Loss Of Identity

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Moving to another place that one is unaccustomed of requires a person to adapt. To acclimatize oneself to a new environment, different traditions/cultures may lead up to one’s loss of identity. In my experience, when my family migrated from the Philippines to America, I was surprised with what I witnessed (from the cleanliness of the environment to the way people act and speak towards/about other people, especially to the elders). Everything was completely different that I was so scared to approach or befriend someone in fear of being made fun of or of being thought as weird for not being alike to them. Living almost 13 years of my life in the Philippines, I was raised in a very different environment. I grew up believing different beliefs and having different views, so when I relocated it was very hard for me to connect. As time passed by, I learned how to accept and be part of this new life, new beginning. But in exchange of being able to fit in and connect with the new people in my life was the person who I used to be. A part of me sometimes wishes to go back in time and be the person who I once was. Furthermore, when one relocates, his/her child(ren), younger siblings, or anyone who moved with him/her may not even get the chance to meet or get to know his/her other relatives. And if given a chance, it is doubtful that they would have a bond or a type of relationship that could be treasured. Growing up with one’s family

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