Secrets Behind Success
The utmost top scoring students at schools often exhibit an unbelievable amount of intelligence and participate in an abundance of interesting extracurricular activities. Interestingly, there is an unexplained part of the story behind these amazing students’ success, which is described in the book “Doing School”: How We Are Creating a Generation of Stressed Out, Materialistic, and Miseducated Students, by Denise Clark Pope, in which Pope interviews and shadows a random assortment of students at Faircrest High School. This book flawlessly supports my topic about the amount of stress that is truly beneficial to students as Pope reveals the consequences stress has on them, such as the hardships they face regularly and
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the extremes they pursue to be the best, and also their reasoning behind these actions. Despite what many people believe, these students do not perform outstandingly in school just because they love to learn, moreover because they feel overwhelmingly pressured by parents, teachers, other students, college, and their future, leaving them feeling as if they are not attending school to actually learn, but to please others by earning satisfactory grades. The book goes in depth in describing the lives of five students, and the incredible amount of stress they face every single day. Reading about the anxiety they face, I was completely shocked when I discovered the difficulties they encounter and what they consider to be a normal lifestyle. Recognizing the horrible state in which some kids live in, Pope illustrates the dire importance of transforming high schoolers lives for the better by encouraging them to become thoroughly engaged in learning and creating a more supportive environment. While getting to know a few of the highly praised students at Faircrest High School, Pope realizes that although they appear to be fully focused and genuinely engaged in their work, they surprisingly are not, and instead have figured out how to “manipulate the system”(41) by completing their work but not actually paying attention in class. One student named Eve Lin admits she had printed out pages from her history textbook and tucked them into her math textbook so she could study during class, and states that she can “get away with so much it’s pathetic”(42). When teachers fail to pay close enough attention to their students, it demotivates them from completing work and makes them less interested in the class, and causes them to believe what they are learning is not so important to actually learn it. Eve confesses that the only way to succeed in remembering material is to “empty it out of [her] brain”(155) after a test to keep up with the new information. Due to the intense pressure that students like Eve face, they are pushed to make rash decisions such as sacrificing valuable lessons in class in order to get one extra hour of studying, or relinquishing important information once they receive a grade for knowing it. Hence, I find it extremely pitiful that some students are so absorbed in their stress, they find it extremely difficult focus in class. Also feeling the severe pressure to earn adequate grades, tenth grader Teresa Gomez resorts to extreme methods such as plagiarism and cheating.
Although she would rather not, Teresa feels obligated to make these dishonorable decisions, and reasons, “I wish I could not do it, but… I want a future”(71). The highly competitive atmosphere students are expected to thrive in is pushing them towards committing undignified actions because they feel that so much is expected from them, and sadly, I believe this is one of the most significant sources of stress. Accordingly, for students such as Roberto Morales, acting morally is not always rewarding, and he is “disappointed when he tries to play by the rules but does not obtain the results he desires”(136). For this reason, Roberto explains how tempting cheating can be due to the pressure of grades, which regrettably justifies that the environment at schools does not induce the best out of students. The pressure even drove Eve Lin to enroll in an “unprecedented total of seven advanced placement courses”(43) after fighting with the Academic Vice Principal to allow her, and explains her reasoning as feeling “forced to conform”(32) by many factors including the “environment”(32) at school. Reluctant about students pushing themselves to the point where it will lead to an unhealthy amount of stress, the school set rules about the amount of AP classes available, however, for some students the competitive and relentless environment is too …show more content…
compelling. The abundance of stress that students face from their work is a result of pressure from parents, teachers, peers, college, and set expectations in general.
Every student Pope interviews explains that their high marks in their classes are a result of working themselves extremely hard in order to fulfill someone’s expectations. Kevin Romoni, a tenth grader at Faircrest, for instance, reveals his real intentions for high school are not to fully connect with his classes, but simply to just “get into college and make his parents happy”(9). The high amount of pressure put on Kevin distracts him from the primary goal of attending and excelling in school, which is to become engrossed in learning and motivated to succeed by a genuine interest in the subjects. Also seeking her parents’ approval, Michelle Spence feels so stressed about receiving excellent grades to be accepted into a college her parents will commend, she “[cries] all the time from stress….and contemplated dropping out of school”(83), despite already being a straight-A student. Although her parents might be attempting to encourage her, the competitive atmosphere at school is too frantic. It is devastating that students are completely overwhelmed by parents’ attempts at motivation, and I believe that their stress will not reduce until the expectations set for them are not pressed as forcefully. The stressful environment students live in leads to their disengagement in learning, which creates even more stressful
habits. Pope profoundly interprets the intense stress that high schoolers are burdened with regularly, and ultimately concludes that without an excessive amount of outside pressure, students will be motivated to learn and become passionate about their classes, which will result in an exceeding and effective education experience. The profusion of stress is unnecessary because it does not help motivate them; in fact, it causes them to lose interest in learning. Once the expectations for students become about putting in effort and learning new information instead of earning exceptional grades, then will more students feel less tense, yet remarkably succeed. Rediscovering that the true purpose of school is to actually learn, not just to earn impressive grades, and relieving students of the pressure into unrealistic achievements, will consequently alleviate them of a tremendous amount of stress, and furthermore create a supportive learning environment, and an overall better education experience.
In The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids, Robbins explores the correlation between perfectionism and academic prowess. Over the course of one year she follows the lives of AP Frank, Julie, C.J., Sam, Stealth, Audrey and others as they transition through high school and into college. These students, as Robbins showcases, epitomize what is wrong with America’s Educational System. Robbins explores the impact of the intricacies produced by America’s scholastic whirlwind on students as expressed by her research participants. Robbins masterfully crafts an informative and emotional roadmap that intertwines topics such as No Child Left Behind, College Board’s SAT, College Rankings, Ultra Competitive Parents, Cheating and Emotional and Medical Distress from a student’s perspective. The author presents each issue by presenting occurrences f...
In the essay “College Pressures” by William Zinsser, Zinsser speaks about the pressures and anxiety that plague college students, all the while wishing that they had “a chance to savor each segment of their education as an experience in itself and not as a grim preparation for the next step.” Referring to the 1979 generation of college students as “panicky to succeed”, he lists four of the following stressors for college students.
The “push to be perfect” (Thomas) is at an all-time high. Pressure for perfection from peers, parents, teachers and coaches is so unreasonably high that many students don’t think that they will ever be able to achieve it. A student feels that it is impossible to get good grades, be athletic, in multiple organizations, and most of all appear to be happy. Students have turned to cheating, drug/ alcohol abuse, and even suicide to try and cope. They are competing with friends for top spots, and believe that if they don’t beat them, they are a failure. Not only other students, but parents play a big roll, too. Their own parents and the parents of their peers will compare kids. New Trier High School’s Jim Conroy said that the biggest problem about pressure comes from the parents who compare (Robbins). With all...
However, such accusations such as laziness and entitlement, although common, have been prevalent amongst those of college age as proven in “A’s for Everyone.” Shepard had investigated the cause behind this and had put the blame on grade inflation in the years prior to entering college, the pressure to get superb grades due to high tuition costs, and most importantly the belief that “effort” constitutes a grade bonus. However, if one has entered the school system in America, one could see the relative ease in which one could improve their grades through inordinate amounts of extra credit. Multiple students have heard and even seen fellow students ask their parents to even come in for meetings of which equate to blaming their child’s poor grades on the teacher and harassing said teacher to allow their child, soon to be a hardworking, productive citizen of society, to get the “grade they
Parents are forcing students to take classes they don’t want, leaving the student dull and unheard. Parents focus their kids to take challenging classes in order to satisfy their fear of the child getting into a good college. Students are told by parents and the school system that they must take this challenging class and extracurricular just meet ‘the standard quota” but reality it’s not true. For instance, Zinsser’s did a survey on Yale students and asked the students a question about their parental guidance and why they follow it. The results were scary, most students stated: “well my parents want me to be a doctor… They’re paying all this money….” (Zinsser
It seems as though the majority of college students these days aren’t looking to further their education because it’s what they really want, they do it to please their parents, to be accepted by society, or because there’s nothing else for them to do (Bird, 372). These expectations have led to students being unhappy and stressed, and have pushed them into a school or a job that they don’t particularly care for.
Many students who feel the pressure to succeed at the high school level have an unhealthy amount of stress. Students who feel this have been cheating, pulling all nighters, becoming depressed, and seeking relief in drug use, and self mutilation. On average in a recent study at Illinois high school students spend 3.07 hours of homework each night on just homework not including extra curricular activities(Jerushapope,2). Also in this high school students reported getting 6.8 hours of sleep each night, but 34.6% reported getting 6 or fewer hours of sleep(Jerushapope,2). Most high school students spend 2 hours of extra curricular activity each night thats not including homework so after those activities you have to come home and do homework and then you will not have a lot of time to sleep. Also most kids do not get a lot of time to spend with their parents during the weeknights. Some kids cannot even make it to the dinner table because they have so much homework and that is not healthy for the parents and their childs relationship. In ...
The pressure of students hearing “Your parents must be proud” brings students to an expectation that they can not fail or those people will not see them the same. People do not tend to remember all the success that a student has achieved even if they only make one mistake. Students do not want people to see their flaws and imperfections but only the success because then this will be all people have to judge them by. A “scholarship boy” may have worked harder than other students still feeling that even though they were “always successful, [they can be] always unconfident” because they happen to be the prized student with so many expectations (339). Today many college students receive scholarships and grants offered to students making it so competitive for anyone to receive any type of financial aid for school; when a student does receive financial aid they feel as if the only way that they can keep the financial help would be to suppress their social life only fixating on school work. The competition for scholarships and grants will continue to become harder and harder to receive because not only will there be more and more people trying to get into schools each year but the expectation continues to rise for these financial aid options. This will continue the pressure and social suppression for “scholarship
Life is stressful. But as students, parents and others we must learn how to manage that stress in a positive and beneficial way. The reason why I bring this up is because lately there have been a series of articles and news reports suggesting that college admissions is becoming to competive and our students are crumbling under the stress. One article I read from a college admissions advisor even went so far as to say she is suggesting that her students get B 's instead
Pressures on children in today’s society are a problem that is becoming more evident in academics as parents and teachers put more and more emphasis on these children to outperform their classmates, stress in the child’s life becomes an interfering problem (Anxiety.org, 2011 Weissbourd, 2011,). From preschool children to college adults, pressure to execute academic perfection extends across all areas of curriculum. In our highly competitive, American society, emphasis placed on academic achievement has never been so intense (Anxiety.org, 2011, Beilock, 2011). This need to be the best, fueled by our culture in America, has created a social force affecting education, a force to be reckoned with at that. Too often, parents and teachers sacrifice their chil...
The pressures students face are much greater than previous years in high school. The need to meet new people, find a high paying job, and extracurriculars all play a role in elevating stress levels on college campuses. Now, JHU freshman can add worrying about fall semester grades to that list of never ending reasons of why students are so stressed. According to Ross et al., stress levels in college have been increasing dramatically and over 75% college students feel stressed about grades (4). Hopkins is notorious for its competitive academic environment, and students often feel even more stressed than those in the survey.
The thought of not being exceptional enough, smart enough, having all these expectations and standards, the feeling of failing, being stressed, not being able to fix a problem, ruining self-esteem, staying up all night studying just to fail, and no longer being motivated is taking a toll on students. According to debate.org, “When students see their grade in a class and it is not good, all they can think about is that it is over and they cannot fix it. They think that seeing a grade that they are unhappy [with] determines their future.” For those students who are thinking about the future, certain grades may make or break them. They try their best and then they find out they didn’t do as well as they thought, they think the worst and how it’ll affect them in the future. There comes a time when students stop caring when they know they can’t do something or they can’t get better. That tragic realization when a student gives up hope on their grades and school in general when they feel there is no hope left. Students are kept to these certain expectations and are having progressively more trouble keeping up and they just stop completely; they simply give up. Once there’s a ‘slip-up’, they become categorized into something less than they actually are and it becomes harder to get out of the lesser category. Students slowly think less of themselves and believe they aren’t exceptional
There are many ways that should be implemented in order to reduce the stress on students so that they can thrive because, without them, the school systems will only be creating generations of stressed out, materialistic, and miseducational students (Palmer, 2005). There are multiple causes when it comes to stressed out students. First, consider where the pressure is coming from for students to get good grades. Parents and teachers tend to be the main suspects. Parents want to see their kids succeed in everything they do, and grades are no different.
Intense requirements to graduate high school result in stress. Patti Neighmond, award-winning journalist claims, real world students ache from academics. Some of them, and their parents, make the decision to reduce the level of intensity of their classes (Neighmond 1). By reducing the extremity of classes, students have more manageable amounts of stress. Although AP classes can be more demanding and time consuming, students take these courses to boost their GPA in expectancy to attend college. They constantly ponder the possibilities of failing high school classes. With thoughts like that, these students feel an additional amount
Having explained the reason most children have become disheartened at the thought of school, I now turn my attention to the students who do realize school’s educational value. These are the students that will continue to prosper throughout their lives because they realize the extreme importance of education. There is a secret, yet not so secret, motivation behind their determination to exceed standards and expectations in school. The secret they withhold is their overwhelming desire to be successful in the future.