spontaneous choices with little thought put into them. This was due to the environment I lived and the development that was happening in the prefrontal cortex of my brain. Studies show that the development in this part of the brain during adolescents is a crucial time (Blakemore, 2012). It is typical for adolescents to have egocentric thoughts and perspectives, often causing bad decisions or accelerated learning capabilities.
As my self-ego continued to change, I began to care more about what my peers thought of me, I began to question if my clothes were good enough.. As my self-ego began to develop, through social interactions with my family and friends, I learned what was socially acceptable.. I would compare what my friends thought and done to how I seen myself. I no longer allow what others think of me affect my self-esteem. I have learned to set personal goals for myself that help to provide self-esteem when they are accomplished..
During adolescents people are often making decisions that can impact the rest of their lives. If there is not a stable and responsible parent there to be a role model it is easy for them to go down the wrong path. I grew up in a home with both of my parents until I was the age of twelve. Both of my parents had an authoritarian parenting style. When a parent has high demands and low responsiveness they are considered to be authoritarian (Berger, 2016). It was always made very clear to me that I needed to make good grades in school, however I cannot remember one time that either of my parents helped me with homework. I often struggled with the fear of not being good enough during most of my Operation stage of cognitive development. At this time my attachment style towards my parents was avoidant. Wh...
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My family and life structure would be considered a nuclear one. According to Berger (2016), a nuclear family is one that consists of both parents raising a child under 18 years old. My husband and I are legally married and function as a team while raising our daughter and providing for our household. We both depend on each other a lot. We both work full time day jobs, so we alternate pick up and drop off of our daughter for childcare. We both have other interests and commitments that neither of us could do without the help of the other. I attempt to have structure in our household, and keep everyone and everything organized, but it isn’t always easy. We are definitely dysfunctional. The day to day things get done religiously, but everything else gets done eventually. I have to play everything ahead for it to have any functionality or structure.
Nuclear Family. Noun. A couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit (Abate and Jewell, The New Oxford American Dictionary). This definition has changed in both meaning and prevalence over time; it used to signify just a father, a mother, and their children, but now it’s become more inclusive to families who didn 't quite meet that description. Also, this set-up is far less common that it was, since rates of single parents have skyrocketed over the past 50 years (Tenenbaum, “Honor Thy Mother”). Despite this, the nuclear family is still the basic foundation of all familial relationships today. The novel Cold Sassy Tree by Olive Ann Burns is based on the lives (and deaths) of each member of a nuclear
The textbook “Adolescence and Emerging Adulthood: A Cultural Approach,” by Jeffrey Jensen Arnett identifies the various types of parenting styles, and how these styles can affect adolescents. He wrote that, “Authoritarian parents are high in demandingness but low in responsiveness. They require obedience from their children … Also, they show little in the way of love or warmth toward their children … in a way that shows little emotional attachment” (Arnett, 197). Dwayne’s father was a motivational speaker, and he parented much like the way he did his job, which put an immense amount of pressure on his children to be successful.
Parenting style used during adolescence can be a significant factor in the types of outcomes that occur during adolescence. It has been found that an authoritative parenting style that incorporates both responsiveness and demandingness has the highest probability to produce positive outcomes in adolescents, as well as young children. Authoritative style parenting can also
Beyond genetics, parents have an extremely significant impact on the emotional, moral, and social development of their children. This is understandable, as many children interact solely with their parents until they reach school-age. Parents have the ability to determine a child’s temperament, their social abilities, how well-behaved or in control of their emotions they are, how mature and ambitious the child will be, and so forth. (Sharpe) Furthermore, parents have both ideals for their children as well as ideals for themselves, and how they raise their children is deeply influenced by this.
Deep down inside, I have always known my parents are loving parents that will do anything they can to support me to prosper and succeed in life. The only problem is that my parents came from very traditional household that used the authoritarian parenting style, so that is the style they used on me. While growing up with parents using the authoritarian parenting style, I was not exposed to their warmth or nurturing side. Instead, I was taught to respect authority and traditional structure in a demanding, controlling and punitive way. This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school.
Authoritative style remains high in all four domains. Authoritative parents’ use of appropriate discipline such as using time-out or mild punishment ensures their children’s independence along with children’s compliance with parental demands. Compare to children with any other parenting styles, children raised by authoritative parents have higher self-esteem, self confidence, and better grades in elementary school, high school, and college. They are also less likely to abuse alcohol or tobacco as adolescents. In general, children of the authoritative parenting style show more altruistic
Diana Baumrind (1967), concluded that parents present three distinct parenting styles – authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. Every form represents the level of control exercised by the parents over the child, and also an indication of children self-regulating agency, and sense of self. Children acquire social competencies and regulate their behaviour in response to their parent’s awareness of their needs to participate. For instance, Authoritarian parents set inflexible rules without justifying their decisions to their children (because I said so attitude) and exercise absolute control over them, punishing any deviation from the rules, regardless of child’s opinions and feelings. As a consequence to this condescending parenting style, children do not develop an ability to express feelings and, therefore, may detriment to their capacity to interact with peers (Fielder, 2008). They also show distinct social characteristics such as rebellious, less social competence and low self-esteem (Darling, 1999). On the other hand, authoritative parents, have established a reciprocal relationship with their children, setting clear rules, but at the same time evaluating them in relation to their feelings. Because parents foster a sense of participation and flexibility, children relating to this
In the authoritarian style of parenting, children have to follow strict rules established for them by their parents. Failure to follow these rules will result in punishment. The parents do not explain the reasoning behind the rules. They have high expectations of their children, usually do not respond to them, and will withdrawal love from children. Some parents may engage in psychological control of their children. They will put down the child’s friends, decisions, schooling, and ideas. According to Baumrind, these parents "are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (Baumrind, 1991). Children of these parents are most likely to be obedient and proficient, but they are, also, anxious, unhappy, hostile, aggressive, and have low self-esteem (Santrock, 2012).
Authoritarian parents expect their children to accept their judgments and expectations with no questions asked, parents with authoritative parenting styles are direct and demanding, but responsive to their children. They are more willing to explain and elaborate on certain decisions and explain why an individual should “do or do not” in a given situation. Most would find this parenting choice unusual, but again, over the years it has taught many children great discipline and control. Parents with authoritative styles may find it has taught their children social leadership skills and communication etiquette. Parenting style has been found to predict child well-being in the domains of social competence, academic performance, psychosocial development, and problem behavior. Research based on parent interviews, child reports, and parent observations consistently finds: Children and adolescents whose parents are authoritative rate themselves and are rated by objective measures as more socially and instrumentally competent than those whose parents are non-authoritative (Baumrind, 1991; Weiss & Schwarz, 1996; Miller et al., 1993). By authoritative parents pursuing and continuing an authoritative and direct parenting style, it
Children who are under the influence of parental guidance tend to have better behavior and can distinguish between right and wrong. “Children placed in situations lacking parental guidance are six times as likely than those with parental guidance to have a high level of overall difficulties including, emotional issues, conduct disorders, and peer problems” (McGuire 2014). Children do not have to worry about the weight of responsibility because their parents take on that responsibility for them. Kids brought up in normal, loving environments behave in a more civilized manner and exhibit better etiquette than those who are placed in negative, harsh environments such as...
In the previous study, Milevsky, Schlechter, Klem, and Kehl (2008) states that adolescence with either both parents are neglectful parenting style or one of the parent is neglectful parenting style score lower on self-esteem than adolescence without neglectful parenting style parent. In daily life, parents that let their children involve in making family decision lead their children to higher self-esteem level than parents that only want their children obey without giving any reason. Parents with authoritative parenting style are more flexible, openness to discussion and also willing to compromise toward their children. In a sample of 230 college student, Buri, Louiselle, Misukanis and Mueller (1988) found that
Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
My parents followed moderately different parenting styles. My mother’s parenting style was strict and extraordinarily Authoritarian, while my dad practiced a mix of Neglectful and Authoritarian parenting. My Father was a workaholic and was not around much. During early childhood, I would be in bed by the time he arrived home from work, so I would rarely see him. He did not get involved with my schoolwork and would rarely show up to piano recitals or swim meets. The few times he did show up, he would ridicule me and tell me I should have done better. Since my
A reflection of the self is an important tool to use to figure out whether or not your self-concept provides you with a positive self-esteem. First ask yourself, ‘who am I?’ and once you figure that out, determine if your perception of yourself is a positive one. If it’s not positive, you might want to consider making a change very quickly in order to live a fulfilling life. An even more important tool is to compare your own self-concept to the perception others have of you. I interviewed four people and asked them three questions. Those questions were as follows. “How do you perceive me physically? How do you perceive me socially? How do you perceive me psychologically?” Their overall physical perception of me is, I am beautiful,
One's dream and aspirations to supersede in life must be stronger and greater than limitations set forth by others. The experience that were bestowed to me during my short life has elevated me to the woman I am today. Please walk with me as I give you the opportunity to see the world from my eyes: