When I moved from New York to Texas I left behind the most important thing: love. I had been dating Franky for a year when I up and moved south. It was a really sad parting for us both, but we decided to continue our relationship as long-distance to see how it would work out. However, I knew deep down that it would not last very long. Long-distance relationships are hard, and the chances of them failing are great. Needless to say, the odds were not in our favor and our relationship ended four months afterwards. The causes that led to Franky and I’s failed long-distance relationship were numerous. One of the reasons why our relationship failed is the most common: lack of communication. The first couple of months we would talk every night before going to bed, either on the phone or using the face-to-face chatting on Skype. It was sort of romantic. We would schedule dates where we would watch the same movie together, or go for long walks while talking on the phone, or even make dinner, dress up, and eat together while face chatting on Skype. Later on life just started getting in the way...
Physically communicating and connecting with a person will never compare to texting or any social media. There comes a time where as human beings we need someone physically here with us whether we need advice, support, or just someone to express our feelings to. In Ashton Kutcher’s article “Has Texting Killed Romance?” Kutcher discusses how romance has changed because of technology updates and how it has hindered relationships.
I was born and raised in Buffalo, New York and it’s all I’ve ever known. When I was younger my parents took me on little short trips like, Toronto and Columbus, Ohio. I was young, so I didn’t really remember a lot that was going on or different about the two places. When I got older, I decided I wanted a change in my life but did not know what or where. In September of 2003, I was invited to my cousin’s wedding in Charlotte, North Carolina. I decided to go and when I did, I did not want to return back to Buffalo. Of course, I had to come back to Buffalo because I was only visiting. I had made up in my mind right then, Charlotte, North Carolina was the place for my children and me. I decided to move to Charlotte before Christmas of that year. My experiences were years to remember. I stayed in Charlotte for a total of seven years. During the years I had been living in Charlotte, my most memorable experiences were the weather and the commuting.
I met him at the Hawthorne high-school’s orientation. October 3, 2012, was the official date and months of being with him, for the first time ever he made me feel something I’ve never felt before. He was the first guy I ever came to love. I can go on about this, but I’m not going into detail about what happened those years. Let’s just wrap up that story to the simple truth, he left me. I had invested all my time and attention towards him, that I began to care less about school. I was never expecting it, or maybe I was. It hurt. Looking at him hurt. I remember coming home and crying my heart out. I was devastated. It was something I’ve never wanted to experience. I sobbed and sobbed that night, and gripped onto my pillow and shouted into them, hiding the cries. I felt empty when I awoke the next day. My eyes were swollen, and I felt an empty void. I felt dead. We didn’t speak to each other after that. Months passed, and I was keeping myself occupied with work and friends, I finally was learning how to move on, on my own. I finally came to find my happiness through realization. They say somethings happen for a reason. It’s either a
Becoming the person I am today and overcoming all the roadblocks and detours life has thrown at me, was not easy. An epiphany that has helped change me into a more independant woman, transpired in the office of a dealership. At that moment is when it dawned on me that I’d officially entered adulthood. My significant other, however, sees my move from New York to Connecticut as my most significant and life changing experience. Both of our perspectives were definitely important milestones in my life, but one seemed to tip the scale more than the other .
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First I want to talk about sacrafices people tend to make for love. Acoording to an article from the Greater Good, it’s not rare for a serious relationships to require moving away from were one lives to help there partner presue a career. But moving away a is a major sacrifice; it usaly means leaving friends, family and a job. Doing this means leaving an entire life behind for one person. Although in some cases it’s understandable that one would be happy to do this for someone they deeply cared for, it should be remembered that not that many of these relashonships do not work out.
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In our culture, technology serves as an instrumental aspect of our lives. Regardless of where you turn, you are constantly surrounded by technology. Whether it is our cellphones that spend their entire lives within an arm’s reach of us, our computers, or the newest wave of technology that is moving us towards tablets, much of our life is lived in front of screens. With these advancements comes the notion that there is an application that can solve every life problem we may have. Thanks to technological advancements like text messaging or social media networks, there are plenty of ways a relationship can be sustained for a significant period without personal contact. Unfortunately, most people have a misconstrued belief that these resources are a great substitute for personal time in relationships that have periods of long distance separation. Scientists and relationship experts debate the usefulness of technology in relationships and many do not share the above mentioned belief. They debate if technology helps sustain relationship or helps ruin relationships. Just as social media can be a great way of keeping up with others while they are away, it can also be used to spy on others and assume an intimate connection between anyone who posts on your significant other’s wall often.
A week goes by and we did not communicate, face-to-face or by text. I thought long and hard about what I wanted to do in this relationship. I talked to my friends and they said I should give him another chance and see if things change, so I did. We dated for about another two months and I decided this is not what I wanted. I felt no attraction to him anymore and I felt miserable when I was around
After doing more research in the impact of technology on interpersonal relation, I realized that technology isn’t all that great, because it hinder us from socializing practically and create a healthy interpersonal relationship. In like manner, the same goes for online dating because in my opinion, effective communication still needs to be done in person. Body language, voice tone, and physical contact make a huge difference in making conversation more alive.
The term “homesickness” refers to the functional impairment or the distress, which is precipitated by an anticipated or actual separation from what one is familiar with. Occasionally, homesickness can be severe, and hence, it is viewed in the context of the adjustment disorders by the American Psychiatric Association mode of classification. Specifically, homesickness is characterized by depressed mood and anxiety. One can easily distinguish homesickness from related anxiety disorders due to the unique presentation of recurring thoughts focused on home, namely loved ones, house, homeland, pets, home cooking, and a wish to return home. Homesickness can affect negatively one’s cognition, behavior, emotions, and physical condition to an extent of warranting clinical attention (Thurber and Walton 3). The purpose of writing this paper is to discuss the topic of homesickness as it has had adverse effects on me while at school.
Without moving to Florida, I wouldn’t have this one distinctive friendship. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and evidentially in this specific case. Through this one friendship, I developed my love for the Lord. I became closer to God than ever before. I became immensely tolerant, unconditionally loveable and utterly forgiving. I forgave my dad for putting me through all of these imbricating situations. I learned that my narcissistic ways were impulsive and I needed to be selfless. I became closer to my dad, and he is the closest person to me
...e,” because he didn’t want my senior year to revolve around someone I can barely see. His detachment reached the point of no response, and he ceased communication all together, saying “It was needed for us to move on until college.” To this day I still love him, and I know he still loves me. He wants the best for me, and although it is painful because I cannot hear his voice, it’s truly what I need. “I will be there at the airport the day you arrive at your future college, I love you forever and always.” These were the last words that I heard from him, harsh, yet caring. To this day I still love him, and try to move on, but no one seems to even come close to this amazing person. “Love at first sight” I once believed as a fools quote, but today I see it as the most amazing thing in the world, something that is achieved by pure chance and luck, only experienced by few.
It’s hard for relationships that are composed by persons that are active on social media because when they are so active they are unable to talk with their partner they always solve their problem by social media like Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and Instagram. Anything they saw on social media that they don’t like they start arguing about it but they always get a fight thru their cellphone by text messages they never do it face to face. According to the article “My Phone Killed My Relationship” by Stolz Kim, he wrote, “every time she saw something she found suspicious, she would text me demanding answers” (179). This is an example of people that are so active on social media instead of having a conversation face to face they prefer to go through the social media to solve their
Throughout the years endless amount of research has been done regarding communication in a romantic long distance relationship. Many scholars state that a long distance relationship consists of a couple who lives separated from one another (Neustadeter & Greenberg 2011). However, numerous other scholars define this type of relationship as a limitation in the daily togetherness of two individuals who would like to be together more than they can be, as well as, them only being able to communicate through technology (Billedo, Kerkhof, Finkenauer 2015; Brody 2013). There are new definitions that are slightly different being created every single day depending on the situation, location, time frame, and scholar presenting the information.