Reflection Paper On Sexuality

I found the idea that sexuality as becoming is illuminating and inspiring to me in this week’s readings. Megan M. Burke leaded a discussion about sexuality, a new way to understand sexuality. She explains that sexuality is doing by choosing, and it is a negotiation that one make with the situations and the environment. Sexuality is a matter of existence and survival, and it is continuous and indeterminate (Burke, 23).

I encountered and seriously think about the topic of sexuality about half a year ago, after I came to America. Before I came here, I have never had problems that I have to think about the issue of sexuality. The reason I think is that I am a cis-gendered and heterosexual man, but I still had difficulties to understand that sexuality

One human child was left or taken to a forest when she was a baby. She was raised by a wolf family until she was thirteen, that she was rescued by humans from the wolf family. She cannot speak but roar as a wolf would do, and she does like humans to be close to her since she probably think that humans would only harm her as they harm other wolves. Because all she know about is the world of wolves, she cannot understand the world of humans. Therefore, if she would identify herself, she would be a wolf, although she has a female human body. This is an example of being, and if she tried her best to be involved in human world, it would be an example of becoming. If being a wolf as one’s sexuality in terms of analogy, “born this way” would only be abnormal, with the sense that only heterosexual is normal. If one’s sexuality cannot change and stable after birth, they would never properly fit in the human world, as the wolf girl cannot fit in the human world if she does not

Before I understand the concept that sexuality as becoming, changing sexuality appears impossible to me. How would that possible that one male was gay when he was young, became straight at forty, then became gay again at sixty? Now, I understand that it is just as normal as transgender, that it is all depends on social situations and personal experiences. I think it is a helpful and adjusted understanding that most individuals should possess, in order to reduce and eliminate the discrimination and harm towards LGBTQ communities. Making choices is a freedom that should not be discriminated against, and more understanding allows everyone to possibly change to a better version of themselves, and allows everyone to truly and fully discover about