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Hooking is replacing dating with casual sexual encounters, the purpose of the study is to find out if hooking up is becoming this new norm, and what the consequences of this will be on both men and women. The practice of hooking up is not new it first started happening more often after the baby boomers and the sexual revolution. Where birth control was easier to access. Hooking up isn’t always finding a guy or a girl having a night of wild sex, the sociologist cuts in into three categories. The first is you met a random girl at a party and they make out, the second is it leads to oral sex, the third it goes all the way to a home run. On a college campus the people with the easiest access with alcohol are the fraternity men according to …show more content…

They are just looking for a good time, that goodtime may result in sleeping another bed that night or just meeting new people.The hookup encounter for the majority of the time results in a wanting for a relationship less than 50% of the time. The lasting effect of hooking up may be negative, what we are seeing happening is many women are losing the ability to look at themselves with self-esteem instead they are always dressing to appear hot to men. Relationships take a lot of time that the majority of women do not have, boyfriends want to much out of the girlfriend wanting them to drop everything at a moment 's notice to spend time with him/her. With the amount of school work put upon each students this is difficult to do. To concur school takes up a large portion of time finding time to have a girlfriend is difficult to do. It is much easier finding one at a party and hooking up with …show more content…

Abuse makes both men and women hesitant to go back into a relationship. Women have a different experience with sexual encounters when it comes to hookups Vs. relationships, when a women is hooking up sexually the woman is wanting both parties to be sexually satisfied in the encounter. While the man is being selfish and only thinking about himself, resulting in poor sexual satisfaction for the woman. While in a relationship both parties care about each other so each puts forth more effort resulting in a better sexual encounter. The women is more likely to orgasm when the sex is in a relationship vs a hook up. Another negative in a relationship is sometimes the men become too controlling and the woman does not want to leave so the relationship becomes worse overtime. I have seen this happen to too many girls where they fear breaking up with they boyfriend because they feel attached and the fear of

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