A Baltimore woman receives title ‘Mother of the Year’ from the media and public for disciplining her teen-age son with a few smacks upside his head for disobeying her rules (RT USA). Approximately, 30 or 40 years ago, parenting styles changed because social services placed limits on what a parent can do to discipline their children. As a result, children rule their parents, and both children and teen-agers are out of control. Many of them, talk back to their parental figures and teachers in a rude obnoxious manner. They are also disrespectful, unruly, dishonest, lack self-control, and have poor manners. Social Services, Psychologists, and the Government should allow parents to discipline their children with spankings. Many, parents have been given a new …show more content…
Justice Worland states,
“Most Americans agree with Pope Francis on spanking…..three quarters of men and 65% women in the United States say they support giving children the occasional “hard spanking”
(Worland).
Generally speaking, Professionals believe spanking children makes them more hostile, effects their mental stability, and might turn them into “criminals” later in life.
(Kazdin and Benjet 102). Although, society is correct, there are gray areas, if spankings are taken too far as a discipline method it can get out of control and cause other issues. This is not to say, spanking should not be used as a punishment at all. As a matter of fact, children are just as violent, mentally unstable, and grow up to be put in jail because parents are too tolerant. How many times, can you take away a child’s privileges until they begin not to care? “Oh well, they will give it back to me soon, if I cry and throw a tantrum.” Usually, the parent gets tired of their whining, and gives it back to them. Several studies, have proven that the removal of
“corporal punishment” has heightened violent conduct in teens. The instinctual nature
Every schoolteacher, parent or person standing in the place of a parent is justified in using force by way of correction toward a pupil or child, as the case may be, who is under his care, if the force does not exceed what is reasonable under the circumstances. R.S., c. C-34, s. 43. “ (Barnett, 2008
Proponents of spanking bans have a tendency to label spanking as corporal punishment. They then categorize it along with many abusive activities. Psychologist Kerby Alvy explains corporal punishment as, “pinching, pulling ears and hair, shaking, slapping, smacking, spanking, swatting, hitting, kicking, punching, paddling, using switches, hair brushes, belts and ironing cords, and having children kneel on gravel or ...
Spanking could also teach children that it's all right to hit, and that it's all right to be hit and that could have a negative long term effect on the children. I
We’ve all seen that parent in the grocery store or at the amusement park. Maybe this person is a neighbor, obscure relative, or even a best friend. This child with a colorful backpack on is being walked about by their parental figure. The child may be crying, throwing a temper tantrum, sucking on their fingers, or maybe even being dragged across the linoleum floor. This ordeal tends to be a spectacle. However there will still be parents who go into public places with their children tugging at a leash. Without fail it will cause more than...
Since April 2nd of 2004, Washington State has stated in bold lettering what disciplinary practices are forbidden. Under WAC law title 388 chapter 148 section 0470, spanking a child with your hand, open or closed fist; or spanking a child with an object if forbidden in the state of Washington. Under this same Law, it is also unlawful to place a child in a cold shower, use derogatory terms on the child, and interfere with the child’s needs of the restroom, along with common sense harsh methods. I wish I would have known about this law when I was a kid because my mom did the three things I mentioned above. I remember peeing in a bottle because my mom wouldn’t let me out of my room, I am thankful I didn’t have to go number two. Back on track now, the WAC law title 388 chapter 148 section 0465 filed on the 28th of August 2001 sets basic guidelines for disciplining a child, same title, and same chapter but a different section. Section 0465 states that: “you are responsible for disciplining children in your care and that responsibility may not be delegated to a child.” so no more telling the older child to watch the younger child when you’re not there. Section 0465 also says the “discipline must be fair, reasonable….must be designed to help the child under your care to develop i...
Spanking, a fictitious form of child abuse, is an appropriate action toward unruly children. It is a popular practice used to instill discipline and values in children, and is more effective than talking to or yelling at the child or placing the child in “time out” sessions. In the long run, spanking causes no damage to the child’s mental or physical health. Instead, it creates a basis for good behavior.
When describing a physical altercation between two adults, the term is assault and battery. Assault on an individual has more than immediate effects; the effects can last a lifetime in severe cases. In all fifty states, it is a crime to hit, strike or use corporal punishment in any deliberate manner towards any person over the age of eighteen. However, this law does not apply to physical force being used on minors. Spanking, whipping, and paddling are among a few common references to this form of punishment. Physically disciplining children has had many names over the years. No matter which term is used, corporal punishment has a negative impact on every party involved. It is a widely used, socially accepted method of discipline. “Approximately 94% of three and four-year old children have been spanked in the past year (Slade & Winssow 1321). Although spanking is a widespread practice, it is becoming more controversial. The negative effects of spanking greatly outweigh the benefits. Spanking is a socially tolerated view promoting abusive patterns, and has a negative psychological impact in teaching children that pain, fear, and confusion promote conformability.
Critics of spanking need to understand that spanking and abuse are not the same. Spanking is a quick squat on the buttock that causes temporary pain. Child abuse is physical injury such as beating, kicking, or punching a child with cruel intent. Psychiatrist William Glasser makes a distinction between the two. Glasser explains, “Discipline is directed at the objectionable behavior, and the child will accept its consequences without resentment.” By contrast, he defined punishment as, “A response that is directed at the individual” (qtd. in Dobson 96). Spanking allows room for forgiveness and reconciliation. Abuse comes from a place of hostility. It is harsh and leaves little room for forgiveness or reconciliation. Yes, spanking may cause brief discomfort, but it is not the same as beating, punching, or kicking a child.
The use of spanking is one of the most controversial parenting practices and also one of the oldest, spanning throughout many generations. Spanking is a discipline method in which a supervising adult deliberately inflicts pain upon a child in response to a child’s unacceptable behaviour. Although spanking exists in nearly every country and family, its expression is heterogeneous. First of all the act of administering a spanking varies between families and cultures. As Gershoff (2002) pointed out, some parents plan when a spanking would be the most effective discipline whereas some parents spank impulsively (Holden, 2002). Parents also differ in their moods when delivering this controversial punishment, some parents are livid and others try and be loving and reason with the child. Another source of variation is the fact that spanking is often paired with other parenting behaviours such as, scolding, yelling, or perhaps raging and subsequently reasoning. A third source of variation concerns parental characteristics. Darling and Steinberg (1993) distinguished between the content of parental acts and the style in which it was administered (Holden, 2002). With all this variation researchers cannot definitively isolate the singular effects of spanking.
We have all encountered this situation: A small child is standing in the middle of a department store throwing a complete temper tantrum demanding a toy. His mother, exasperated threatens him with time-outs and other deprived privileges, but the stubborn child continues to kick and scream. In the "old days," a mother wouldn't think twice about marching the defiant child to the bathroom and giving him a good spanking to straighten him out, but these days, parents have to worry about someone screaming child abuse. Whether or not to spank a child has become a heated issue in today's society.
Some schools had the authority to punish a child by either spanking them with a paddle
I personally do not advocate spanking. I could not imagine losing my temper to a point where I thought I needed to spank my child. While I do anticipate that having children will be a real test of patience, I do not expect that I will lose my patience so much that I will spank my children. I find spanking to be a real contradiction to what most parents tell their children. Most parents do not allow their children to hit, whether they are angry or not. Even when kids think another kid did something wrong, or bad, they are still not allowed to hit. If a parent tells a kid this, and then turns around and spanks the kid when they do something wrong, how will the kid ever learn that hitting is wrong? In my opinion, there has to be a better way to discipline children. I think that sending a child to a room where they cannot interact with anyone else, and then taking away a privilege would be a better way of handling discipline. Also, when I was a child, I can remember that when I was angry, my dad would come in to my room after I had time to cool down and talk to me about why I was angry. I can remember these as really fond times with my dad. It helped me identify why I was so angry, and most of the time it was at my mom for not letting me have my way. When I could identify why I was angry, my dad and I could come up with a solution to solve the problem. I think that rather than spanking, this is a good way to discipline children.
Because the beliefs, education and cultures of people vary so much, along with the age of the child, methods of child discipline vary widely. The topic of child discipline involves a wide range of fields such as parenting, behavioural analysis, developmental psychology, social work and various religious perspectives. Advances in the understanding of parenting have provided a background of theoretical understanding and practical understanding of the effectiveness of parenting methods.
Parenthood is a huge factor in any child’s life, If you were to ask me, a parent decides who we are without either the child or the adult knowing it. The parent’s role also requires discipline, and this is where things get rough in parenting, as so I’ve been told. When the child is disciplined enough and in the right way, they are willing to pass this wisdom on to their children in the future. But when a child is discipl...
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