number of wives he has. A wealthy man described in Things Fall Apart, had nine wives and thirty children. Okonkwo had three wives and eight children.
A huge difference between the cultures is the gender roles. For instance, In the Igbo culture, they practice polygamy which is the practice of having more than one wife or husband. In America that is not allowed in most cases, we practice monogamy which is the opposite, it is being married to only one person at a time. However, both cultures allow people to choose who they want to marry.
There are many different cultures and groups of people that we don’t know anything about. There are a lot of people in the world trying to close that gap. People like Catherine J. Allen, author of The Hold Life Has and Napoleon A. Chagnon, author of Yanomamo. In each of their respective books, they brought us closer to societies I had never heard of until now. We learned about the different aspects of the lives of the Sonqo (Allen) and the Yanomamo (Chagnon). They brought us insight on certain things like gender differences, family relationships and how where they live affects their lives. In this following essay, I’ll be discussing gender differences in both the Sonqo and Yanomamo societies as well as how each tribe uses kinship, reciprocity
Then the article connects to how fraternal polyandry is similar to nineteenth century marriage in England. Even though they are similar, Tibetan “believe that in this way fraternal polyandry reduces risk of fission, monogamous marriage among brother need to necessarily precipitate the division of family estate” (“When Brothers Share a Wife”). Then the article goes into how the author of this article, Melvyn C. Goldstein, asked the Tibetan people on why they marry this way. Some said it makes the family more stable and other said that is keeps conflict from affecting
Stasch, R. (2003). Separateness as a relation: The iconicity, univocally and creativity of Korowai mother‐in‐law avoidance. Journal of the Royal Anthropological Institute, 9(2), 317-337
He also includes many traditions about the wedding ceremonies. Weddings usually include drinking over palm wine and guests bringing kola nuts. When the wedding between Akueke and her groom is over, Achebe says, “It was the day on which would bring palm-wine not only to her parents and immediate relatives but to the wide and extensive group of kinsmen called umunna,”(110). This is a tradition that not only does the family get presents but so does all the guests. Not is only the family included in on the traditions with the presents, but so is everyone attending the wedding. The weddings aren’t just about the bride and the groom, it’s about everyone who comes to celebrate. Danny Busch gives details about how the weddings and how their ceremonies took place. He describes the wedding ceremonies comparing the wedding to a piece of fruit. Him representing the flavor of the fruit as love and companionship
Three different Western marriage customs have influenced the characters in the story "Marriage is a Private Affair" by Chinua Achebe. It is about a Nnaemeke and Nene. Nnaemeke was an Igbo but Nene was from a different part of the country. They fell in love and Nnameke proposed. Then Nnaemeke got a letter from his father telling him about an arranged marriage that is being planned. Very disappointed, Nnaemeke comes home and tells his father that he will not get married to anybody, except Nene. Nnaemeke was kicked out from his father's house and wasn’t wanted there anymore. Happily married, Nnaemeke and Nene, had two sons. They wanted to see their grandpa and wouldn’t stop asking to visit him. When Nnaemeke's father read the letter about his grandsons he couldn’t stop himself from thinking about them. At last he was beginning to open his heart for his son, daughter-in-law, and his grandsons. The first custom was that the parents arranged marriages for their children. Nnaemeka's father had arranged a wedding for him with a girl from his culture. The second custom was that love was not part of the marriages. All that mattered was that she had to be a good Christian and had the potential to become a good wife. The third custom is that the woman had to be raised from the same culture. Women from other cultures were not welcomed in Igbo culture and families. These three customs had a huge affect on Nene's and Nnaemeka's lives.
Every culture has several similarities and differences that impact the way they do things. Several of these cultures have distinct traits and traditions that make them differently from other cultures. I believe these differences make each culture different and unique. The two cultures that I have chosen to compare and contrast with each other is Kenya and India. In this paper I will discuss the similarities and differences in each of the culture’s families in context, marital relationships, and families and aging. These are important aspects of these cultures and to examine them will give me a better knowledge of both of these cultures.
Although what we were told by God, in many primitive civilizations marriage was primarily industrial. During early times husband and wife were not much together; they did not even eat together very often.(The Marriage Institution 1). Their marriages were always planned by their parents and in some cases brides were bought. Polygamy was also frequent in the early history of marriage. Although, as civilization progressed monogamy became the idealistic goal of human sex evolution.(The Marriage Institution 6). In addition, as civilization advanced, marriage became more seriously regarded and the wedding ceremony became recurrent. The marriage ceremony grew out of the fact that marriage was originally a community affair and also primitive man had no records, so the marriage had to be witnessed by many people.
Marriage occurs after a partner is selected. In history a person’s marriage partner was selected by their parents. The bride and groom would not have a say in the issue, their father would generally set up an arrangement for the marriage of his daughter dealing with the head of the other family. The girl’s family would seek a husband for his dau...
South Africa is a nation with a wonderful and varied culture. This country has been called “The Rainbow Nation”, a name that reflects the diversity of such amazing place. The different ethnic and cultural groups of the South Africa do, however, appreciate their own beliefs and customs. Many of these traditions, besides African culture, are influenced by European and Western heritage. The complex and diverse population of the country has made a strong impact to the various cultures. There are forty-five million people; about thirty million are black, five million white, three million coloured and one million Indians. The black population has a large number of rural people living in poverty. It is among these inhabitants that cultural customs are preserve the most.
Almost every culture around the world have the idea of bringing together households in marriage. In the United States, this a coupling of two people who will start a life on their own. In India, a marriage is more than two people falling and love and getting married. Family, religion and casts play a role for the future bride and groom. The Indian culture’s weddings have different traditions when it comes to proposals, ring traditions and ceremonies not only for the couple but for the families as well.