An adage is a proverb or short statement, which expresses a general truth. Adages are widely known because they are different sayings that people use for individual scenarios. A cowboy can take his horse to water, but his horse will only drink it if the horse wants to. The horse will not drink no matter how many times it is beaten by the cowboy, if it is not thirsty. “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”. There is no use in helping a person who does not want to be helped. Whether in personal relationships, academia, personal experiences, or in history, the adage is proven to be true in life.
In relationships the adage is often proven. A married couple that argues with each other constantly can seek a marriage counselor for advice. Advice on how to spice up or fix their marriage that is not up to par. However, it is entirely up to the couple to fix the problems the couple has with each other. Perhaps the wife would argue that the husband never washes the dishes, never puts the toilet seat down, and always leaves his dirty clothes in the bathroom. The husband argues that the wife does not work, stays home all day doing nothing, is never in the mood for sex, and the least thing she could have done is, cleaned the house and made dinner by the time he gets home from his work. The counselor can analyze the situation, and suggest that the wife occupy herself by having the house clean and dinner ready when the husband gets home from work. The counselor also suggests that the husband be considerate and pick up his dirty laundry from the bathroom, put the toilet seat back down after using the toilet, wash his utensils after using them and he might get his sexual desires satisfied. The marriage problems might be straightened out if and only if the couple decides to use the advice the marriage counselor offered them. If the husband and wife have too much pride, and/or are too stubborn to change, then their marriage will remain the same. Some people are prideful and put their dignity before everything else, others are stubborn and will not change something that they are accustomed to; therefore getting them to change a habitual action will not be possible.
Marriage is something most people do but few do it well. If a couple is not looking at divorce papers that are probably seeking marriage counseling. If they are not screaming to the top of their lungs at each other they are probably sneaking out to lie in someone else’s arms. If they are not physically abusing one or the other they are probably being mentally abusive. If a couple is not saying hurtful things to each other they are probably not saying anything at all because why would they when the other is not going to listen anyways. We have all been in or seen relationships struggle with these kinds of things. This big question is where did they go wrong? I think the answer to that question lies in Matt Chandler’s book The Mingling of Souls. Chandler’s answer to the question above is that if a couple wants to have a truly successful marriage they must follow God’s design for marriage. Now Chandler is in no way implying that a couple will not struggle if they do it God’s way but they will be able to get through those struggles together. This review is not a summary of the book but it will discuss the strength and weaknesses of
In her essay “The Myth of Coparenting: How it is supposed to be. How it is,” Hope Edelman discusses the issues that she faces when dealing with marriage roles. According to her descriptions, her husband doesn’t play an active role in their domestic life and only focuses on his career. Edelman often gets into arguments with him over his disinterest and lack of contribution to home life. She responds to this lack of interest by buying a swing set along with other items against the husband’s wishes. Similarly, Eric Bartels’ essay “My Problem with Her Anger” discusses the effects of marital roles from the husband’s perspective. He argues that although he is not the most active with domestic life, he does contribute. Bartels claims that his wife’s anger makes it hard for the family to function. Bartels proves his dedication to their family by showing how he gives up drinking beer in order to dedicate more time to helping out around the house. Both Edelman and Bartels express love for their children and frustration at their spouse. As a result of this, references to the swing set in Edelman’s essay and to beer in Bartels’ essay reveal that when there is a disagreement between the husband and wife in a marriage, it is possible that one of the partners will express their emotion through rebellion against his spouse
Advertisements cannot triumph unless they capture our attention. Advertisers use different strategies like slogans, pictures,claims so those advertising messages do not forgot by the audience and persuade people to buy the product being sold. The language used in these various forms of media has a huge impact on their effects on the consumer. William Lutz, the author of “With these words,I can sell you anything” and Charles A. O 'Neill, author of, “The language of advertising” have contrasting views about the system of advertising. Lutz and O’Neill have different approaches of persuading audience about their views on language manipulation in advertisements.
Marriage is an eternal commitment between two people who love each other. But marriage is not always perfect and passionate as society has portrayed it to be. Marriage will inevitably be filled with annoyance and aggravation, because both individuals hold expectations their spouse cannot meet. In My Problem With Her Anger, newspaper writer Eric Bartels discusses the husband’s point of view in a traditional, but modern, marriage. In his article, Bartels uses subjective language in order to express the constant quarrel between him and his wife’s perpetual anger to influence his male audience into sympathizing with his marital obstacles.
The relationship between the husband and wife seems initially to be perfect. They both show each other expressions of love. There is understanding, harmony, financial security, and good communication between them. The couple spends a lot of time together, discussing future plans, and talking about the good moments they had in the past. However, behind all of this positive interaction between the two of them is something they are both not able
The faithful spouse must be tough and stand up to the unfaithful spouse if the marriage will be saved and adultery prevented from happening. As we discussed already the natural response of the rejected spouse is to beg, plead, or become a doormat, but these approaches will only serve to confuse the unfaithful spouse more. If however pulls back and maintains a confident, independent composure the cool spouse will begin to rethink his decisions of unfaithfulness and wishing to leave. “The third change occurs not in the mind of the cool spouse but in the mind of the vulnerable one. Incredibly, he feels better- somehow more in control of the situation.” The vulnerable person begins to respect themselves instead of relying on their partner to fulfil their needs of being wanted. Taking the independent confident approach is not easy, but with prayer and a Christian counselor the vulnerable spouse can learn how to use tough love to save his or her marriage. Doctor Dobson advocates that the vulnerable spouse should force the crisis to a head in most situations of infidelity and clearly draw the lines of what he will do if his spouse is unfaithful again. The vulnerable spouse must then be willing to care out those ultimatums or the unfaithful spouse will simply continue to walk over the other as a doormat. “Just as toddlers and teenagers will challenge authority of their parents
After having this argument and it eventually tapering out by the wife walking away, the husband comes to a realization. He realizes that there was no point of arguing with someone wh...
Advertisements are all over the place. Whether they are on TV, radio, or in a magazine, there is no way that you can escape them. They all have their target audience who they have specifically designed the ad for. And of course they are selling their product. This is a multi billion dollar industry and the advertiser’s study all the ways that they can attract the person’s attention. One way that is used the most and is in some ways very controversial is use of sex to sell products. For me to analyze this advertisement I used the rhetorical triangle, as well as ethos, pathos, and logos.
Gottman (1999) conveys that the integration of active listening and conflict resolution techniques is not sufficient to safeguard marriages from a probable divorce. Due to that couples who develop throughout the years a high level of
Companies have rhetoric in their advertisements. The goal is to persuade a watcher or listener into believing that their brand of a certain product is the best. This in turn will make people want to buy the product. When it comes to advertising for a product, the majority of people see it as a concept that is both simple and harmless. As Chidester points out, through the eyes of popular culture as religion, the product associated with the advertisement is considered to be a fetishized object.
The infamous ending statement in Herman Melville’s “Bartleby the Scrivener,” “Ah, Bartleby! Ah, humanity!” (Melville 34), signifies not only the tragic demise of the character of Bartleby, but the dismal ruin of mankind as well. This enigmatic statement can be applied to both “Bartleby the Scrivener” and Melville’s other short story, “Benito Cereno.” Both stories are narrated by unreliable characters, leaving further questions on whether or not the Lawyer was genuinely trying to help Bartleby when he showed signs of depression or if the one-sided story of Captain Delano truly portrayed the slaves and their motives for taking over Cereno’s San Dominick. In each of Melville’s short stories, there is an obvious grayness about each tale, the plots of both stories start out slow and unsuspicious, but are then revealed through a dynamic change in events, and each novella has ultimate realities that are hidden through appearances. Together, “Bartleby the Scrivener” and “Benito Cereno” are stories that possess a deep meaning within them which is intended to make the reader question the definition of human nature.
In May 1955, Housekeeping Monthly published an article titled The Good Wife’s Guide. This article provided eighteen tips for women; what they should be performing in the home and how to keep their husbands happy. “Have dinner ready”, “Clear away clutter”, and “Don’t ask him questions about his actions…” are just three of the eighteen instructions. (Housekeeping Monthly) One reason this article could have been so readily accepted, was due to the simplicity of life in that era. Women rarely voiced their opinions or challenged the gender norms. Therefore, the author’s intent could have been, “let’s give women tips on how to make their husbands happier and keep the households in order”. However, taking into consideration the gender norm of the era and contrasting it to the twenty-first century certainly brings up a host of issues when taking into consideration that the majority of today’s families are dual income earners.
Nicholas Sparks said:” In all love stories the theme is love and tragedy, so by writing these types of stories, I have to include tragedy.” This is not completely true. In Shakespeare’s comedy, the element of love is prevalent. The comedies in Shakespeare’s period are quite different from modern comedy. However, his comedy still entertain and amuse the audience today. Shakespeare’s comedies are light-hearted and funny, they share some common characteristics as mistaken identity, complex plots, the humor in the language, and of course, love. This paper will mainly discuss the comedy elements and the love elements in Much Ado about Nothing, and how they interacting with each other.
Julia Roberts, an actress known for her role in the 1990 film Pretty Woman, was recently featured in the 2011 Lancôme advertisement that has since been banned by Parliament in the United Kingdom for being misleading. The ad, which was intended to promote Lancôme’s Teint Miracle foundation, has gone under extreme scrutiny over the internet for its evident digital alterations. Collages of the advertisement and un-photo shopped pictures of Roberts, as well as articles expressing their distaste with the beauty industry, have all circulated in response to two ads that have recently been produced by L’Oreal, the company who owns both Lancôme and Maybelline. (Poulter, 2011)
Men and women have diverse thoughts and beliefs, leading them to take different actions. It consists of a lot of decision making and depends on whether or not the needs of the partners are being fulfilled (Lauer, 2012). Humans are driven by power and encourage competition, even in marriage. The way a husband and wife can apply power is based on their interaction. A healthy marriage needs good communication to survive (“Understanding Marriage”). Conversations can be symmetrical, where spouses give similar messages to each other (Lauer, 2012). This type of discussion can be competitive, neutralized, and submissive. Conversations can also be complementary, where spouses agree that one partner is dominant and one is