Why I Lie? The thought occurred to me that expectation creeps behind everyone just as it stands behind me. The entirety of my academic career was degraded to a social label, a representation of a number, and a letter that I dread most. The ideas associated with being intelligent is not a gift but more of a burden. Expectations are not everlasting, but the effect they have last longer than even the most vicious of flesh wounds. Waiting for failure, it becomes inevitable to live up to expectation, it is even more accurate to describe expectation as a torture of the mind and intelligences as the perpetrator. “Rank 1,” “ smart kid,” “ genius” are the few words of ridicule I face on a daily basis. These words fail to even address the most basic of human sentiment, a name. A name which has the most significant impact on a human being is disregarded for a brand not distinguishable from lamentable cattles. Even my friends changes in accordance to the letters etched on my forehead, and the serial numbers on my clothes. There are days where I do not feel human. There are hours where I feel alienated. There are minutes where I question why I continue lying to myself. There are seconds where I ask if this is Tien Nguyen. …show more content…
I carry the world so those close to me will not have to worry. I lie to my friends by smiling and saying everything is fine. I lie to my parents, so I can stay up late working. I lie to my brother, so he doesn’t suffer my fate, and I will continue to lie. I lie out of selfishness so others around will not have the burden of comforting me. But it is difficult to lie. It is hard to impersonate someone you’re not and even harder to continue this into perpetuity. I feel as if I am living in a sphere of lies most of the time, but I am not sure. A fragile world of expectations built by lies that can shatter at the strike of failure. Anxiety attacks me when I fail to comply to expectation, and I blame myself as a
As I read the part on low expectations, I found myself agreeing with Cose. One of his fellow employees of the New York Daily News talked about his career being blocked. His own expectations of himself were causing him no room to grow. Conrad Harper commented that if someone is constantly being told he can never amount to anything better, he will in fact start questioning his own abilities.
In the novel, The Other Side of the Bridge by Mary Lawson, the author capitalizes upon society’s expectation of a character to emphasize the struggle to achieving his goals. Ian, one of the central characters in the plot line, is heavily impacted by these expectations, which hold a substantial influence upon his decision’s regarding his future. To teenagers an expectation: a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future, is nothing but a restriction upon them. Ian believes he is contained within these expectations; to the point where he does not wish to follow this given path. In a time of adolescence, teenagers are compelled by the strong desire to denounce that which is expected of them; Ian is no exception to this. Societies expectations create a negative influence upon Ian’s struggles to achieve his goals. These effects are due to the following expectations: to leave Struan for a superior education, to obtain the opportunity to become successful; to strive for a medical career, since he excels at the trade already; and to settle into a happy relationship, to raise a family.
In “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson, the author uses her knowledge to talk about the different ways of lies and how those lies affect the liar, as well as the people who had been told lies. According to the author’s essay, there are 10 types of lies that people encounter every single day: the White Lie, Facades, Ignoring the Plain Facts, Deflecting, Omission, Stereotypes and Cliches, Groupthink, Out-and-Out Lies, Dismissal, and Delusion. Throughout the essay, it is connoted that people are lying in various ways even though they are not intended to. I had been taught that lying is a bad habit. According to Ericsson, there are many types of lie and I did three of them in my life: the White Lie, Omission, and Out-and-Out Lies; however, I can defend my lies for good purposes.
Onora O’Neill in her text “Environmental values, Anthropocentrism and Speciesism” discusses first different views that give humans an ethic through two utilitarian thinkers (Bentham and Mill), and then in her turn tries to come up with an ethic that protects the animals and the environment by also protecting humans.
...e intellectual man eventually fails because he is out of touch with the natural wisdom of listening and non-doing that he cannot value what he learns.
“No matter how you hope, no matter how you try, you can’t make truth out of a lie” (Berenstain 1). Various children programs or books, like The Berenstain Bears, try to discourage children from lying. They attempt to do this by informing them of the consequences lying brings. Every day, countless people find themselves being deceived, whether by their coworkers, friends, or family. While some lies may appear harmless, most do more harm than good. Lying takes on several different modes for which it infests itself into the daily grind. A few of these configurations are white lies, facades, delusion or doublespeak. More than half of the population have become desensitized to deceit, because today lying is prevalent, and doublespeak is predominant
In life, we are faced with many expectations that are either bestowed upon us by parents or superiors or chosen by ourselves. Just within the last few months, I can recall many expectations in my own life and how I dealt with
Happiness is fake, like something forced upon me; something not real, fabricated and I don’t like it. I’m supposed to like it though. I’m supposed to like everything the government forces on me. I feel like I’m the only person who doesn’t feel content with my life, everyone else seems to be perfect while I’m falling apart at the seams.
The concept of identities being defined by a name (or vice versa) is not an unfamiliar one -- in fact, one could argue it to be one of the most globally discussed topics in writing. My Name by Sandra Cisneros, What is in a Name? by Okaikor Aryee-Price, and The Color of Water by James McBride all prove that society judges people’s identities unfairly based on their names, devalues those with unfamiliar names, and shows little regard for personal identity.
Many girls of different ages fantasize about the perfect wedding, perfect husband, a gorgeous dress, and the happiness to come after the wedding. At one point I was just like these girls. I saw marriage as a paradise that everybody should experience. Around tenth- grade, my rose tinted glasses were removed and I witnessed just how bad a marriage could get to the point of divorce. The divorce my parents went through, changed my entire view on monogamy. I now see marriage in a more realistic point of view and that it is not an easy journey as I once had thought it was.
Who I think I am? I’m not exactly sure who I think I am or how to describe who I think I am. I tend to act differently around certain people. Constantly changing to try to seek approval. Constantly in fear of accidentally doing something wrong; that I might say something wrong and all my friends will abandon me or leave me for someone better. I think this fear came from when my best friend was taken from me. I had known her since preschool, but she had met another girl and she stopped talking to me completely. I’m in constant fear that this will happen to me again, so I struggle to be accepted. I don’t want to be forgotten again.
“According to the article Ten Things You Didn’t Know About Lying, People lie at least once every day, and a majority of those that lie thinking that they can escape with it nearly all the time (Annalee Newitz and Joseph Bennington-Castro).” A majority of people lie in many different situations; feel that we should not tell the truth. At times people have protective dishonesties, people feel there are certain human principles that surpass the mistake of lying. Most of the time, whenever people lie, they usually want to escape responsibility for their circumstances that makes it necessary. To increase confidence by means of others for themselves as a person or things that we keep privacy on.
Kenrick, Neuberg, and Cialdini (2015) define expectations as “our beliefs about [how] the world function[s]…they tell us what we may expect from the people and situations around us” (p. 75). In any social interaction, for example, certain behavioral and cultural norms not only guide one’s own behavior but also one’s interpretation of others behavior. These norms, or expectations, guide individuals as they engage with the people and circumstances around
Thumbs Out A girlfriend of mine once defended me to her father by saying, calmly, “Not everyone who wanders is lost.” The dad kicked me out of the house anyway. But the damage had been done. Not everyone who wanders is lost.
Article one gives the student’s point of view on how living up to high expectations can cause a great deal of stress. However, the second article explains the point of view from a parent, providing statistics on a parent’s level of expectation. The two sources are different because they provide information on both kinds of expectation; self-expectation and family expectation. They are common because the two article explain the affect that expectations can have on the student, both good and bad. They both supply information about the benefits of living up to a high expectation and also cons of living up to