How to Make New Friends

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FORBIDDEN FRIENDS
Perhaps you see someone at a party and wish you were friends, but face the reality that you aren’t meant to be friends with everyone you desire. Regardless of what you want, your personality type (or theirs) just might not be compatible.

Of course you won’t know if someone is a potential friend until you actually try to be friends. That means some of your attempts may fail, but don't get frustrated and quit trying if a relationship don’t work out. Eventually you’ll find a compatible person unless you are looking for friends in the wrong places or haven’t dealt with your issues that can hinder friendships.

Let me tell you a story about a friend of mine. Because of her husbands work, they moved a lot, and I don't mean across town. They moved to another state and this happened every few years. You can imagine how stressful it must be to leave everyone you know and move to a city of strangers.

She felt lonely, so her Mom gave her some advice. She said to knock on a neighbors' door and introduce herself. My friend did, but that advice didn't turn out exactly the way Mom expected. She received a rude response and went home crying. She called her Mom again to tell her what happened. Her Mom was pretty wise, and told her to try another neighbor, which she did. This time she met a friendly neighbor and suddenly she didn't feel so alone.

The point of this story is you must not give up if your first or even second or third attempt at making a friend fails. It's bound to happen, but eventually some of your attempts will succeed, when you present yourself as likeable and friendly. (Discussed in a later chapter)

Remember that everyone has hang-ups. You have likes and dislikes and so do others. You may or may not have com...

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...eir acceptance or rejection.

When you listen you learn about others likes and dislikes. In time you will develop trust and loyalty if this friendship is meant to last. A truly good and long lasting friendship does take some time. Remember that all friends won’t be best friends or lasting friends, however, the friends you do make and keep will be worth the investment. Others you’ll just have to walk away from. That’ll give you more time to pursue relationships worth keeping.

LESSONS LEARNED IN THIS CHAPTER:
Use a mirror to practice to look friendly and walk with confidence.
Approach someone when they are alone.
Be friendly and greet with a handshake.
Watch body language to know if a person is interested.
Ask questions and listen. Don’t talk too much.
Try to find a common interest.
Admire something about them.
Don’t waste time pursuing the wrong person for a friend.

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