Personal Narrative Being a Boy in America
Being a male in America, the center of Western culture, is not by any means easy.
We're plagued by stereotypes and we fight among ourselves. We grow up programmed to act a
certain way, talk a certain way, and to do certain things. Unfortunately, this mental
conditioning is not productive, nor is it healthy. And one of the major contributors to this
problem is our 'scientific' system of education. As C. S. Lewis stated in one of his books called
The Abolition of Man, the motives of scientific education are questionable because it appears
that "...the 'trousered ape' and the 'urban blockhead' may be precisely the kind of man they
really wish to produce." It this 'trousered ape' that we are seeing now in our schools. But, it is
more than that. Scientific education allows all types of bullying and brutality (physical and
verbal) to go on, simply because it refuses to wield the weapons that will crush them. The
reader may wish to know what these magical weapons are, so I will attempt to explain. The
weapons with to combat this epidemic of abuse are morals. Scientific education teaches it's
pupils that "Truth is relative; everyone has there own truth." and "Right is whatever is right for
you." When you teach people this from the crib, is it then really so difficult to see why there
are wars on crime and drugs?
Additionally, the male mind is conditioned to think that a man cannot feel emotion, that
men should not be thoughtful or caring, and that a man cannot express a feeling of agape love
for another man, because if he does he is by default homosexual. Western culture promotes
the idea that a man must lust after women, and any man who doesn't must be gay. What ever
happened to the apostle Paul who said that, "...It is good to remain as I [unmarried], but if they
cannot contain themselves, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to burn." (1Corithians
7:8,9) And again, the Western man is expected to revel in all things that are violent, brutally
physical, and competitive, and yet he is to shun all things that require a gentler spirit, such as
drama, art, poetry, and literature.
Another plague to the male in America is the sever homophobia that runs deep in our
society. Anything that a boy might do that doesn't fit into the strict and rigid 'boy-code' leaves
The War Against Boys is the story of our cultural attack on the modern male. Twenty-first century men are looked down-upon, laughed at, and many times emasculated in our day-to-day lives. In her book, Christina Hoff Sommers does an excellent job reminding us that men are responsible for a lot of good in the world: “This book tells the story of how it has become fashionable to attribute pathology to millions of healthy male children. It is a story of how we are turning against boys and forgetting a simple truth: that the energy, competitiveness, and corporal daring of normal, decent males is responsible for much of what is right in the word.” Our culture has promoted a skewed view; most people believe that women are treated unfairly, that
It is difficult for men to identify themselves as homosexuals because homosexual desires are forbidden by the
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The idea that teenage boys should act a certain way towards females is usually instilled in them at a young age. According to Devor, “ Femininity must be expressed through modes of… action which communicate weakness, dependency, ineffectualness, availability for sexual or emotional service, and sensitivity to the needs of others” (Devor 6-7). In other words, men have to place women on a lower pedestal because of a woman’s so called “needs” (Devor 6). The “needs” that women express are feminine characteristics. The characteristics of females listed by Devor, does not show any sign of power or dominance. Since society believes gender is a patriarchy, females have no influence and need attention. This shows that men adjust their actions around women, since they believe that women need special attention. Furthermore, if a male possesses anything non-masculine,
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
The rules on sexuality have been upheld by the American culture for decades. For example, if a man was to have sexual feelings towards another man he was considered to be suffering from mental problems and deserves to be placed in a psychiatric hospital. Other than viewing these individuals as mental patients, they were also considered sinners. The Bible states, " If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them" (Leviticus 20:13 KJV). These words are against homosexuality, and gave consequences of what would happen if one should disobey them. It is this scripture that gave people the idea that any form of sexuality other than heterosexuality was a sin and that those who engage in the lifestyle are unnatural. Foucault believed that homosexuality was nothing but natural, he explains, "Nothing that went into his total composition was unaffected by his sexuality......It was consubstantial with him, less as a habitual sin than a singular nature" (Foucault
In order to succeed one needs truth. Everyone is capable of making decisions, however, truth is a key accessory to making such decisions better. One must be aware that what one believes, imagines, and desires to be true, are all different (Blackburn, 2009). Defining truth is difficult for some claim truth is concrete and can be proved in a structural manner. Others simply avoid the definition saying it is too abstract to be narrowed down into a single statement the world can agree on. For example, students have different ways of learning, thus to each student, a particular learning style is the best way to learn, and that is the student’s truth. Many have tried to tackle the definition of truth and from it came about the Correspondence Theory,
Social discrimination against gay men and other MSM has been well-documented in many regions of the world, regardless of the cultural, social, political, economic, or legal environment in which they live.14-16 This discrimination can manifest itself in a wide variety of ways from personal hardships such as harassment, ridicule, rejection, or violence to high-level structural factors like discriminatory policies or violations of human rights. Social discrimination has been described as a key factor leading to poor health outcomes in MSM, including increased risk for HIV, across diverse settings.17
12). What is ok for one to do is not acceptable for another to do although they are equal. This standard is upheld by media on almost every outlet. This can range from women showing off their sexuality to the men being praised for sleeping around or having lots of women around him in one setting. An outside source goes on to state “Under the rubric of the sexual double standard, highly sexually active men are praised or rewarded with high status, whereas highly sexually active women are derogated or suffer a damaged reputation” (Marks, 2008, Pg. 84). In the society we live in a man can have a many sexual partners as he pleases and studies actually show that men do report having more sexual partners than women (Chapter 12). Not only is it glorified and encouraged but there are some countries that practice polygyny which is when a man has more than one wife making it acceptable in various cultures. There are instances where a woman has multiple husbands as well and this is referred to polyandry. A woman’s sexuality is always glorified and placed on a peddle stool in some cases. Men love to admire the female body like to cat call when they see something they like. However, if and when a woman acts in the sexual manner that men glorify them to be in, then the woman is looked at
Therefore, they can become demanding, resentful, judgmental, and intolerant of each other (13). However, when men and women learn to respect each other’s differences, they can live in tranquility (Tannen, Talking 40). Men and women react and behave differently when expressing difficult feelings, dealing with stress, and evaluating their self-worth.
Abstract: The purpose of this study is to take the study of Geert Hofstede’s Masculinity index of countries and apply them to the individual states of the United States. This will apply the different cultural dimensions that Hofstede used to rank the countries. While not every criteria can be applied, similar ones will be used to create a Masculinity index for the United States.
People all act a certain way because of cultures and traditions. They grew up learning to belie a certain thing is right or wrong and they in turn pass that down to their children and so forth. These things all play a hue rule in shaping our society into what it has become today, some things for the better and some for the worst. The bottom line is that humans end up with who they are most similar to because that is where they feel they can be
October 20, 2007, the day that I’m going to say goodbye to my hometown. I was born and raised in Philippines by my grandparents for sixteen years. It is heart-breaking to think that I will not see them anymore like how I used to. I was 16 years old, and it will be my first time to travel with my big brother in the airplane. Our trip from Philippines to Virginia is approximately about 18-20 hours. It is not a direct flight, so we have to change plane three times, and it is a long trip for us. I was crying the whole time when we were in the airplane. As soon as we reach our last destination which is the Washington D.C., we have no way of communicating with my mom and auntie because we have no cellphones. I was hesitant to
The most common of these rules include the fact that boys cannot cry, and if he does, he is considered to be acting like a girl, and therefore made fun of. Those mere statements may compel boys to set aside their emotions, in other words, to put them “on the back burner.” This could affect the child's effort to grow, and also create problems with the ability to understand their emotions as well as others. Traditionally, boys are prohibited from doing anything that is immensely feminine, such as ballet or dance. Even though both are advertised primarily for girls, boys are included in these activities.
This paperdiscusses homosexuality as a form of deviant behavior in Nigeria. In so doing, the paper will examine the nature of homosexuality, its causes and even consequences of this particular behavior to those who engage in it as well as to the larger Nigerian society. The paper also seeks to outlineany previous attempts that have been employed to address homosexuality, including their success and failures. Lastly, the paper also looks intohow widespread homosexuality is in Nigeriaand gives suggestions as to how the behavior can be addressed more effectively.