Personal Narrative: What I Learned About Boundaries

As you were growing up, what were you taught about boundaries? What was your experience with saying no?

Growing up, I observed my mother, who is a Type A personality, do everything! My mom is the ultimate multitasker; however, the downside to her efficient personality is burnout. She could never say no to anyone, often taking on more than she can handle. As a volunteer, she served as a Girl Scout leader, coordinated fundraisers for the Young Men's Christian Association (YMCA) swim team, frequently served at our church, as well as various other activities. My mom was also busy running her own business while maintaining several side jobs. Furthermore, she frequently transported my siblings back and forth to several sports in which they were

When school started, I had to take a back seat from all the activities I was engaged in at church. For instance, in September, my pastor asked me to teach a workshop. I was honest with him and explained that I did not want to take on the responsibility out of obligation or guilt. I apologized if he felt let down; however, it was my season to be a student! I felt empowered for making a decision that was based on logic, and not guilt. I am a compassionate person that typically aspires to help everyone all the time, but God has put it on my heart that boundaries are a part of life and His design. My favorite scripture regarding this topic is found in Job 38:11. In this chapter, God speaks to Job out of the storm, explaining that He has set "physical" boundaries on earth. He tells the sea it may only come so far, but then it must stop. I believe God does not allow the ocean exceed His boundaries because it would cause destruction. When my husband, who was unsaved at the time, wanted to date me, the Lord reminded me of the spiritual boundaries He set in place in 2 Corinthians 6:14, in which we are commanded not to be unequally yoked. Healthy boundaries are ultimately for our