Language barrier was a difficult process my family and I had to overcome. At the beginning it was difficult for all my family members to learn English, but as the years passed we learned to speak it accurately. My childhood was difficult because I was the oldest of three children and I had to go to school, learn English first and help translate for my parents. I believe it was a little easier for my brother and sister because I was able to teach them English and they did not have to stress much, but our parent’s immigration status was still a stressor event that affected us a great amount. My sister, Lupe, was the second child and she was born in 1998, when she was born, my dad had a stable job in the restaurant, but would still have the fear …show more content…
My family is considered a cohesive family because we depend on each other for support and are close. My family and I listen to each other if we are experiencing problems or if we are stressed. We inform each other if there is something wrong and help each other in anything we can. My family and I love each other and we try to stay as connected as possible. Sometimes my parents would argue over the stressor event, but would overcome their problems and work things out. My parents would get very upset and stressed that they did not have legal papers and had to live with fear of being deported. My parents had financial problems as well, but never let any stressor or problem get in our way of being a happy and united family. My family has always listened to each other’s problems and tries to help each other, but sometimes when we are very stressed it is hard to communicate in a positive way. We are a cohesive family, but sometimes if we are stressed we distance each other to not create problems or tensions with each other. My father is considered the breadwinner in the family and it would difficult sometimes to communicate with him because if he did not like our idea, he would not listen and believe his idea is the only correct one. As we transitioned to bonadaption, my father learned to hear our ideas more and not make us believe we are beneath him, but we are with him. As a family, we learned to accept each other and learn from each
My parents did everything they knew to help my sister and I learn and respect our Mexican culture. Born into American culture but raised by Hispanic parents, often was difficult for me. Since I was little I had to manage and balance two very different cultures at the same time. There were many times while growing up that I encountered complex situations in regards to language, whether to speak Spanish or English and when it was appropriate. I felt a lot of pressure having to act as an interpreter for my parents when we were out in public. At home I was told to speak Spanish so I would not forget, but at school I was taught to only speak English with my teachers and friends. However, when we would go visit family in Mexico, I was expected to only speak in Spanish, since speaking in English in front of family members who only spoke Spanish was seen as disrespectful. So learning two languages has been very beneficial to my life and for my family. By
Regardless of the position within their family, decisions can be made openly and honestly, while acknowledging their differences. However, this therapy can limit the family role concerning how to appreciate each other, decreased desire to solve the issues, and more geared toward groups(M.U.S.E).
Having a family is no easy task, especially when you are faced with many challenges that are unforeseen. Sometimes one imagines or hopes for an ideal family. The ideal family would consist of a spouse, one or two kids and live happily with little to no conflicts. The reality is that even if one tries to avoid conflict by all possible means, conflict is inevitable. Stressors and strengths within a family can be seen in almost every situation. Although stressors tend to be more noticeable than the strengths. Some of which will be discussed later on, although it will be mainly focused on the strength and stressors faced after a divorce for children. But if one focuses on the stressors more than the strengths, one will only see stressors rather than solutions.
When I first came to this country, I wasn’t thinking about the language, how to learn it, use it, write, how I’m going to speak with people who are next to you and you want to talk to them. My first experience was in Veterans School, it was my first year in school here in United States, and I was in eight grades. The first day of school you were suppose to go with your parent, especially if you were new in the school, like me. What happened was that I didn’t bring my dad whit me, a woman was asking me a lot of questions and I was completely loss, I didn’t have any idea of what she was telling me and I was scare. One funny thing, I started cry because I fell like frustrate, I didn’t know no one from there. Someone seat next to me, and ask me in Spanish what was wrong and I just say in my mind thanks God for send me this person, then I answered her that I didn’t know Engl...
Family is made up of both strengths and stresses. Families cannot have one of these factors without the other. Even the most dysfunctional families have some strengths that keep them united, while the most united families have some stress. Let’s take the Kardashian for example. When Kim Kardashian West was robbed of her jewelry worth nearly 9 million dollars, while that’s a big stress how her husband Kanye West reacted and walked off the stage in the middle of concert in Queen to check on her when he heard his wife has been robbed is a strength, it shows how they have a bond that could last.
When my mother arrived in Paterson, she hated it and thought it was so ugly and even cried to go back to Mexico. After six months my mother was able to go back to Mexico to get her green card, which showed that she was a legal citizen of America. My mother’s main priority was about making sure to go to school and get an education. She was able to go to Kennedy High School but hated it since she only spoke Spanish and couldn’t understand anything. The only thing she was able to truly excel in was in Mathematics which she really loved. She was able to have classes taught to her in Spanish as she got accustomed to English. For my mother, learning English was the hardest thing she ever had to and it was very stressful for her learning English in high school. When my mother came to America she had dreamed of having a better life, becoming a teacher, being able to study, be reunited with her parents but she realized she wouldn’t be able to have that dream
Many people have gone through what I went through, which is not knowing English when arriving to the United States. Tan wrote a story about her mother called “Mother Tongue” in which she describes her experience with her mother and
From my experience, bilingual education was a disadvantage during my childhood. At the age of twelve, I was introduced into a bilingual classroom for the first time. The crowded classroom was a combination of seventh and eighth grade Spanish-speaking students, who ranged from the ages of twelve to fifteen. The idea of bilingual education was to help students who weren’t fluent in the English language. The main focus of bilingual education was to teach English and, at the same time, teach a very basic knowledge of the core curriculum subjects: Mathematics, Social Sciences, and Natural Sciences. Unfortunately, bilingual education had academic, psychological, and social disadvantages for me.
When looking at family systems, you must begin by looking at Murray Bowen’s family systems theory and “his views on the eight interlocking forces that shape family function,” (Haefner, 2014). Within Bowen’s family psychotherapy research, he noted that “family patterns and problems often repeat over generations, he also noted that families make up their own emotional systems, and within these systems they try to maintain stability and reduce conflict,” (Haefner, 2014). The eight interlocking forces noted by Bowen through (Haefner, 2014)
My family was dysfunctional due to the fact that my parents would argue about their responsibilities. This was especially relevant during dinner when I would sit at the table - told minutes before that dinner will be ready soon, but then would wait hours for any food to finally arrive, my parents busy doing work, would forget to cook and instead order dinner from a nearby restaurant.
families have struggles, both internal and external, and while this is undoubtedly true, the struggles that
There is always going to be obstacles that you have to overcome but once you overcome them a lot of doors open for you. Learning English for me was one of those obstacles I had to overcome but once I learned English I was able to help out my parents with translating and speaking it. Also making them realize that they also had to learn English because I wasn’t always going to be around to help them out. Yes I got frustrated a lot translating for my parents but looking back at it now I wouldn’t change it because it’s made me who I am
I have been shown over the years through my mother’s relationships as well as mine, that poor communication not only arises from the communication styles of the people involved, but from the family’s joint experiences, beliefs and expectations. Poor communication in today's family can also arise from structural and external problems such as the continual loss of jobs that has pushed my family, as well as others into financial distress and made our lives precarious. Even the families that are not facing such immediate stresses as how to get health insurance without a job, or pay the rent without an income, there are a number of stresses that are endemic in our society, including the fact that the rules governing family structures and responsibilities are far more complex than they need to be.
People and life are constantly changing, people come in and out of your life, but your family will always remain present in your life. They are the ones who will never leave you. Though the Webster’s dictionary considers family as "the basic unit of society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children” (Webster). Family is the biggest part of an individual’s life. Families tend to each other’s needs and we create a bond with our family that will never be breakable. Family values should be treasured and remembered. No one could love you more than your family does; the best love is from your family. They will never let you stand alone and will always stand beside you and help you get through any obstacle.
My family emigrated from the Dominican Republic when I was two years old. At the time, none of us spoke any fluent English. Due to their limited education,