Parents and their children are really the same person, seriously they are their offspring.
The parent’s job is to protect and guide their children to live successful and productive lives,
leading the child to save and keep the parents beliefs and cultures. A move to another country
and the drowning of new settings and cultures is a hard thing to accept and take in for anyone,
especially for children and their parents. Sometimes, this leads to the disconnection of children
and their parents, from the pushing of the parents for their child to become something they are
not. This creates confusion for the child and the parents, the child always blocked by their
parents on their path to finding their inner self, and the parents not understanding
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why the child has not chosen their way. Because of the immigration into another country, the children are often released into a new society soaking in new cultures to bring to their native country; separating the parents from their children creating a confusion on why and how they established a new culture. Parents that usually grow up in one country, are usually adapted to one certain culture they never want to leave.
The parents are never introduced to new cultures throughout their lives,
especially if they have not traveled or left their home country. Children that often move off to
other countries have done what their parents have never done, which is going off to be
surrounded by different surroundings. In Anzia Yezierska’s short story “Children of Loneliness”,
She leaves her home country and involves herself in new, outside cultures. Yezierska has
submerged herself and adopted some of these new cultures while living in America, to come
back and find that some of her parents ways do not fit her like they used to. She tries to change
some of the ways her parents do some things, with a response of “You think you can put our
necks in a chain and learn us new tricks?”(Yezierska, 179), by her father. Her father is saying,
since he is emerged in his culture, that there is no way in hell he will abide with the other ways
his daughter is trying to teach him. This is an example of how unaccepted cultures translate to
people who have been stuck in one certain setting. She comes back to find that the way her
parents speak, how they eat, and little things they do, do not fit how she has been
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acquainted with. Therefore, she tries to dip her parents into a new culture in a way, to try and fix their mishaps and introduce them to a new American culture.
As she continues to push harder and
harder, her parents become angry with her dad again saying “You think you can make us over for
Americans?”(Yezierska, 179). This again shows that people, such as Yezierska's parents, are not
willing to bring in the new cultures that are being brought to the table.
When a child immigrates to a new country he or she is usually submerged by the new
culture and lifestyle of a new country, leading to the development of the child in certain ways
attaining the new cultures. Again as a great reference point to show how this works, the inclusion
of Anzia Yezierska’s short story “Children of Loneliness”, is a wonderful example. There is no
need to explain the story in detail, but a way to show the effects and differences of what a change
in culture can do to an immigrated child. When she comes back to try and change what her
parents do, as said in the last paragraph, for many people it can take a turn for the worse. Her
parents non accepting of her words, “Can’t you use a fork”, and “Our teacherin said you dassant
touch no food with the hands”(Yezierska, 178). Shows that under any circumstances the
parents are not going to accept or even think about bringing a new culture into their house. Therefore the stubbornness, leads to the non acceptance of anything foreign into the lives of parents that have an immigrant child. Someone that has been subdued by another culture, like Yezierska, only has the capability of knowing what other cultures can bring to an accepting society, and how they might benefit from them. The cultures that the child immigrants bring into their society may help that society thrive, like trying to fix manner issues, as seen in Yezierska’s short story, that may not have applied before but is now seen by her. This is the usual effect by a person or people that have a certain set of ways they do things, and do not want to bring change into their lives. The immigration process also affects the parents not only the kids, making the parents blind to the fact that their child has succumbed to a new culture. When the parents and child move into a new country together, there is always some sort of trying to fit in. A great example of this is in Amy Tan’s short story “Two Kinds”. A mother and daughter move to America from China, trying to adopt a new life for themselves. Upon moving to this new country once again, here it comes, new cultures. This new country leads the mother to “Believe you can be anything you want in America”(Tan, 1), leading the mother to push her daughter to do things she really does not fit or want to do. The mother continues to push and push and push leading to a hatred from the daughter towards her mother, again separating the child from the parent. The daughter is inclined to fight this push from her mother, and her wanting of her child to become something she is not. Seeing all of the success of the American children leads the mother to push her daughter to become the “regular American child” saying, “Of course you could be a prodigy too”(Tan, 1), saying this to prove a point in how her daughter needs to fit in. This is an act of forcing someone to become another person and not allowing the person to venture out and find out who they truly are. Realizing this in the story, the daughter starts to resist her mother’s constant pressuring into a new lifestyle. This leads to the hatred of the parent by the child, leading to again as stated, the separation of parent and child. Parents tend to try and force their children into something that is not them or what the parent wished they could have been, causing a constant escalation of hostility from the child. Children tend to find their own way in life and find out who they can become throughout life, as life should be, learning from changes, mistakes, and so on and so forth. Parents can become and are a huge factors in a child’s life going through this process, helping the child navigate throughout their lives. Therefore, when a child moves away and adopts new settings and cultures that the parents are not inclined to know, this causes confusion in a parent/child relationship. Sometimes a parent will not accept the new changes their child has gone through, reverting back to the short stories and their insensitive parents in the previous paragraphs. The short stories that have been used, are symbols for everyone to see the changes a child can go through when immigrating into a new setting and their gradual accumulation of hatred and separation of child and parent. Because of the immigration into another country, the children are often released into a new society soaking in new cultures to bring to their native country; separating the parents from their children creating a confusion on why and how they established a new culture.
The Changeable nature of life affects us all somehow. Whether it be moving to a new city, having children, or losing people that we love, it can affect people in many different ways. For example, in the novel, the main character Taylor Greer changes her name from Marietta and moves...
For immigrants, reuniting with parents who left them is a huge problem in the U.S. Children who reunite with their parents after many years have a lot of problems with the parents. The parents and children tend to argue, the children have buried anger, and both have an idealized concept of each other. According to Los Angeles’s Newcomer School, a school for newly arrived immigrants which is referenced in Enrique’s Journey, a bit more than half of want to talk to the counselor about their problems. The main problem Murillo, the school’s counselor, says is mostly family problems. Murillo says that many parent-child meetings are all very similar and identical to each other. Some of the similarities are that idealized notions of each other disappear, children felt bitter before going to the U.S., and that many children have buried rage. Mothers say that the separations between them and child was worth it because of the money earned and the advantages in America. However, many children said that they would rather have less money and food if it meant their mothers would stay with them.
In some cases, that experience allows us to see them unsure about whether their child is competent enough to keep herself safe or responsible enough to play for our children alone and climb in the trees that allows us to take a good decision when we don’t agree with it. Also when our children are going to grow up it is a good decision to orient about your education because it is one decision that they need to take, the parent don’t allow take decision about it, because when their children don’t take that thing they like or can be frustrated in the future. For Example “when we have a lot of responsibility in our childhood or younger age all these responsibilities you had while younger were always like them”. In addition, the real problem with the overprotection is when we need to know to be careful, because when the parent overprotects the child they can’t grow up to take better decisions when in your life there is a problem.
let the tragedies in her life cripple her. Instead it strengthens her. Through questioning and
force her into a number of roles that strip the innocence of her youth and
... culture and they become a combination of both. Therefore it’s a culture within a culture. Immigrant youth are more satisfied changing their ‘old’ culture to adjust to the new one, however parents are more hesitant to do so. This transformation causes a lot of tension within the family.
There are many casual factors that can help explain Riley’s behavior such as culture, school, family, and biology. Riley experienced a culture shock when she moved to a different state. The first night when they got to San Francisco Riley suggested to get pizza for dinner. There was a pizza joint just down the road that she saw on the way to the new house but when she got there, there’s only one type of pizza on the menu, broccoli pizza. Which is radically different to what she is used to in Minnesota. Riley was extremely disgusted and soon realized that being in a new city, comes different ways of living. “Besides the conflicts that differing cultural standards create, children’s and adults’ own culture values may bias their perceptions of others... but it’s important to note that problems of bias and discrimination carry serious implications for evaluating youngsters’ behavior (Kauffman, 159). School also can have many effects on her behavior. When the teacher called on Riley to introduce herself to the class she started off well until she thought about Minnesota and how her life used to be and comparing it to what it will be like now. Riley had an emotional breakdown and became upset under pressure. She started to cry, ramble and lose her train of thought when she talked about the times she used to play hockey out on the pond every winter with her dad when the water froze.
According to Montgomery (2014) ‘Children in different parts of the world lead very different lives, partly because of the variations of cultural beliefs about childhood’. These variations are brought about by the fact that each child is different, with different beliefs, raised with different parenting methods in different countries with different cultural influences. All of which have individual definitions of what it is to be a child, and a child’s capabilities. These cultural and social differences all vary on their emphasis of traits that are important, such as individuality, independence, inter-dependancy and expectations of behaviour. Each child is constructed in a unique way according to these differences, and each difference impacts
A sudden change in one’s surroundings can result in culture shock. Culture shock refers to the anxiety and surprise a person feels when he or she is discontented with an unfamiliar setting. The majority of practices or customs are different from what a person is used to. One may experience withdrawal, homesickness, or a desire for old friends. For example, when a person goes to live in a different place with unfamiliar surroundings, they may experience culture shock. Sometimes it is the result of losing their identity. In the article “The Phases of Culture Shock”, Pamela J. Brink and Judith Saunders describe four phases of culture shock. They are: Honeymoon Phase, Disenchantment Phase, Beginning Resolution Phase, and Effective Function Phase. These phases denote some of the stages that exemplify culture shock. The four phases are illustrated in the articles “New Immigrants: Portraits in Passage” by Thomas Bentz, “Immigrant America: A Portrait” by Alejandro Portes and Ruben G. Rumbaut, “When I Was Puerto Rican” by Esmeralda Santiago, “Today’s Immigrants, Their Stories” by Thomas Kessner and Betty Boyd Caroli, and lastly, “The New Americans: Immigrant Life in Southern California” by Ulli Steltzer, and are about the experiences of some immigrants. This essay will examine the four phases of culture shock and classify the experiences of these immigrants by the different phases of culture shock identified.
came into her family heritage that she should get anything that she wants from her mom. In
saying that she “Has no idea at all.” This is because although it would be fairly trivial for her
...earning from her mother, she will define herself as well. Indeed, it is not easy growing up. It is painfully hard to defy the person that you most admire, in this case her father. But at some point in our young lives we must break free from the conformity of our parents' world in order to give birth to our "self." This is what Alice Munro shows us through "Boys and Girls."
The parent would want the child to make a decision based on what would be the best for them rather than just what the child would want to do. This encourages him to make an independent decision base...
In The Girl in the Tangerine Scarf, for example, Kahf writes that, “Wajdy and Ebtehaj always viewed their stay in America as temporary […] But the return kept getting postponed” (Kahf 131). Throughout the story, something always gets in the way of Khadra’s family returning home, whether it is their children obtaining a college degree or the need to do more work at the Dawah Center. Similarly, in In Search of Fatima, Ghada explains that, “Neither of [their] parents wanted to integrate [them] into British society, even if they had been able to. [Their] father regarded [their] stay in England principally as a means of acquiring a good education” (Ghada 207). Consequently, the families, and the parents especially, feel isolated from society in their new homes. Especially in Ghada’s case, the reader observes how the children, who naturally become more integrated thanks to their education in the school system, begin to feel less close to their parents. Indeed, this characteristic of both Khadra and Ghada’s families demonstrates the unique situation in which many Muslim migrants find themselves. For some, their move is seen as temporary at the beginning, which provides no incentive to integrate. However, this ultimately makes their lives in the new country more difficult and
In the text, Refugee and Immigrant Children: A Comparison, it says, “Several key characteristics affect the adaptation of refugee children…,” (Fantino and Colak 587-596). Refugees are affected by many factors when adapting to their new home/life. “She volunteers to tutor us all. My time with her will be right after school. I’m afraid to tell her how much help I’ll need,” (Lai 165). Ha is now going to be tutored by her neighbor, but she is embarrassed to tell her that she needs a lot help. As a refugee she has to accept the fact that she needs to learn English, meaning she shouldn’t be embarrassed to ask for help, especially from Miss. Washington. “I refuse to retrieve the pouches, pout, go to bed, stare at the photograph of a real papaya tree, wonder if I’ll ever taste sweet, tender, orange flesh again,” (Lai 233). Ha is not content with the photograph of the real papaya tree, she wants to taste that sweet and tender papaya that she grew back in Vietnam. She has to adapt to the fact that she will never have a slice of the papayas that she grew back in Vietnam. There are many characteristics that affects refugees adaptation, which causes their lives to turn inside