How Communicating Has Impacted My Social Life

Communicating is an essential necessity of our daily life. We spend eighty percent of our day communicating. We need it as part of our life in order to function properly. Or else, the lack of it will bring to physical and mental disfunction. However, as a matter of fact that people are unable to address the exact same ideas which they have intended to express successfully and effectively. What you think is only what you think. The reality might not be the same. Therefore, people spend a large of portion of their time through life just to create misunderstandings. This is why numerous conflicts can be generated among people everyday. Nevertheless, after attending speech 10, three major concepts have improved and benefited my social life. They

He said he did not know how to explain, and it was just Iike that I go out without bring my brain. The explanation was so vague that I didn't quite get the point. During the classes, we have learned the chapter of perceiving others. It teaches us how the factors such as the making snap judgements, our self-expectations, or the obvious can prevent us from perceiving others more correctly. Thus, the tool of perceiving others more accurately which we learned in class was helpful for me. I used the method of building empathy, which is "the ability to recreate another person's perspective, to experience the world from his or her point of view"(textbook,chapter 4). So I tried to try to see the situation from his perspective. The it is clear to me that it can be the reason which I am straightforward and always say what I want to say without concerning if it can be unpleasant for other people. "We usually judge ourselves more charitably than we do others."(chapter 4) Personally, I think my personality as honesty and sincere. But not everybody can be like my childhood friends in China who has known me and all my personalities for a long time. It is "ludicrous to act some way with strangers as you do with close

This requires me to form a new self-concept. I have to shape new different identities which I will decide which one to reveal under different circumstances. It is not that i have to become a hypocrite. Although it is realistic to say this, we will meet a large amount of people through life, and it is essential for me to classify them to different categories. Not everyone can be your true friends. If I accidentally classify wrong, then it will be the tragedy like that night. And I should also learn how to act and say the right things. This is when the chapter 3 in our textbook can be brought to use. It teaches us how to manage impressions. For example, the manner we showed during the conversation plays a crucial role. I need to choose careful wording of message instead of saying what I want even if it is the true. Many times people are not actually fond of the truth. The situation also differ the choice of words. I should show serious and reliable image if it is a business meeting, while being nice and easy-going if it is a friends' meeting. Compliments can be a good way of leaving a good impression on others since people like being complimented. But it does not mean I have to lie, I can develop the ability to sense others' merits. Moreover, physical appearance although plays a crucial part of impressions. The way we look and dress can easily influence first impression. As long as I dress tidy and