Importance Of Turning Point In My Relationship

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Introduction: For the final project, I chose to write and research about a turning point in one of the most important relationships I have in my life, that being my relationship with my mom. In my adolescence years, we did not have a wonderful friendship or relationship. We had a difficult time connecting and trying to get on the same page as one another. I will be using this relationship to identify how the turning point of me leaving for college and known as the turning point of physical separation actually developed into a relationship that is now a strong bond and friendship. I will also explore several studies and peer reviewed articles that researched the mother-daughter relationship.
When we moved to California right after my tenth birthday is when I began to notice a negative shift in our relationship. My mom had just divorced my dad and moved us to California, and I resented her for it. It started out as bickering back and forth, and began to escalate into poor communication between us. I began to want to be more independent from my mom, and she did not take that very well. Fast-forward to a couple years later, I felt that she only saw me as a rebellious, hormonal teenager who constantly lied to her and who she could not trust. I saw her as a controlling helicopter parent, …show more content…

We now go on outings and plan fun trips together, two things we never did before. Fischer states in her article that “change in the mother-daughter bond entails a process of redefinition and renegotiation in terms of their relative statuses, their role perspectives, and their family structure” (Fischer 1981). My mother and I have redefined our relationship with each other through communication and actions. We have since began started relying on each other more, trusting each other, and changed our communication patterns that were mostly anger and frustration

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