A bond that a child has with their parents can never be match. The love a parent gives their child is priceless. But I believe that children, once grown up, owe nothing to the parents who raised them. I say this because even animals, which lack reason, provide love to their child without a need of repayment. I, also, have a sense of experience raising my brothers and sisters and can say they owe me nothing. Finally, a parent should provide care, love, and protection of harm for their child. If the parents do not raise their child with care, love, and protection then its up to the child to decide whether he or she will raise their child in a similar matter or not. Which can influence a child decision to give something back to their parents.
I will begin by looking into the animal kingdom. Although, we as human are far superior to animals because of our reasoning, I believe that in seeing how animals raise their young can provide an example on why children should not owe anything to their parents. Every summer morning we are awoken to the sounds of birds and we wish that they would be quiet, but these birds provide a perfect example on why children owe nothing to their parents. When a bird is born the mother finds them food, provides them shelter, and gives the baby bird a sense of protection. Once old enough the bird attempts to fly from its nest. If the baby bird falls down the mother is right there to pick it back up. But, unfortunately, there comes a time when one day the mother bird returns and the once baby bird flies away to cares for its self. The bird’s mother may never see its bird again. So, who pays the bird for all the care the bird gave to the baby? No one. If a bird does not expect anything from their birds then hum...
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...e of joy we get from a child, or little brother, is so great that as a parent, one should in fact owe them our love, care and protection. In fact even that might not be enough, a child’s happiness is priceless. That’s why parents, and older brother, say that that the child means the world to them.
In conclusion, a grown child owes their parents who raised them nothing because; if an animal does not expect anything in return for care for their babies then we shouldn’t ether. I have experience in raising my brothers and sisters and wouldn’t ask for anything in return. Finally, a parent owes their child care, love, and protection from harm, in order for their child to decide whether they owe their parents anything. For these reasons I believe that a child does not owe anything to their parents but may give some thing in return out of their own willingness and love.
Parenting has been a long practice that desires and demands unconditional sacrifices. Sacrifice is something that makes motherhood worthwhile. The mother-child relationship can be a standout amongst the most convoluted, and fulfilling, of all connections. Women are fuel by self-sacrifice and guilt - but everyone is the better for it. Their youngsters, who feel adored; whatever is left of us, who are saved disagreeable experiences with adolescents raised without affection or warmth; and mothers most importantly. For, in relinquishing, a mother feels strong and liberal; and in guild she finds the motivation to right wrong.
Throughout the book, Samenow states that most parents blame themselves for the way their children behave. A lot of the time parents are blamed by others for their child’s irresponsible actions, which then causes the parents to blame themselves. Children begin to make their own choices at a very early age, as they grow older the choices they make become more complex. Although parents can be very influential to a child, they cannot control the child’s mindset. The parenting techniques that parents use may play a small role in a child’s behavior, they do not create antisocial children. Parents need to stop blaming themselves whenever their children make bad choices because it is the child himself that makes that decision, not the parents.
...ther materialistic indulgences. As children, we begin to grow accustomed to a certain lifestyle. The transition into adulthood can prove to be incredibly challenging if we have an unrealistic expectation of how our needs are met, due to the sense of entitlement our parents instilled. In contrast to the involved parent, the absent parent may neglect several, if not all, of their parental duties, being physically, emotionally and financially absent from their child’s life. This often bears resentment in the child that can transcend long into adulthood. As children, we blame our parents for our misfortunes; the absent parent is no exception. Rather than accept personal responsibility, many often use the absent parent as a scapegoat for not achieving one’s full potential. Whether present throughout our lives or not, Americans have deep rooted parental dependency issues.
In conclusion, parents who hover over their children and do not give them space to breathe and lead more independent lives harm their kids while thinking that they are helping them. These parents might, in the real sense, be creating new long lasting problems for their kids, which could potentially be transferred to their grandchildren. Children need to learn to interact and engage in college and beyond while parents should stop hovering and give their children some space to experience life. In fact, it is said that love and independence are what every child needs to succeed in life, too much or too little of either and no child prospers. Therefore, parents should stop hovering in their children affairs and allow them to learn through experience.
The author defined "owe" as a form of obligation that is to be fulfilled unwillingly. In support of her argument she presented the case of friendship. When two people are friends they help each other, but they are not obliged to make their share of sacrifices. She stated that the term "owe" undermines the role of mutuality. "Owe" represents obligations that must be fulfilled irrespective of the person's emotions. Thus, the term "owe" should not be used to refer to a child's duties towards his/her parents.
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Fromm describes the value of secure attachment, explaining that to a baby, “mother is warmth, mother is food, mother is euphoric state of satisfaction and security” (Fromm, 38). As they grow, children learn how to love and be loved through this relationship. The experience of being loved as a baby is described as a “passive one” because “there is nothing I [the baby] has to do in order to be loved” (Fromm, 39). Love, as a child may have learned about it, can only be received and “cannot be acquired, produced, controlled”, but the “capacity to love” can be developed; this is usually displayed in children starting at age eight (Fromm, 40). In a healthy learning journey, children come to learn that “love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one “object” of love” (Fromm, 46). Children will seriously struggle - especially in regards to their ability to love and be loved - if they are deprived a comforting, present caretaker in their early years of
In my opinion, parents are the result of a young person’s actions. Parents or caregivers have the biggest influence in their children's lives. I think that the way you raise your children will reflect who they become and their morals. Growing up, a child learns by copying what their parents do for example for me, I got the habit of biting my nails from my mother. Cooking, cleaning, driving, are taught to us by our parents, therefore; children learn to carry on those skills they learn and use them in the future.
He claims that the child is born in a neutral state, with no needs until he/she interacts with the parents. By responding to the child’s behavior, the parents will determine the behavior and the character of the child. Parents have the power to bestow or withhold love in relation to their own peculiar needs for love. This creates dependency as the basic feature of the child’s existence. Parents are the first contact and relationship and play an essential role on the child’s development. Their actions and demeanor have a heavy impact on the way their offspring will relate to others, and develop future relationships.
No one teaches us how to be parents. As parents raise their children they hope to raise them to be good members of society. A child’s upbringing is reflected as they interact with other children and other people. When they come to act inappropriately or in a way society doesn’t see as normal, the person to blame is the parent. As a parent, today and always, they need to raise their child to meet the societal norms and at the same teach them to be good citizens. The parenting a person receives will be reflected when they form their own family. The belief is then formed to be to raise a better family than the one raised in. The different parenting styles and the factors have to be taken into consideration such as time, the environment, and the social and psychological aspects as well. The belief is to be a loving and tolerating parent but there is no perfect way to parent because each child has their own needs.
In modern culture, children are seen as both innocent and immature. People feel they are innocent in that they have not experienced much of life and are not yet exposed to the reality of life. This characteristic of innocence that is placed upon children is what leads to the immaturity of children. Because people believe the innocence of children not being exposed to the world makes them incapable of handling mature situations and issues, children are rarely granted any form of responsibility. Children are shielded by their parents or other caretakers that take the responsibility of caring for the child, making decisions for the child, and doing much of the work that they feel a child can not do themselves. True and full
First, Responsibility has a big effect in changing from a child to an adult. Beginning from the simple things like responsibilities in school, a child has to go to school because the parent says so and the parents are aware that they need to send the child to school and will make sure the child goes, but
It may involve conveying to the child that they are worthless or unloved, inadequate or valued only so far as they meet the needs of another person.
From birth, a child owns not much knowledge in his brain for the lacking of experiences. As time goes by, he would gradually learn to produce sound, to talk, to play, and to do certain things from his parents and the surrounding people. Also, his personality is influenced by the environment until he reaches his mature age. This is the time when he develops his own conscience and full awareness of the impact of the negativity and the goodness on his life. People say that a child is a product of the parents’ guidance for those reasons.
To begin with, they gave us life. Parents who help us to grow up; without them we would not be in this world. It was not easy for them to bring us in this world .They provided shelter, clothes, and medicine whatever we needed at that time; also they provided education, and teach us how we could survive in this world. Parents always try to make their children able and they want to see them a successful person. Sometime parents even kill their own desire and happiness to make their children successful. Therefore, they have right to expect something from their children in their old age. Our parents sacrifices a lot of things for us in their life so, children can show their love and gratitude for elderly parents by taken care of them.