One of the points of confusion for me early in this book was the “I-It” relation. After reading and rereading the book I have been able to grasp the concept better and understand that “I-It” relations really drive our society today. Buber claims that these relations are always instrumental, purposive, and goal-directed relation. Taking this concept and applying it to my life I could see where most relationships are built on “I-It” relations. There are people in my own life that I solely go to the gym with or do other activities and I never really looked at it as a means to and end. However, after reading Buber I realized that is exactly what it was and that everyone does this in his or her lives. Another point that was made more clear as
1) Many successful athletes say that the best part of their life wasn't the millions of dollars they made, or the trophies they won, but the time they spent playing and competing in their favourite sport. This same concept is present in the novels Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and The Restaurant at the End of the Universe by Douglas Adams, as the characters come to realize through both positive and negative ways, that it’s the journey and experiences in life are what matter. The plot and setting of the novels influence this act of realization in the characters, most notably, Arthur Dent.
Looking at this from the different perspectives of a functionalist, symbolic interactionist, and conflict helps to show other points of view. If you were to look at this book from a functionalist’s perspective you would be looking at it from an extremely greedy aspect. A functionalist would say that their parents and society told them that only people with money were good and successful. Thus, causing you to feel like “trash” or class if you did not make a huge salary, and live a wealthy life. A symbolic interactionist would tell you that they grew up where all of their peers drove nice cars, and had large homes, so to fit in, you need to be able to buy those things. However, a person with a conflict point of view would say that it was her ongoing struggle with society, and having to defend her class, that has made her who she is today.
If I start to like something because of someone I love it becomes a part of who I am. Without the people I love I would not be who I truly am. No matter how hard I try to leave and be free on my own. I am stuck without them being pieces of them and not my whole self. A sense of who we are is found in being alone. What makes me different from other makes me who I truly am. I may be 5 '4 but a tree can also be the same height as me. If I was the first person to create something it is significant because other recognized that I am the first is what made it significant in the first place (55). No matter who you like or what you want to do we have to be true to who we are. This mean you are not being true to yourself. Our small differences do not matter and you are insignificant by yourself (56). Your real self-has to be chosen by someone else because you can not do it alone. You will always be your true self that others have made. Being true to yourself is like a gift that someone has given you and you just keep passing that gift down. Without others, we are nothing but an empty basket. We are not individualized like we think we are. We are each other in everything we do from the day we are born (58). We have all the tools to do it, but we use them differently for our own fulfillment through the relationship we have (59). Charles Taylor argues you can not be true to who you are without the relationship with
These relationships help manage our emotions through constant interaction and provides an open line of communication whenever or wherever it may be needed. However, this poses a question; can humans survive without interpersonal relationships? According to the online scholarly article titled: “Interpersonal Relationships, Motivation, Engagement, and Achievement: Yields for Theory, Current Issues, and Educational Practice” we emphasize just how critical and essential the perks obtained through these relationships are. Through these relationships we “theorize the concepts of academic morality on the strong and healthy relationships students establish” (Martin, 2009). Through interactions and through the successful and unsuccessful relationships we develop throughout our lifetime, we accumulate
In matter of relationships, I have only few friends; I tend to be very selective in the circle in which I move, and I do not welcome all types of people into my world. According to Erik Erikson theory of personality, I have been significantly influenced by the stage four: industry vs. inferiority. According to this theory, these behaviors might have an explanation that goes back from my childhood. Erikson points out that at stage four, children need to be reinforced positively for activities at school, in sports, or artistic fields in order to cultivate a high self-concept and a meaning of industriousness. If the child 's efforts are perceived as inadequate, feelings of social and mental inferiority can move stealthily into adulthood, (Maitland,
Having friends and family to rely on makes life a little easier. Dan Buettner informs his audience
Symbolic interaction is the process of how dynamic involvement in the life of groups affects the social development of an individual. It is a theory of interaction in which the goal of interactions is to create a shared meaning. Social structure is the arrangements of societies where human beings live to interact with each other. Self is the subject the individual experiences in connections to emotions. It occurs through the interactions of others. In Chapter 11, Mead, Blumer, and Goffman critiqued symbolic interaction as a theory of society and also discussed the differences between symbolic interaction and social structure.
Everyone had influenced by their surrounding. Your personal identities and choices in life are based on the role of the relationship you have with others. This helps you to realize who you are and what you need in the life. The combination of all you learns come together to give you a clear idea of what your needs, values, and belief in this life. Finally, it is clear that the role of relationship play an important role in the framework of our personal identities.
Through discovering my senses of self, I have reaffirmed the most important parts of my life, validating them on what seems like a value-scale. Because my bonds with God, my family, and friends are so strong and crucial, I know not a day could go by without consulting each of those elements. However, in considering my role as an athlete and student, I have noticed that while sports and my growing knowledge base give me great pleasure, my life would certainly hold many of the same core values, even if those elements dwindled or even escaped my everyday life.
It means design specific cognitive activities and application of those ideas during the process of designing. IDEO team uses Divergent and Convergent thinking in all the phases. Through divergent thinking, they have a broad set of ideas which are then funneled with convergent thinking.
...uggling to have meaningful social interaction and intimate relationships. I would also recommend that future and practicing counselor give this book a quick read for it provides a succinct and simple manner in which to explain the way humans interact with each other. In all, I feel that Eric Berne’s Games People Play is a great read for any individual who would like to become cognizant of the ways in which they impact their social relationships.
... making actual decisions, not selecting favourable experiences (which remain unchanged over the course of two years). In reality, relationships provide richness to pleasure, heightening it further than any fake pleasure could have been. There is always the challenge of trying, learning, failing and finally achieving. This achievement provides greater pleasure as well because one is able to distinguish between the lowest level (failure) and the overcoming of it at its highest level (achievement). Hedonists should see that it is important to be in tune with the entirety of reality, instead of just experiencing certain aspects of it.
Social Interaction is an essential element when understanding the role of a human in society and how a human conducts himself or herself. A key term for this interaction is a person’s status(a recognizable social position that an individual occupies. Page 128) in that society. Each person within that status has a role (the duties and behaviors expected of someone who holds a particular status. Page 128) to complete during their social interactions. However, if a person cannot complete the roles that are assigned to them in that individual status then they experience role strain (the incompatibility among roles corresponding to a single status. Page 128). One example from the book is a professor who needs to keep writing research and lectures
The statement "The relationships in our lives are one of the main reasons why we function as human beings.” In this text About a Boy by Nick Hornby there are elements where relationships between characters help them develop and without these relationships these characters would not be able to 'grow'. The relationship between will and Marcus and also the relationship between Marcus and Ellie proves how relationships in our lives are the reason that we function as human beings.
... relationships, increase self worth and set appropriate boundaries in order to achieve future goals.” (Huber)