Intimacy Vs. Isolation, By Erickson

When I think of the Intimacy, I automatically think of closeness with a person whether it be a spouse or a dear friend. And when I think about Isolation, immediately the thought of being isolated comes to mind. The two words becomes opposite of each other. There of several stages of this behavior as studied by Erik Erickson. As we enter young adulthood in our early 20s, we also enter Erikson’s stage known as intimacy vs. isolation. During this stage, young adults face the challenges of forming close relationships with others. They develop intimate friendships and partnerships. Intimacy is commonly associated with a sexual relationship, but

Relationships with family members and good friends deepen and become more solid as you learn what it means to love. Some young adults in this stage make decisions about what qualities they look for in a relationship. Some find a spouse or a future spouse. We understand that intimacy means close familiarity or friendship; closeness. We also understand that isolation means the process or fact of being isolated. Love and affiliation (capacity to give and receive love-emotionally and physically, connectivity with others, socially and inter-personally comfortable, ability to form honest reciprocating relationships and friendships, capacity to bond and commit with others for mutual satisfaction-for work and personal life. Intimacy means the process of achieving relationship with family and marital or mating partner(s). Erikson explained this stage also in terms of sexual mutuality –the giving and receiving of physical and emotional connection, support, love, comfort, trust, and all the other elements that we would typically associate with healthy adult relationships conductive

The problem is that past trust violations have frozen your client in fear. Suppose that client was burned the last time he or she trusted someone, and then you come along and ask him or her to trust someone again. From the clients’ perspective, your “logical: an argument is irrational. When people act irrationally, chances are a past unresolved trust violation is at work. So along with making the logical arguments, when dealing with the emotions of mistrust, you may also try to address the underlying trust violations that are its direct cause. You may have clients whose past experiences have affected their entire approach to life and money. They may have an irrational fear of losing their money, or maybe they are just afraid of spending, borrowing, or loaning it. If you have a client with mistrust issues, instead of emphasizing your proposal, do some listening: Ask about past trust violations; be sympathetic; Let the client vent; tell the client a story of something worse happening to you. This is not “expert advice,” it is permission to delicately pursue a new angle; and Use your best judgment. Mistrust energy is powerful stuff, and this is why most people just run away from