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There are two different mind sets to reacting to difficulties in life, the Victim way and the Creator way. According to David Mirman’s article on Victim and Creators: a Victim is someone who when faced with a negative experience tries to find someone or something else to shift the blame on, that mentality is counterproductive, because it does not help someone reach their goals in life. He describes a Creator as someone who when faced with a negative situation tries to learn from and overcome the situation, adopting this mentality helps people tremendously in reaching their goals in life (Mirman). Skip Downing author of ‘On Course defines Creators as: “people who consistently make the chose which results in the outcome they desire (or wish to achieve).” He defines Victims as: “people who feel they don’t or can’t influence their own outcomes in life and, therefore, end up and end up responding to decisions that others make or passively letting other things happen instead of actively shaping the outcomes they desire.” (Downing). I choose to live the Creator life style after noticing the major differences between my Victim and Creator friends.

My friend, and co-worker, Josh, has a Victim personality. He never accepts responsibility for his actions, and he usually gives up when faced with obstacles. Life controls him. Whenever he comes in late, is unable to help a patron, or when he tells me about something that went wrong in his social life, he never thinks it’s his fault. Also, he rarely tries to learn from his wrong doings. Whenever something bad happens to him, he doesn’t accept blame, and it will happen again. Every time he comes in late he always has an excuse. He’ll tell me “sorry my wife forgot to wake me,” or “it wasn’t my ...

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...abits, then I will be in control of my life.

A victim is a person who lets life control them. Victims blame others for the failures in their life. I creator is someone who, when faced with obstacles creates a solution for the problem. A creator is someone who refuses to let life control them. In order to overcome difficulties in life, one must adopt the Creator mindset. Having the skill to be able to accept responsibility, and learn from your mistakes, is the key to success in life.

Works Cited

Mirman, David. "YOU are the PRIME MOVER." Do you think like a Victim or a Creator? (Jan 2 2012): n. page. Web. 27 Nov. 2013.
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Downing , Skip. On Course: Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life. 7th. Boston: Wadsworth/Cengage, 2014. 42. Print.

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