Sylvester Stallone makes a good aspect about the meaning of love;”I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people; you can set your watch by them. And that’s love, even if it doesn’t seem very exciting”. Every person has a different concept of what love means. All we want to know is how to have the perfect loving relationship. The key to having a successful/perfect relationship according to Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of love has three components: intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy is the common bonds you have with your partner. As well as sharing your secrets, no attraction and serious commitment you just like each …show more content…
Sternberg theory of love believes that consummate love is what everyone strives to achieve: “Consummate love is the complete form of love” (Sternberg 2).Erika and I have been friends since elementary. We are not only best friends we are like sisters, we tell each other everything. Erika’s relationship is really strong and it’s really silly to say it, but I want someone that would love me the way Victor loves Erika. She has been with Victor for 3 years now. I believe that some people search their whole life for love; others find early on in life. Out of the blue, Erika told me, “Guess what, I think he’s the one, if he asks me to marry him I will say yes in a heartbeat.” I never saw her talk about her relationship like this before. Whenever I see them together they are happy to be around each other. According to Sternberg, “Consummate love may not be permanent. For example, if passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love” (2). After all the things that happened between them they always find a way, they can 't stay away for too long. The passion they have for each other is undeniable. Erika’s and Victor are not only lovers they can truly say that they are best friends. I am really happy that she found her soul mate/ life –partners I know it’s cheesy to say, but I hope one day I’ll find my prince charming and have a consummate …show more content…
Over the years, I have seen my older sister’s relationship go from love at first sight to empty love. Love is always there, but it can sometimes be forgotten when hope is gone. Love can save, but also destroy. According to Sternberg, “Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion having died” (1). She has been with her boyfriend over six years now and they have three beautiful kids. The kids ages range from four to ten years old. My older sister is a person who never gives up on the love she feels, she believes her relationship can last. She told me one day “He was the love of my life now I cannot stand to live my life with him anymore I don’t know what to do?” I told her, “It’s up to you, do you want to live the rest of your life with someone that you don’t love anymore.” After she told me she cries her eye out. Every time we have a family reunion my sister puts a happy face on and acts as if her relationship is okay. You can easily tell that they cannot stand being around each other like they use to. Their relationship is only commitment for the sake of the kids. They sleep in a different room, they hardly speak to one other it’s like they are strangers. It really hurts me to see my oldest sister suffer in her relationship. I really hope she opens her eyes and sees that she can move on from him and find someone else who makes her
Gigi and Alex’s relationship could be described as storge, “friendly lovers” (McCornack, 2013, p. 284). Their relationship is “rooted in friendship” as they were strictly friends before anything else. Ben and Janine’s marriage was the style of pragma, “practical lovers”. They got married right out of college where it was “logical” and “founded in common sense”. (McCornack, 2013, p. 284) Different from these two styles were the characters Beth and Neil. Beth and Neil were in a relationship where they shared strong feelings for each other despite the fact that they had opposite views of marriage. At one point it becomes too much and they break up. However they find their way back to each other and each is willing to compromise. Beth is okay with not getting married as long as their relationship stays strong. Because she is willing to do this, Neil appreciates her sacrifice and asks for her hand in marriage. This love style can be described as agape, “forgiving lovers” who are “patient, giving, and unconditional.” (McCornack, 2013, p. 284) Despite their differences, they forgave each other and made compromise. Comparing the relationships in the movie it appears the style of a romantic relationship has an impact its chance at survival. Because the relationship style, pragma, is based off a good idea rather than an actual connection, it seemed as Ben and Janine didn’t know what they were fighting for. As for the others, they made it work against their
Robert Nozick’s Love’s Bond is a clear summary of components, goals, challenges, and limitations of romantic love. Nozick gives a description of love as having your wellbeing linked with that of someone and something you love. I agree with ideas that Nozick has explained concerning the definition of love, but individuals have their meaning of love. Every individual has a remarkable thing that will bring happiness and contentment in their lives. While sometimes it is hard to practice unconditional love, couples should love unconditionally because it is a true love that is more than infatuation and overcomes minor character flaw.
Love means you are willing to do everything for the one you love. You will fight for the one
Love is defined as a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. Faithfulness is often defined as true to one's word, promises, vows, or being loyal. In Homer’s famous story, The Odyssey, Odysseus and Penelope show their true love for one another, and how a good marriage can stay together. In “Bound by Love and Disability, and Keeping a Vow Until the End” you can take away that Edwin and Noemi love each other dearly. Marriages do not always turn out the way you want, but true love can make good things happen.
She feels scared during this time, however, she still thinks Ed loves her because he died for love. On the contrary, Mel points out that there is no relationship between love and killing himself and nobody knows why he kills himself. The story of Ed ends and the conversation moves on to Laura and Nick’s story. They think they know what love is. Terri tells them to stop the sappy newlywed love, since the honeymoon is going to be over soon.
Interpersonal relationships can take many forms and develop from multiple different factors. For example, Pat Solitano and Tiffany Maxwell, two characters from the movie Silver Linings Playbook, seem to have developed consummate love – a combination of all three factors in Sternberg’s triangle of love theory, which are passion, intimacy, and commitment (Aronson, p. 390-91). Their relationship developed over the course of the movie, starting from a little passion or physical attractiveness, growing into a somewhat dysfunctional form of an exchange relationship with hints of jealousy as well as self-disclosure, into the consummate love that is seen at the end of the movie. The two characters start to develop intimacy, passion, and commitment
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
After analyzing Raymond Carver’s “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love,” it is easy to see that there are several different ideas concerning true love that the characters in the story are in dispute over. Terri’s idea of real love is the most valid out of the group at the table. All of the members of the group are rather confused as to what real love is. Terri is included as one of the confused. However, I believe that she is the closest to understanding what love is. A key piece of evidence demonstrating her understanding of love is her remark to Laura and Nick. She scolds the couple for basing their relationship on physical aspects, rather than emotion or passion. Terri, like the rest of the party, is on her second marriage. Her first husband was an abusive man that beat her, and even dragged her by her ankles around their living room. Terri’s current husband, Mel, is a cardiologist that believes in spiritual love, and that between spouses, people are barren and hollow inside, and that he could be married to any other empty person without difference. Mel is rather shielded from emotion between spouses. His only real love lies with his children, unfortunately Mel allows his conflict with his ex wife to block him from calling his them. Terri does love Mel, but she reminisces about her time with Ed. Terri realizes that Ed was full of emotion, and that he was just befuddled and chaotic in his methods of sharing his feelings....
Love is said to be one of the most desired things in life. People long for it, search for it, and crave it. It can come in the form of partners, friends, or just simply family. To some, love is something of a necessity in life, where some would rather turn a cold shoulder to it. Love can be the mixture of passion, need, lust, loyalty, and blood. Love can be extraordinary and breathtaking. Love being held so high can also be dangerous. Love can drive people to numerous mad things with it dangerously so full of craze and passion.
Dating and marriage is not always how the movies picture it to be. It can be a complicated entanglement that is a special part of one’s life at the same time. Reality imposes a lot of true questions in relationships, which must be figured out in order for the relationship to thrive. Here is my take on dating and marriage for my life.
Love is having compassion for others, sharing feelings and your life with another person, as well as, having faith in others and forgiving those we love for the any errs that they may make. Most of all, we must be committed to those we love. Of course, this is only my opinion. No matter how long I try to explain what love is ultimately it is up to you, the reader, to define what love is to you. So let me leave you now with the words of the great Humanist Erich Fromm, "Can anything be learned about the art of love, except by practicing it?"
Love is not usually well defined. People often think that they are in love, but they can�t explain it. There is a great dealing of confusion of the words love, and infatuation. Love may include romance, infatuation, affection and tenderness. But it could be love if one or more of the elements are not present. The definition of love varies from person to person. Love is essential element for all relationships. Much of what is written about love is either brief or mocking. Society in general is very cruel and heartless toward real love of any kind. Modern writing mocks marriages, husbands and wives, but condones adultery, and other obscene values. Real love is a mystery to most people. Most people never realize the true potential or value of love, nor do they learn to practice the art of love.
The Definition of Love Love by definition is an emotion explored in philosophy, religion, and literature, often as either romantic love, the fraternal love of others, or the love of God based on the definition found in The Encarta Encyclopedia. As I explored the definitions through the Internet, books, and articles, I noticed the definitions changed quite a bit, but yet had the same basic understanding. The definition I found in The Encarta Encyclopedia is probably the most simple and most basic. It refers to love in the whole aspect, which is Godly, fraternal, and romantic. All of which can only be defined by one word and that is love.
n Robert Sternberg 's triangular theory of love, love is separated down into three different components. Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment are the three components of love and take on different roles in the theory of love. Passion involves physical and sexual attraction to the someone of interest. The feeling of excitement is also associated with passion, individuals tend to very excited to see their partner. Intimacy involves security, a sense of comfort and trust. If information about oneself is shared that it will be safe in the person of interest hands. Communication is the key element in this component. Commitment involves a decision of forming a long term relationship based on feelings for someone of interest. This in modern time in called
When my brother and Halee met she could have easily decided to pass my brother up because she knew that her grandparents would be mad. But love is blind and she decided to give him a chance. Her grandparents are now speaking to her regularly and have accepted that she is in love with my brother. It was very hard for my brother when he found out what happened with Halee’s grandparents but they made it through it and their love story is what I believe in. Because of the example that I have watched for five and a half years I know that true love exists. Love is blind and hate does not stand a chance against