Pros And Cons Of Cohabitation

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Cohabitation is an increasing trend which has become the norm for 70 percent of today's unmarried couples. Cohabitation is defined as "two unrelated adults of the opposite sex living in the same residence" ( Kunz p.154). Couples who "live together" no longer carries the stigma that it did 50 years ago, Why do people feel that cohabitating is a prelude for marriage or not? What has throughout all times been special about women is their natural tendency to bond, nurture, show compassion
Today many couples (those who are engaged and those who are not) prepare for their possible married life together by cohabiting, or "living together," before marriage. There are countless reasons why couples cohabitate and are varied. In spite of this, most viewpoints is commonly held that couples who live together before marriage can more adequately determine if their lifetime commitment to one another as husband and wife is promising. Generations ago, our society viewed cohabitating as a couple before marriage was scandalous which young people were strongly discouraged from cohabiting. As a society, that view has been greatly challenged today. Research shown between 30 percent and 40 percent of couples seeking marriage in the United States today are cohabitating. Most of our society believes cohabiting not only as permissible, but even as necessary to attempt to diminish the possibility of divorce or marital unhappiness later in the life of the couple.
Living together is a steadily growing trend that is now the norm in today's society. Research shows that one out of four women will live with a man by age 20 and three out of four women will live with a man by age 30. As far as divorce rates go, couples who live together but are committed i...

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...and working together to accomplish this life goal is critical. Let me be clear, when it comes to living together prior to marriage you are opening a door to even more temptation. the bible tells us to flee from the appearance of evil and immorality, not exposing ourselves to constant temptation( KJV Ephesians 5:3) as previously stated, generations ago, marriage was based on morals, and values but as society continues to evolve that practice is no longer seen as the norm. It is not honoring God when man and woman live together outside of marriage.
If people who cohabit takes the representation of marriage at the same time as married couples refuse them, these symbols can no longer be taken as a reliable guide to a person's "real" or legal marital status. It, therefore, becomes increasingly difficult to tell which heterosexual couples are married and which are not.

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