Long-Term Effects Of Abuse

September 29,2001, I lost my mother due to her being physically abused. There were days I would sit and watch my mother being drug by her hair throughout our home. My mother and her abuser met back in the year of 1997 and the became friends. As a child growing up and having to see your mother being abused was a very painful situation to deal with. There were three young children that became involved and will forever be affected by this situation. My mother became pregnant with my little sister and of course I hope and believed in my heart the abuse would stop but instead it became worse. Her abuser began pulling her hair, raping her on several occasions, beating her and even pushing her down a flight of stairs while pregnant. My mother made

her first attempt to leave January of 1998 but she wanted her abuser to be involved in their daughter’s life. After giving birth and attempting to move forwards with her life for her daughters, he continued to abuse her. September 29, 2001, we received a phone call that she was murdered and so was he. He killed her and then killed himself afterwards. This is something that me and my sisters with be effected by our entire lives. This message is to all women who are in abusive relationships, please get out while you can. Each woman deserves a man that truly cares about her.
What is Abuse?
Abuse is the use to adverse effects or for a bad purpose. To misuse, treat someone with cruelty or violence. The improper use of something or being cruel to a person or animal. Physical abuse is intentional and unwanted contact with someone or something close to the body. To escape physical, you must learn to be alone and by yourself. Most women find it hard being alone. Protecting yourself by removing yourself from an unhealthy or abusive relationships if it tends to get worse. Physical abuse sis the most visible form of abuse. It involves an individual using any type of physical force that might cause harm. Normally physical abuse starts with being pushed or maybe even slapped, simple minor things. The abuser usually blames others when things takes a turn for the worse and causes them to become violent. The person who is most violent will eventually regret their actions and become apologetic which makes it difficult to leave the relationship. Physical abuse is not limited to children and is possible to happen in adults of all ages. Neglect can also be an aspect of physical abuse. Anyone could suffer from abuse but it’s mostly women who are either elderly, mentally disabled, substance abusers, and intimate partners. Abuse damages people because it wounds the soul. Abuse has the most significant sources of emotional, physical, and relational damage. Recent research shown during early childhood abuse, neglect, and seeing it first-hand it alters and damages the brain. These damages put a host of long term and social pathologies. Prostitutes are 3 to 4 time to have been physically or sexually abused as a child. It has been estimated that 2 million Americans self-mutilate due to unresolved childhood trauma. It is also said that an estimated 1/3 of abused children will grow up to be abusive parents and partners.
Most victims often feel shame or guilt over being abused. Most victims are afraid of speaking out because they are ashamed of how they will be judged. Physical abuse normally happens in cycles which includes threats of violence, apologies by the abuser, and when the abuser maybe planning their next action of abuse. Women who are in marriages suffer greater severity of abuse then other relationships. A previous study at Harvard University showed that convicted abusive men have lower levels of education, less agreeable, less extraverted, less self-confident, moodier, and more authoritarian. These characteristics of men shows they are more likely to lash out when provoked.
Male abusers have their own desire for unquestioned obedience and lack of compassion for those they believe are weak or inferior. When a woman “breaks a rule”, the male abuser has no compunction against harsh punishments. Power and control are two prevalent motivations for physical abuse. Men tend to get upset with a woman if he asks her to do something and she refuses, that then will cause him to act out and begin to assault and abuse her while in the relationship. Some other risk factors of physical abuse are substance abuse, stress, fatigue, a history of violence, and psychological impairments. It is common with 4-8% of women are found to be abused while they are pregnant. The reason for this is because the man feels that his importance is displaced by the pregnancy. Men tend to believe that after being with a woman and feeling as if the hold all the power in the relationship that their partner belongs to them and not something as small as a baby come in between what he has going in. Babies being involved in abusive situations have risks of being premature and underweight. Men do not care about the fact of a woman carrying their baby since they feel that the relationship is all about him and what he wants. There are several impacts of physical abuse and what abuse can do to you. Trauma is pervasive, damaging, and a serious threat when it comes to abuse. In the year of 2011, 676,569 children are victims of abuse or neglect. There is a survey by stratus 49 per 1,000 parents perpetrate physical abuse on children. This indicator shown to increase the risk of child abuse is partner violence. Most women sometimes use physical aggression but are more injured then men. IPV more than likely interfere with the mother child relationship by impending mother’s responsiveness to the child. The Parent-Child Conflict Tactics Scale assess the maternal physical abuse during childhood.
The Adverse Childhood Experiences describes the long-term experiences.

The long-term impact of abuse during childhood has then following outcomes in adults: disease risk, quality of life, and mortality. Effects of physical abuse can be acute and far-reaching. The immediate effect might be a bruise or a cut. The long-term effects maybe drastic like post-traumatic stress. Psychological effects of physical abuse should not be underestimated. There are both long and short term effects of abuse. Short-term effects ae typically obvious and treatable by the emergency room or other healthcare providers. Many injuries from physical abuse affect victims as they grow older. Long-term effects of abuse are arthritis, hypertension, heart disease, STD’S, and chronic pain. Most studies compared children of battered women to those from non-violent homes. Investigators reported internalizing behavior or emotional problems among battered relationships to nonbattered. Battered children demonstrate externalizing behavior. Murder and suicide are frequently associated with physical abuse. Depression is a primary psychological response to physical abuse. Abused women have 16 times a greater risk of abusing alcohol as well as 9 times the risk of abusing drugs. Some other psychological effects include: suicidal behavior, self-mutilation, panic disorder, and

PTSD.
Children are victims of physical abuse even though they are not the victims themselves. 1/3 of children who witness the battering demonstrate behavioral and emotional problems. The effects on children include: stuttering, anxiety, sleep disruption, excessive crying, issues at school, depression, running away, anger, low self-esteem, and relationship problems of their own. Children that witness this form of abuse are likely to be victims or perpetrators as adults. Most pictures of physical abuse can be graphic and upsetting. Most women who are physically abused have blackened eyes, broken arms, busted lips, or even a swollen face.
Between the years of 1994 and 2000 4 in 5 victims where females that where abused by their lovers. It has been said that 30% to 60% of perpetrators of these relationships also abuse children in their own household. A study from Northern America found that children who are exposed to violence in their home are 15 times more likely to be physically abused then the national average. 43% of college women have reported experiencing physical abuse from their partner. Over 40% of victims of severe physical abuse are men. In 2010, a national survey stated more men were victims of physical abuse then women. The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey in December an estimated 5,365,000 men and 4,741,000 women were victims of physical abuse.
I am a victim of physical abuse. My mother was abused and as I used to watch and try to defend my mother I was either thrown across the room or told to get out the way. During the episodes of abuse my mother was also raped. Losing my mother due to abuse has changed my life forever. There are moments when I wish I could call my mother and just talk but I can’t. I to have had my share of abusive relationships and for some reason it was hard for me to leave but once I realized that I wanted more out of my life I left. No woman should have to go through being abused especially by a man that they love. Women need to rise and pay attention to the things they allow a man to take them through.
Emotional Abuse coheres with physical abuse.

Emotional abuse deals with one’s emotions and how they feel towards the way they feel about the things that they have been through. Emotional Abuse is a sneaky killer of the spirit and worse. Emotional Abuse will erode your joy, sense of well-being, mental health, and possibly suicide. Some of the signs of abusive partners and Emotional Abuse are that they will make mean jokes, criticize and judge you negatively. They will also humiliate their partner, insult you in private and in front of others as a method of your personal self-esteem. Your abuser will also say things that are hurtful and hurt your feelings making you feel as if everything is your fault instead of their own. Researcher and author Brene Brown says that the difference between guilt and shame is that guilt is when something bad is done to you to whereas shame makes you feel like a bad person. Abusive partners usually point out what they do as well to gain power over you. Emotional abuse tends to create a sense of shame in you. There is a vague sense that you are not worthy of respect, love, nor them. Most abusers create an illusion when saying “You are so bad, no one else will ever want or love you.” This statement here is enough to make a person hurt or become emotional due to who is saying it and the way it is being said. A healthy relationship is when you and your partner are free to express the hurts you have, the scares, the worries, as well as your hopes

and dreams without being violent towards each other. An emotional abuser doesn’t want to hear your pain, and states the pain that you receive is what you deserve. Somethings that your abuser says are things you as a woman would never imagine having to go with. My mother was an amazing woman and the things that were done to her I feel it was a bit too much. Your abuser makes you feel guilty, evil, or shameful for simple innocent interactions. Most abusers make threats. They often threaten to leave you for someone else, to kill you and themselves but instead of taking the blame themselves they often blame you for their action. One core trait of emotional abuse is not taking responsibility for their own choices.
Sexual Abuse is another form in which a woman can be physically abused. Not giving your partner enough sexual activity makes them think there is someone else or there is something wrong. Sexual abuse is a form of sexual violence that includes rape, child molestation, incest, and forms of non-consensual contact. Sexual abuse is not about sex, its more about gaining power over a person. There are several organizations that are available to survivors that are a victim of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is mostly common in women and girls. Rape is forced sexual contact with a person who does not agree. Child molestation is any sexual contact with a child. Incest is sexual contact with any member of their family.
The last form related to physical abuse would be verbal abuse. There is no real explanation of verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is when the victim tries to make sense of the abuser’s treatment. Your abuser will define reality, decide things you can and cannot do and will also treat you as if you have no existence.