Marrying For Love?: What Is Marrying For Love?

Marrying for Love?

The meaning of marriage, nowadays, is used so loosely in comparison to its usage in much earlier years. In the distant past, marriage was seen as a unification of people who were brought together by, in rare cases, love. Throughout the course of time, marriage has changed in many ways; it has made its way to become more of a job than just being with someone who can make one’s life happier. Marriage has also played an important role in today’s society's actions and how people react to certain situations. In the past years, people would not think of divorce. If and when they were married, that was it, you have to stick it out. There was no divorce back then; there was not any magical ‘fix’ if you did not feel satisfied.

Although many people get married, many of them do it for the gain they will receive, but some couples will not see how getting married will negatively affect their children and family.

Love has not always been the main reason for people to wed; it has only just recently been one of the main reasons couples want to solidify their relationship. But that does not necessarily mean that these two people will not eventually love each other or love one another upon getting married, according to Stephanie Coontz, a history and family studies teacher at The Evergreen State College. In her article, she explains that these young couples simple married because of the gain they could receive but if love prevailed during the course of the marriage then that was a plus. These couples are often times forced into these situations because it’s the family's decision for them. But, what does this do to the attitude of these two people who may not be in love? Well, Coontz points out that “ noblemen and kings fell in love with courtesans” meaning that even though these men were married, it hardly ever mattered to them (5). Back then, everyone had some sort of secret lover. If one of the partners in the relationship was not

In the article, The Myth of Co- Parenting by Hope Edelman, a stay at home mom, she discusses how her marriage has suffered due to the amount of workload her husband has accumulated and the amount of care that has fallen upon her. This factor plays a slightly significant factor in the way that the children’s lives are shaped and the attitudes of the spouses. When a couple is only a few weeks into being married, even a few weeks away from being married, they will wrap themselves in a bubble. According to Keith Hillman, the author of the web article How Does Being Married Affect You, one’s priorities change; instead of being all about what they need and want, this shifts. They begin to take the other person in consideration