Throughout my life I have had to face many challenges. Everything from my parents divorcing when I was young to losing just too many family members. Many people have had to face adverse situations, and many people chose to let those situations rule their lives and take control. For me however, I choose to take every situation I am faced with and turn it into something that will help me grow and give me strength, knowledge, and passion. The most adverse situation I’ve had to face in my life though would be losing not just one, but two siblings in the matter of four years. Growing up I was always surrounded by my siblings. I was the youngest and not only did they all help to take care of me, but they really helped raise me. It’s not that my …show more content…
After his accident I was always worried about the rest of my family. I never thought I could lose another family member like that. A person doesn’t think they can lose a big brother and then lose a big sister four years later. But they can. On November 3, 2014 in the middle of the night I was home alone and heard a knock at the door. I walked out of my room and through the window I could see two police officers at my door. My heart sank. I knew something was clearly wrong. The police officers stood on my front porch and didn’t tell me anything. All they did was ask where they could find my parents. I told them and off they went leaving me in the dark. At this point I started calling and texting every family member that I had in the area. In my heart however, I could feel that my sister Jessica wasn’t going to answer. I called my mom, my dad, by other brother and sister, and then I started calling Jess’ friends. Nobody had heard from her and that’s when I knew it was set in stone. My fears came into fruition. On November 3, 2014 in the middle of the night, my sister was gone. Just like that I had lost yet another sibling to another tragic accident. This was something that I never thought would be possible. It was like my whole family was transported back to the day my brother died. We were reliving the worst day of our lives yet again. Nobody should have to go through that sort of
On the bus ride home, I noticed that my sister wasn’t there which then triggered sceneries of what could've happened to her, all with unpleasant endings. On the bus, I saw my brother and felt relief that it wasn't him. My sister was still nowhere to be found so I asked him if he knew where she was but he also didn't know.
Adversity can wreck your life. Adversity can lay you so low that you never recover. But if you stand up to adversity, it can also make you stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. No matter what your background, no matter what your family life is like, and no matter what obstacles are thrown your way, if you have someone who loves you and looks out for you and if you have a
I have sisters and brothers, but was never raised with any of them. As the only child in the home I was spoiled rotten and was not too keen on sharing much of anything. You can imagine going to kindergarten and learning I had to share. I remember this quite well because it was a traumatic experience for a five year old. The older I got, the more entitled and selfish I became. I can look back on it now as see how I acted, but during that time I actually felt that way.
Even though I have had some hardships in my life, I know that I have learned from the mistakes that I made or that other people made. I will take the things that I have learned and apply them to my own life. Dealing with these situations have made me a better person today and I know that it was better to go through these hard times than to never have experienced something like this. Staying positive and adding a little bit of humor to situations has helped me through the harder times in life. In life, there will always be ups and downs. It is good to learn from the down times rather than let them take
I am not sure on this one but, I find myself maybe in the Disintegration stage. This stage states that the person be transformed into contended over dis-solvable racial incorruptible problems in many instances anticipated as polar opposites (Farley, 2012). I agree with some of the criteria in this stage. I am not racist. I love all colors and do not see any race that is more superior to the other. When we all leaves this world we will be all place 6ft under buried under ground. I do not care what race my child decides to marry but, longest it is the opposite sex according to the Bible. All men are created equal and every individual has the same opportunity to be successful in life with hard work and dedication. Disagree with Black men being
I had to learn to adjust life without my sibling because my mom did not have enough money for them to be with us and adapt to a new culture. During this my mother and I ended up homeless during the winter months, this was the most brutal and embarrassing time of our life. In my teenage life I have overcome many obstacles; Even though we were living in poverty my mother had high expectation for her children and graduating from high school was just the beginning unfortunately I stumble again, I failed my Math Regent and did not graduate but I was determined not to be discouraged .
When I finally found my words I asked what was going on and my mother told me that my sister was in a car accident. When we arrived at the scene all I could see was my sister’s car sideways in the middle of the road with the entire front of it smashed up towards the windshield. As I looked around I saw my sister, emerging from a tan SUV I had never seen before, running towards my parents. The ambulances began to arrive and I was in my sister’s arms when I realized that there was no other damaged car at the
In life we all face obstacles. The troubles that we face don’t define us, how we overcome the situation is what makes us the people we are today. Throughout my life I have faced many trials and tribulations that I had to overcome with the help of my mother, ofcourse. I was smooth sailing in life until I started high school.
It was the last Saturday in December of 1997. My brother, sister, and I were chasing after each other throughout the house. As we were running, our parents told us to come and sit down in the living room. They had to tell us something. So, we all went down stairs wondering what was going on. Once we all got down stairs, the three of us got onto the couch. Then, my mom said, “ Well…”
In March of 1998, my father was rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack. I remember getting home from basketball practice without my mother home. Instead, my sister was there with her children. The fact that my sister was there was familiar to me, but something did not seem right. My sister stayed with me and did not tell me what happened. Later that night, after my sister left, the news that followed would prepare me to encounter the most defining moment of my life.
Four others had passed over a period of 20 years, with two of them six months apart. Each one of us remaining siblings has managed to deal with those losses. It was only three days after my younger sister’s funeral when our eldest brother passed away. We were in complete shock. My mind went numb, and I felt like I was living a surreal nightmare.
Many people grow up with a sibling, in fact eighty percent of people in the United States and Europe grow up with a brother or sister (Dunn 1). Most people can agree with the statement that growing up with siblings has impacted their development and personality. This topic has been researched by psychologist and sociologist for decades; which has provided both positive and negative outcomes of growing up with siblings. Children can benefit from growing up with siblings because they can learn from their siblings, gain social skills, and their siblings may become a valuable asset in one’s life.
The night my husband proposed to me was full of family, good food and wine, but it was also one full of anxiety. His family was uncomfortable with me, and I with them. I don 't believe anyone truly wanted us to get married, and his mother was wrought with nerves. His brother and pregnant wife felt confused, and torn . Yet, we sat down, we smiled, we drank, we ate, and ignored the silent accusations permeating through the air.
This is when my father walked into the room and picked me and Mia up and took us out of there. My mother called the police. My aunt called her and my moms brother, to pick her up because my father was trying to put hands on her. My father then had to hold my mother back from putting hands on my aunt for lying. I am in my room crying and scared.
Because of what I learned from hitting this “hurdle” in life, I have decided to make the most out of the life I have been given. Overcoming the adversity of losing a loved one has not only challenged me, but has given me a perspective and wisdom that most people are only able to learn through challenges like this one. Life is unpredictable. Like hurdles, life evokes fear, strength, and courage. Life is often like a race, everyone is forced to face their own obstacles, however, like Nelson Mandela once said, “Our greatest glory lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Throughout life, everyone is bound to face their own set of hurdles, however, the important part is learning to get up, keep moving, and apply what was learned from the experience to overcoming the next