College is a prime example of how forgetting how hard it is to make friends with complete strangers after being friends with the same people for years in high school. Friendship is a meticulous concept that can be extremely rewarding if both parties put in equal effort. Social penetration is the idea that intimacy with someone else is a process that slowly evolves through the gradual exposure of one’s personal information according to Griffin (2012.) This theory is often compared to an onion because of the layers are similar to the different levels of self-disclosure that create new levels of closeness. Almost any relationship can be evaluated using the Social Penetration Theory with the exception of people such as family members. Just in …show more content…
All I really knew about this girl is that she went to Ohio State as well because of OSU’s roommate finder. Ten or so years ago this process might have been a lot scarier but today, there is Facebook. The ability to chat with my future roommate before actually meeting did a lot more good than I expected. Sometimes after first meeting someone, there is a period of awkwardness where you want to get to know them better but you just don’t know quite how. Facebook allowed my roomie and I to get all the awkwardness out of the way very quickly. The chats started off very simple; small talk allowed us to seem interested in each other while remaining polite. Once we knew all the basics about each other past names, hometowns and college majors, it was a bit confusing where to go next. I wanted my roommate to feel like I was genuinely interested in getting to know her without her thinking I was being to forward or pushy about personal questions. Our next step was interests. It was somewhat difficult to explain your likes to someone not in person. It’s much easier to really tell how much someone likes something by the way they talk about it, that aspect just wasn’t there through a screen. Nevertheless, we continued on about what we had done this summer and the excitement of the upcoming school …show more content…
I had never been one to believe that relationships can be just through the keyboard but I think it was the mindset that we would soon be living together that helped our online friendship blossom. Soon after that first day we slowly started talking about pretty much anything and everything. Once again it started off as things like friends back home and childhood memories. In a week or so it was problem solving boy issues and sharing nail polish. After the third week of living together, more serious topics came up. We were able to talk about the recent death of my childhood dog, the passing of grandparents and even our hopes and dreams for after
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From a young age, most people have gone through many relationships with other people who were not their family. Thus, we often acknowledge these relationships as friendships. But the word friend is too broad, so people categorize their friends into several types. In her book “Necessary Losses: The Lovers, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow”, Judith Viorst divided friendships into six types. Those are convenience friends, special interest friends, historical friends, crossroad friends, cross-generational friends and close friends.
Non-verbal cues play a big part in genuine friendship. It’s a lot harder to hide these cues in the real world where they can be easily picked up by a close friend, rather than online where you can easily hide your emotions. This makes the real world friendship more genuine and truthful (Cocking and Matthews, 2000, p. 228).
The Social Penetration Theory (SPT) by Irwin Altman and Dalmas Taylor (1973) provides a framework for describing the development of interpersonal relationships between individuals. During the development, SPT explains the way of two individuals communicate and how the relationship evolve from superficial to intimate and vice versa. Onion analogy is commonly used in explaining SPT in depth that people personalities are much like onions, made up of many layers. The theory of social penetration works when people gradually peel off one layer of their personality at a time until the core of the personality is reached. During the interpersonal development along two related dimensions which are breadth (number of topics used to discuss) and depth
We started talking about ourselves, what chapter we were from, how cool we thought Dad Ullom’s mustache was, what we were going to be doing all week and any topic that came up through our conversation. We started laughing and getting more comfortable, slowly trying to remember each others name and faces. There was an air of certainty, a reassuring feeli...
We walked and talked about silly things for the first 4 sessions. I then asked her what she really wanted to talk about. It was the food issue she had, in connection to exercise (Ok, she has opened the door to discuss the
The purpose of this essay is to show the Social Penetration theory is depicted in the “Take a Seat, Make a Friend Video”. Irwin Altman and Dalmas Taylor coined the term, Social penetration which can be described as a “process of developing intimacy with another person through mutual self-disclosure and other forms of vulnerability”. In this essay, I plan to report how this video was used to depict social penetration, self-disclosure, and the first step in social penetration theory.
My relationship with e-mail started like a Romeo/Juliet conspiracy. I experimented with the Net on the sly at night when the rest of my family was sleeping. That's when I first created my own screen name. Although I was too young to drive, the locked doors of adolescence were suddenly flung open before me. I could be social in the evening rather than hang out with my family-the typical family that every adolescent wants to escape from. Hanging out in chat rooms became a nightly ritual. I quickly found friends who would meet me there, give advice for my adolescent problems, and discuss things such as dating, theater, religion, morals, and entertainment. I began to form emotional attachments with these new friends. In fact, I maintained two online relationships for over two years.
After doing more research in the impact of technology on interpersonal relation, I realized that technology isn’t all that great, because it hinder us from socializing practically and create a healthy interpersonal relationship. In like manner, the same goes for online dating because in my opinion, effective communication still needs to be done in person. Body language, voice tone, and physical contact make a huge difference in making conversation more alive.
I asked her about how difficult it was to talk to patients as they go through chemo-therapy. She seemed to have a positive response, telling me that its hard at times, but patients need to comprehend what the treatment does to their body. What I think I need to improve on for the future, is how I went about asking so many questions towards my contact. I consistently kept asking questions with little response about myself and what I was interested in. I think that my contact did not really understand much information about me because of my bombardment of questions. Next time I do talk to a professional in the health-care field, I will start off by paraphrasing more about myself to
to the core concept of one’s own self” (Pennington, 2008, p.6). Due to social networking, the idea of moving through the onion layers is nonexistent. Upon become “Facebook friends” with someone, one can find out where that person is from ,whom they have dated, where they were last night, and what is their family’s favorite Christmas tradition. Of course, the sender of the friend request is not at fault, because society struggles with “what is private vs. what is public”. The research done suggests that by looking to the natural views of how the social penetration theory society has evolved that two things result; (1) we have different concepts of public vs....
The social penetration theory states that the closer two people become, the deeper their connection
Although this may be true-with studies showing that only one-third of people who make bonds online actually meet in person, that does not mean that internet friends do not develop an emotional connection. Shelley Anstey, an author who wrote module 3: online personal relationships, believes that “textually conveyed information about persons and their characteristics will accumulate” (on-line). She insists that this is because people who are communicating online are driven to form social relationships. Sharing personal information on the web can create the same bond as sharing it off it. The “Journal of Social and personal relationships” did a study on the quality of online and offline relationships and compared the findings in time intervals. For the research, 38 newsgroups were randomly selected and given a questionnaire about online friendships. The report came to the conclusion that over time, the bonds created online have a higher quality and a better personal relationship than those made offline. “in other words, relationships developed online can also become personal, if given time, and become relational partners”(young,
The more we tried to change up the conversation, the more interesting it got. He asked me what were my plans for the day and off the top of my head, I couldn’t think of anything to say. I am gonna have some soup he said, some traditional haitian pumpkin soup. He was worried about me, he knew I might be alone for the rest of the day so asked if I was gonna have some soup at a friends’ house.
I was completely nervous. I knew absolutely no one in my class besides Kayla. Even she didn’t talk to me much. I remembered my mom had told me to try to at least be sociable and make new friends. Next class I had, I tried to befriend Shea Vogt. She had seemed pretty nice and fun, so I decided to go for it, besides, she sat at the same table I was at! I had to at least try.